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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #30 on: 19 December 2011, 10:01:47 am »
Really sorry to hear of this scottishgirl - my first thought was actually it must be a hoax as the grammer etc were so bad.

I would do what Penny advised, or ignore it, but what a little shit!  You don't recognise the number from anywhere at all?

Hope ur ok

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« Reply #31 on: 19 December 2011, 10:18:51 am »
I know it's easier said than done, but honestly, ignore it for now, COMPLETELY ignore it, and see if it stops. If it escalates rather than stops (not with what he says, words are cheap, but if a different approach is introduced) get the police involved. And make sure you follow your standard security procedures every booking.

The press don't care about 'exposing' everyday escorts - it doesn't sell papers, and leaves them on very dodgy ground in terms of libel. Unless you're mildly famous, they won't touch it with a barge pole. (If you are mildly famous, get on to Max Clifford pronto!)

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« Reply #32 on: 19 December 2011, 10:23:33 am »
If I got such a text I think I would bluff it out and say that you are in fact reporting them for harrassement.

I completely agree here, too. NOTW may have been a foul old rag but I doubt many of their former employees are now spending their time writing half-illegible threatening nonsense at escorts on AW (well, they may well be, but it would probably go more like, "i used 2 wrk @ notw but now i got no job so plzz can i hav a discount plz plz plz").

I would completely ignore these emails - don't respond just yet, as they're likely fishing for a response so that they can gauge whether or not you are frightened by them - but if you start getting calls and/or texts, then you really do have a case for reporting them for harassment so save everything you get, all texts and call records and numbers and voice descriptions and everything, so that you can pop down to the police station (possibly via a sex work project in your area if you're nervous about speaking directly to police by yourself) and make a report.

You're doing absolutely nothing wrong if you're working independently, although I know it's still hellishly stressful if you feel like you're being targeted. :( But trust me - those sorts of odd bullies rely on the fact that they can get your number and photos from your ads online while you don't know anything at all about them. It's probably a stupid teenager or a creepy weirdo in a basement, or even yes an escort who's so bad at her job she can't make any money unless she scares all her competition away, so I really expect it's nothing to worry about. Just wait it out and make sure to keep anything you receive from them so you can report them if they send anything else.

((hugs)) Do you have a security buddy/escort friend near you? It can really help to remind yourself that you're not alone, despite what the bullies want you to think, so do get in touch with friends and loved ones about this if you can.
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scottishgirl001

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« Reply #33 on: 19 December 2011, 12:22:43 pm »
Thanks girls, unfortunately its got worse.  After a terrible nights sleep and subsequently going back to bed for a long lie (and catch up)

I wakened to a text from my Landlord wanting a meeting about 'activities' going on at the flat.  I think I have delayed him till tomorrow.  Hopefully.

Going by the message in the text from the 'horrible man' I'm assuming the police are involved.  Don't know how this will work out as I am hardly ever there.

I'm going to have to find and look through all the legistlation I need for Scotland.
 :'(

Ps, I loved my wee flat.

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« Reply #34 on: 19 December 2011, 12:26:19 pm »
BTW ladies, thanks for your comments xxxx :-*

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« Reply #35 on: 19 December 2011, 03:06:12 pm »
This is awful for you Scotish girl.  I'm wondering how and why this has happened. Have you any idea at all who would committ such a sinister and pure evil act?  xx

thinking of you and hoping it works out as well as it can.  Couldn't have picked a worse time.

cate hemmingway

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« Reply #36 on: 19 December 2011, 06:12:39 pm »
 I've PM'd you.
Hope it helps,
Cate X

ladyjennaj

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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #37 on: 19 December 2011, 06:21:55 pm »
What is wrong with people? There are some really nasty buggers out there  :-\

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« Reply #38 on: 19 December 2011, 07:57:10 pm »
Wow, I'm shocked :o

I've been contacted by journalists before and they've always been charming and nice, mainly because they want you to open your big mouth and tell them things :P

It definitely sounds like someone is out to get you.  I've known girls to be harassed by other girls, I've also known clients to be harassed by girls.  Are there any girls around who would prefer you not be working?

