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jko

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S&M Night with client
« on: 08 March 2012, 11:32:07 pm »
One of my regular clients is really into s&m - always him being dominant. I haven't been escorting very long so I don't think I can really pull off the dominant side yet - I'd love to because I bet it's quite empowering and it's strange that despite being a bit of a control freak and fiercly independent in my none-escorting life I actually quite enjoy the submissive role! - something that I would never really have considered liking before escorting.

He would like to take me to an S&M night as his 'slave' and I'm quite intrigued because I think it's exciting trying new things and all of my escort 'dates' have been confined to the bedroom so far and are usually pretty standard. But I'm a little apprehensive and would love to hear some input/stories from girls that have been. I also don't want to appear inexperienced as I'm guessing most the people there will be pretty into it so any tips would be great.

Also I'm not sure on what to charge for this type of evening? I usually charge ?400 for 4hrs which I'm guessing it will be about that but I'm not sure if he expects me to do things with other people...He's a regular books 2hrs every week and a) genuinely have fun with him which is a first! and b) like the fact that he doesn't take it too seriously, has a giggle, is respectful and is always checking I'm ok and it's not painful etc so I want to be accomodating but obviously fun isn't my main motivation ;)

EvaBeeva

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Re: S&M Night with client
« Reply #1 on: 09 March 2012, 10:24:57 am »
It's not unusual for control freaks to prefer submission in the bedroom.  Sometimes it's nice to be told what to do.

Do you know about 'Safe Words'?  They are basically words you arrange with the other person to let them know that you are (a) uncomfortable or (b) unhappy.  These words are never 'No' or 'Stop' but rather 'Amber' 'Red' or 'Banana', or anything incongruous.

Also, I know you feel safe with this man, but it's still not a good idea to let him tie you up in such a way that you can't untie yourself.  Sometimes people have fantasies in their heads which aren't achievable in real life, you don't want to take a risk of things ending badly and losing a good client and your trust.

Re: pricing.  Ask him about other people.  The chances are it will just be the two of you, but if not, add on another 100. 

Good luck.
 

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