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ladyinred

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Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« on: 05 August 2016, 01:18:39 am »
[a punter] from aw send me an email requesting a booking... His emails sound ok, when I asked him to call me and confirm, he said he's deaf.
He has 3 feedbacks.
I'm very strict and every client needs to call me before the booking...
I just think the booking will be extremely awkward and uncomfortable.
How will I go through this booking?
Do you think it's genuine or is he trying to see me without having the conversion on the phone ? I might have declined his booking some time ago... I'm just saying that because some guys would get another number to call me if I declined their booking.
« Last Edit: 05 August 2016, 01:32:56 am by amy »

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #1 on: 05 August 2016, 01:32:02 am »
I've had a booking with a deaf gentleman and he was absolutely lovely.

He could talk though and I was under the impression that deaf people could speak a little (excuse my ignorance if I'm wrong) although he was somewhat muffled. Obviously, he lipread too so the booking went well.

I wouldn't be able to accept any booking if I couldn't speak to the client though as I don't accept bookings by text or email.

It's a tricky one LIR  :-\


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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #2 on: 05 August 2016, 01:38:54 am »
I wonder if any of you ladies have had the 'Can't read' guy...Apparently he can't understand whats on offer because he can't read!! How convenient for HIM! *rolls eyes*

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #3 on: 05 August 2016, 01:39:51 am »
I'm deaf in one ear and partly in the other, and whilst I struggle on the phone (I can only answer when there's no background noise whatsoever, and with my 'good' ear) I don't have too much difficulty in person provided it's a one-to-one situation and again, depending on the background noise and how clearly the other person speaks/how well I can lip read them. I sometimes have to ask people to look at me when they're speaking but that's all, and most people don't even notice until we go out into a public place.

It's worth remembering that there are varying degrees of deafness - very few people are completely and profoundly deaf, and most can use the phone to some degree. If somebody can't and you're not comfortable with it, then turn them down like you would anybody else but there's likely a way round it :).

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #4 on: 05 August 2016, 01:43:54 am »
I'm not sure why this would be considered creepy?

Why not ask him politely through email how communication would work between you both during the booking? Just explain it's a first for you and you want to be aware of how best to approach so it's an enjoyable time for you both. If you're still not satisfied or feel that you may be uncomfortable just say you don't think you're the right person to take the booking and wish him well. I think it's worth giving the benefit of the doubt in some cases. If he is genuine and you decide not to take the booking, I'm sure he'd still appreciate the fact you took the time to see if you could meet his needs.


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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #5 on: 05 August 2016, 02:08:00 am »
It would be difficult (not impossible) if he couldn't speak at all. Katrina, at least he can write and read....

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #6 on: 05 August 2016, 02:51:24 am »
I have the same policy about speaking on the phone, but I saw a (partially) deaf man who sent me lots of information via email, including a face pic, even though I never asked for one! As it turned out, he could speak perfectly clearly and seemed to understand everything I said, and there were no issues at all in the booking. So, perhaps it's a case of trying to meet him half way?
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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #7 on: 05 August 2016, 08:02:54 am »
It would not be possible to receive a booking with a deaf person as they need to be talked to my location.

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #8 on: 05 August 2016, 08:12:56 am »
I wonder if any of you ladies have had the 'Can't read' guy...Apparently he can't understand whats on offer because he can't read!! How convenient for HIM! *rolls eyes*
I've had him I think? I wouldn't see a client I hadn't spoken to on the phone. X
« Last Edit: 05 August 2016, 08:23:32 am by Nia Hope »
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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #9 on: 05 August 2016, 08:45:32 am »
I would consider this if his written comms were good.

I've had a few problems with deaf clients, one of whom I did meet but found on subsequent appointments it was taking 30-40 minutes of back and forth constant texting to set up, which was very difficult considering he was asking me to see him at short notice, and I was trying to get back home so I could get ready. All I needed was to know when and how long for, but somehow he managed to string it out.

Other enquiries claiming to be deaf have starting going off into realms of 'can you describe this, will you do this service which you don't offer..........' fantasy, sexting land.

So succinct good comms, yes I can do it. Taking the P, no I do not. This goes for able bodied, deaf, disabled, whomever.

Taking the P, no I cannot.

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #10 on: 05 August 2016, 09:32:24 am »
My only concern would be directing them to my flat

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« Reply #11 on: 05 August 2016, 12:00:12 pm »
I had a guy who contacted me who had been in an accident who told me he couldn't speak or hear and could only use written communication. I declined his booking as he seemed to expect multiple emails and texts prior to meeting. I would also have the same problem directing him to my flat as I never give the full address to clients I know they are on my street.

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #12 on: 05 August 2016, 04:10:17 pm »
My only concern would be directing them to my flat

I would also be concerned if they can't hear/understand "No" and "Stop" and "You're hurting me" etc if they can't lipread/see my face.

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #13 on: 05 August 2016, 04:29:54 pm »
I would also be concerned if they can't hear/understand "No" and "Stop" and "You're hurting me" etc if they can't lipread/see my face.

Yeah, there are enough issues with non-disabled people.

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Re: Booking with a deaf person - would that be creepy?
« Reply #14 on: 05 August 2016, 04:57:52 pm »
I would also be concerned if they can't hear/understand "No" and "Stop" and "You're hurting me" etc if they can't lipread/see my face.

Agreed hand signals or a tap on the arm/shoulder/headboard work fine for this. I sometimes have to tell clients that if I'm not facing them I'm unlikely to hear anything they say unless they speak loudly and clearly (which they don't tend to do whilst shagging), so if they want a position change or something it's fine to just tap me on the shoulder.

In my experience, if somebody doesn't care about hurting you or doing something that isn't allowed, they're unlikely to care how you communicate it.