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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #15 on: 13 July 2013, 10:24:02 pm »
He wont get a job because of the same reason i wont get a 9 - 5 job so i can't force him to because that would be hypercritical.

No it wouldn't. He could get a job - any job - to bring in SOMETHING. Just a couple of days work would pay a few bills, or half the rent, or anything really so that he's not a cock lodger (thanks ParisB!) or a scrounger, or just a plain simple useless twat.

Tell him that you can no longer pay him an "allowance" as he is breaking the law by benefitting from immoral earnings (I can't actually remember the relevant law! *bangs head on desk*).

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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #16 on: 13 July 2013, 10:25:51 pm »
...I guess you could say cut him off but then what would that mean for my job as an escort? I like this job, it's beneficial to say the least XD.

What has he got to do with it? If you split up with him, you could just continue as an escort ???

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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #17 on: 13 July 2013, 11:05:31 pm »
Tell him that you can no longer pay him an "allowance" as he is breaking the law by benefitting from immoral earnings (I can't actually remember the relevant law! *bangs head on desk*).

It's living on immoral earnings. That's what it used to be. Now it's called control for gain, and is applied in the same and similar circumstances. Usually directed at brothel owners, but a search will reveal that the police do prosecute partners if they feel so inclined. It's quite complicated, but basically if you live or co-habit with someone but not married they can be prosecuted. AFAIK It sometimes happens to housemates who have little or no knowledge of what is going on. Maximum sentence is I think seven years. If he can't show he is earning then he has little or no defence. Could be serious if you were investigated. I don't know what others will think, but I think it would probably be wise to get him to leave for that reason alone. You need to take advice for a definitive assessment of the risk. My guess is that it is illegal for you to give him any of your earnings or support him, and he could end up in jail as a result.



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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #18 on: 13 July 2013, 11:41:10 pm »
It's living on immoral earnings. That's what it used to be. Now it's called control for gain, and is applied in the same and similar circumstances. Usually directed at brothel owners, but a search will reveal that the police do prosecute partners if they feel so inclined. It's quite complicated, but basically if you live or co-habit with someone but not married they can be prosecuted. AFAIK It sometimes happens to housemates who have little or no knowledge of what is going on. Maximum sentence is I think seven years. If he can't show he is earning then he has little or no defence. Could be serious if you were investigated. I don't know what others will think, but I think it would probably be wise to get him to leave for that reason alone. You need to take advice for a definitive assessment of the risk. My guess is that it is illegal for you to give him any of your earnings or support him, and he could end up in jail as a result.

Living off immoral earnings was abolished in 2003. So unless a boyfriend/partner/husband that lives with you actually CONTROLS or COERCES they are fine. no helping with any aprt of the business and all is dandy. Lots of ladies live with partners.


OP-I think it is hard when we can earn a fair bit and yet are not working long hours. If a partner kept the house clean, shopped, dealt with all housey stuff, I'd be happy with them doing some work from home for 16hrs all things considered. Even something 'paltry' like ebaying.
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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #19 on: 14 July 2013, 12:19:58 am »
I actually pay for some trips for me and my boyfriend like ascot or some short holidays around Europe but I would never expect him being home and expecting money from me. We share the rent and Bills and he always moans when I bring up a holiday trip he can't afford and I say I pay it. I think u need a balance or kick your boy out.

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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #20 on: 14 July 2013, 10:58:04 am »
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He wont get a job because of the same reason i wont get a 9 - 5 job so i can't force him to because that would be hypercritical.

Ok, you didn't like the 9 to 5 so you decided to go the "self-employed route" (which is still a job, and a hard one) but he decided  to go the "no employed route" (or let's just have my girlfriend work for me" route). Think in all the money you've spend on him all this time. You could have invested into a private pension or a mortgage and you would be a home owner at this point. Seriously... is it worth it supporting a man? Do you think he would still stick with you if you "closed the money tap" and he had to make a living for himself?
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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #21 on: 14 July 2013, 05:04:26 pm »
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He wont get a job because of the same reason i wont get a 9 - 5 job so i can't force him to because that would be hypercritical.



...I guess you could say cut him off but then what would that mean for my job as an escort? I like this job, it's beneficial to say the least XD.

What has he got to do with it? If you split up with him, you could just continue as an escort ???


Now this thread is beginning to sound like the OP is making excuses as to why not put steps in place to improve the situation. You know the saying... Why waste others time if they don't want to help themselves. Leading me to think what was the point of posting this topic to begin with.

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Re: My boyfriend expects a cut in my earnings. How to cut him off?
« Reply #22 on: 14 July 2013, 08:19:22 pm »
It is hard when one earns more than their partners and there is nothing wrong treating and helping every now and again.


But this man is a straight up SCRUB.