I have read posts on here about keeping boundaries but wanted feedback about my situation as havent done this job for long, only a few months.
One of my regulars I see has offered to take me out for dinner a few times and i said I would like that but when the time was right as I need to sort my life out first.
We get on great and i can tell him anything. Gave him my personal number and told him my real name plus lots of personal things about me. He is the loveliest guy i have met. Sex is great too.
Also moved to a new city so dont know many people here.
We dont want a relationship but I am thinking of going on a dinner date for no money. He will book a hotel and pay me for time in the room but cannot afford paying for time at dinner which is fine by me as he is paying for everything and I enjoy his company.
Has anyone done this on a regular basis and kept the client.

No. I don't want to sound negative but by telling him personal information and being so comfortable and open with him it sounds like you have put yourself in a vulrauble position. Not only this but to then start giving him free time and let him think you would consider dating him in the future it sounds like a potential disaster... Please be careful.

not to be a Debbie downer but you need to be waaay more careful with your information.
There are so many "lovely" clients who "want to date you and know your real name! And get to know you on a personal level!" especially when you are NEW.

So that they can push your boundaries and get time from you for free
I've always operated on the basis that Clients are not friends. They can think they have a friendship with you but they are not your friends.  This seems really harsh and I'm so sorry but it's the best way to protect yourself because at the end of the day you are just an escort to them. You don't know these people and what they're capable of. Let's say you have a fight one day. How do you know he won't blackmail you with your personal info?

They can't even give their wives/partners who they've been with for years etc loyalty so why do you think that you are going to get that loyalty or respect? Never give your real name. Give a fake real name.


I'm "retired now" but I'm now dating a former "client" BUT he never asked me for my real name! He never asked for ANY personal information and because I'm a super cautious bitch I was so hard to get to know!  He never asked me to spend time with him for free! He always insisted in paying well over what I actually charged!
he never spoke any bollocks about not being able to afford to pay for my time to take me to dinner (sorry!). He was super over the top respectful and still stuck around even though I attempted to cut him out of my life multiple times.

Please be careful. It's okay if you don't want to charge him for dinner etc but with your personal information! Your name etc be careful. A few months is not enough time to get to know someone's this industry especially

There are a group of predatory men, who specifically look out for escorts, who are seen as newcomers and possibly, seen as someone isolated and lonely.  These men know which emotional buttons to press, to get the results.   

We have never talked about having a relationship but we get on so well and I enjoy every minute with him. In two minds now based on the feedback.
The way I see it is one dinner date I know will be fun but he will still see me as a client. He is not looking for a relationship.
He is a bit older than me too but looks much younger we really click.   

It is possible to have a relationship with a former client, but I would tread warily. And I know it's too late, but I would never tell a client my real name etc.

I only told him my first name and he never asked I just told him not sure why but feel totally comfortable with him and trust him. Also he has provided emotional support and given me lots of advice

But he's asking you to go with him for dinner free of charge hmm....... (alarm bells ringing), next time he may ask you to spend the weekend with him for half the price because you know... he's paying for the plane ticket and hotel and he doesnt have enough money to pay you...

(did i just won the bitter whore award of the year 2017?)

But he's asking you to go with him for dinner free of charge hmm....... (alarm bells ringing), next time he may ask you to spend the weekend with him for half the price because you know... he's paying for the plane ticket and hotel and he doesnt have enough money to pay you...

(did i just won the bitter whore award of the year 2017?)

I had that last month with a guy id seen before but found the offer of accompanying him on his business trip abroad for 2 days for 500 a insult, iv only ever done a cheaper meet with a reg, 15 min price for half hour as id had a quiet day and it was on my terms and my offer to him not the other way around, to the op just because he treats you like a princess now and tells you about himself dosnt mean its the truth or that he wont turn bitter if in months to come something isn't to his liking. But sounds you have made your mind up and now he knows your personal info theres no taking that back now