I'm sorry you're worried about your flat, but the stress from the harassment really isn't worth it.  It's probably time to change flat, email and phone number.
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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #39 on: 19 December 2011, 08:01:31 pm »
I'm so sorry this is happening to you luv. My thoughts are with you. Make sure you go to the police babe, blackmail is illegal.

Take care

Luv Kate xx

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« Reply #40 on: 20 December 2011, 06:06:17 pm »
As others have said, this is really terrible and I'm sorry you're going through such a thing.

Is escorting not legal in Scotland? There's no way they can actually get the police involved as a serious threat if it is legal, as it is here... I'd have pointed out that (as I believe Emily said) Anon is the one doing something illegal, not yourself.

Hope that your meeting with the landlord doesn't go too badly and hope you find a way through all this. I can't even imagine the stress.

scottishgirl001

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« Reply #41 on: 22 December 2011, 11:02:42 am »
Hi,
just a wee update.  The landlords agents visited me yesterday (after making an appointment) and in a surprisingly nice way, evicted me.  They had lots of sympathy for me and were more concerned for my safety as the guy thats hounding me is a nasty piece of sh*t.

He'd be phoning them and hounding the Landlord, threatening him that he was going to expose him as 'gaining' from me.  He's a local guy and very respected and this was really upsetting him.  I had no idea that this had been going on for a  while with them and they had hoped he would stop but then the badguy was threatening the police and they had no option but to act.

He'd also sent them a portfolio of me, so there was no point in denying anything as all my websites and so on were on it.  So I am packing up today and out tonight.

I will be doing an ugly mug report about this.  My only concerns now are is, if I change my name and so on, will he continue to harrass me, in which case I think the police will be involved.

A piece of advice from me.  Any girls that have been longer term in an accomodation I would advise to move every year and not stay in the same place.  I think thats where I went wrong. 

Shitty news at this time of the year   :'(

Mellow

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« Reply #42 on: 22 December 2011, 11:18:42 am »
You can do a third party report to the police on him if you wanted to - your name wouldn't be involved.  I've had to do this so if you want details of where to go etc pm me


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« Reply #43 on: 22 December 2011, 12:34:02 pm »
I'm really sorry this has happened to you, Scottishgirl. :( I'm sickened at that man's behaviour, too. He's clearly completely insane - lying and making threatening phonecalls not just to you, but to your landlord?! What on EARTH is going on in his head?!

I would strongly recommend that, if you can, you chat to Mellow above about possible methods of alerting the police to this guy's behaviour. At least if they have a report on file, it could help in a future conviction should he repeat his behaviour with another person.

You could also get in contact with local projects or outreach groups - just for a little support. I can't remember if you've mentioned having escort friends nearby but no matter what, there's strength in numbers. I'd hate to think of you going through this alone. You haven't done anything to deserve being the victim of this nutcase and you shouldn't have to suffer further. ((hugs)) I hope you're okay. Please let us know here if there's anything else we can do.
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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #44 on: 22 December 2011, 04:04:32 pm »
Has he ever been a client?
Why has he gone mental on you.

Fraker is doing this for two reasons:
  • Fraker wants you out of that flat or immediate location.

        If it's this, then you leaving will have resolved this for him. Then all you need to do is:
        a) Move on with your life or
  • Fraker is out to get you

        Which means you have a much bigger problem that is not going away, any time soon.

Did you get the man's contact details from the agent?
Go back to them. Get everything info wise. You got evicted so you have nothing to loose.

Oh, read the headers from the emails he sent you.
These will show the originating IP address they were sent from.

You must find out who this person is and why they are doing this.

There are a zillion of escorts so its not a man who is
'Down on whores' (deliberate phrase) in general.
It was specific to you being in that flat or specific to you.
If the latter, that makes Fraker dangerous to you. They are not going to stop.
He physically threatened you: "when your phone rings be very careful"

You need to know what you are dealing with.

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