Author Topic: Boyfriend found out? (Read 1987 times)

pennypittstop · « **on:** 15 February 2015, 11:13:36 am »

Hi everyone. I was just wondering if any of you had been in the same situation as this.

I met a guy at work and we started seeing each other. The conditions of the relationship were that I had to stop working, and because I really liked the guy I said of course I would. However, I'm not in the same financial situation as he is and had to go back to work but of course I didn't tell him. He found out about a week ago and now flits between wanting nothing to do with me and emailing me horrid messages about how I've ruined his life and how I'm just a filthy whore etc. I know it's a little sad that I'm so bothered but I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar situation?

Thanks,
Penny.

MsDee · « **Reply #1 on:** 15 February 2015, 12:16:43 pm »

Walk away before it gets any worse, you need to be very careful how you handle it. If he is reacting like this now how is he going to react whenever you guys have an argument.

Miss K xXx · « **Reply #2 on:** 15 February 2015, 01:11:16 pm »

Quote from: pennypittstop on 15 February 2015, 11:13:36 am

Hi everyone. I was just wondering if any of you had been in the same situation as this.

I met a guy at work and we started seeing each other. The conditions of the relationship were that I had to stop working, and because I really liked the guy I said of course I would. However, I'm not in the same financial situation as he is and had to go back to work but of course I didn't tell him. He found out about a week ago and now flits between wanting nothing to do with me and emailing me horrid messages about how I've ruined his life and how I'm just a filthy whore etc. I know it's a little sad that I'm so bothered but I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar situation?

Thanks,
Penny.

They ALWAYS find out! You can't do this job and keep it a secret.....for long!

Plus he sounds like a bit of an idiot (no offence) for meeting you in this line of work, telling you to stop THEN having the cheek to call you a whore!

Your better off without him, I know it's easier said than done though.

xx

saturnspirit · « **Reply #3 on:** 15 February 2015, 03:15:47 pm »

Break all contact off with him. Block his txts, emails etc , delete his number

I remember giving work up for a guy. He was earning over ?100,000 a year. I gave up work for him and then was on my arse. Was looking for work in a normal job and couldn't find any. I ended up not even being able to afford tampons!

He paid for food and things but it's dead embarrassing asking for him to buy tampons coz you cant afford them!

In the end I couldn't cope being so skint and had to go back to work and of course he found out and I had all the slapper shit! He promised he would financially support me until I found a job and guess what it never happened! Just buy me food and that's it!

It really hurt me all the your a slapper txts etc. And he was shagging around behind my back anyway!

Best you find out now what a horrible guy he is. As you working whether present or in the past will always be thrown up in an arguments.

Never walk away from this job unless it's 100 percent what you want! Not just for some guy. Leave this job when you and you alone are ready as you will always resent your boyfriend in the end.

Work out how much money you lost whilst not working and write it down. Remind yourself how much money you lost every time your missing your boyfriend and you will soon feel glad your out of the relationship.

Throw yourself into work and forget about him and his nasty comments.

Midsstudent · « **Reply #4 on:** 15 February 2015, 03:20:54 pm »

Cut him off completely, he just wants to make you suffer. Don't let him.

Work hard and take yourself on a fantastic holiday somewhere. Get a tan, have cocktails and realise how awesome your life is without him. *hugs*

bigbird · « **Reply #5 on:** 16 February 2015, 12:12:15 am »

Hi,
I really feel for you, I have been in this situation a few times and its not fun...I didn't actually give up my work but cut it right down mainly because I was struggling to cope emotionally with being in what I thought was going to be a serious long-term relationship and this occupation, how wrong was I

Apart from the huge financial loss I was left with no confidence and was so devastated I shut myself away for 6 months, would never give up my work for anyone now unless there was a guarantee of solid financial support for all the time I was in the relationship.

BBW Joi Parker · « **Reply #6 on:** 16 February 2015, 03:48:55 am »

Quote from: saturnspirit on 15 February 2015, 03:15:47 pm

Break all contact off with him. Block his txts, emails etc , delete his number

I remember giving work up for a guy. He was earning over ?100,000 a year. I gave up work for him and then was on my arse. Was looking for work in a normal job and couldn't find any. I ended up not even being able to afford tampons!

He paid for food and things but it's dead embarrassing asking for him to buy tampons coz you cant afford them!

In the end I couldn't cope being so skint and had to go back to work and of course he found out and I had all the slapper shit! He promised he would financially support me until I found a job and guess what it never happened! Just buy me food and that's it!

It really hurt me all the your a slapper txts etc. And he was shagging around behind my back anyway!

Best you find out now what a horrible guy he is. As you working whether present or in the past will always be thrown up in an arguments.

Never walk away from this job unless it's 100 percent what you want! Not just for some guy. Leave this job when you and you alone are ready as you will always resent your boyfriend in the end.

Work out how much money you lost whilst not working and write it down. Remind yourself how much money you lost every time your missing your boyfriend and you will soon feel glad your out of the relationship.

Throw yourself into work and forget about him and his nasty comments.

Im in a similar situation and I guilt trip about it 1234567890 times a day. Whenever I tell my bf not havingna job/$ is stressful he tells me he's gonna take care of me but then when we have conversations about our future he says things like "I can be a lot of things but I can't be broke" or sometimes hell say things like "when are you gonna take me out. I'm tired of taking you out"

Because of this I know I will have to go back to work. On top of that, idk how I'm gonna work (literally) around him as he works at home and rarely goes anywhere.

Teddy Bear · « **Reply #7 on:** 16 February 2015, 12:56:39 pm »

My now husband tried this on me a few years ago when we were newly dating, I escorted for an agency at the time and he was the driver assigned to me. He was more than aware of what our job entailed and he tried this emotional blackmail once we became serious, I told him my job is who I am and if he claims to love me then he loves my job. He's been my husband for the past 2 years so that is an indication of what his response was, if he'd 'forced' me to quit I would've walked and he wouldn't have seen me for dust and rightly so. We have rough days but for the most part he is the most supportive man I've ever known who fully supports my career as an escort and knows it's 'just a job'. Find a guy who is happy with your job and loves you for who you are or show them the door, end of.

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