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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #15 on: 20 September 2011, 02:49:56 pm »
 yes you would be,  so that means that landlord has to give you  min of one months notice  (i think)  as after the six month period its becomes rolling tennancy  as in month to month  if you give notice try to do it when your rent is due as it can be less complicated doing it that way  rather than halfway through the month
  
Is your deposit in a bond ,  if so make sure you have all the paper work for it And make sure it is in a bond some landlords dont use them even though there supposed to   and check if you were given an  inventory just in case you have to leave with landlord knowing and landlord decides to elaborate on the cost of cleaning carpets repainting ect
take photos which are time dated ect if you have to leave and get landlord to check over flat with you there and agree on any thing that needs to be replaced ect

  
My friend handled all the contract side of things. We've been there just short of three years and I presume we're on what you refer to as a rolling contract (all paperwork is at the work flat and I'm at home at the mo so can't check).

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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #16 on: 20 September 2011, 02:50:35 pm »
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the cops anyhow (anonymously) for general advice only to be told by some disinterested nincompoop that prostitution is illegal - or at least that's what he remembers from his 'training' course.
   

I don't know what this "nincompoop" is doing sitting in a police station as he clearly doesn't know the laws he's supposed to enforce. Jeezz..

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lailah terri

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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #17 on: 20 September 2011, 03:23:50 pm »
what an idiot! I dont really have any advice, i just hope it gets sorted out soon. I wouldnt give in to this guy at all, sounds like a power hungry maniac. The more you give in to his threats the more powerful he feels and the more control you loose.

Dont let the guys at the station put you off, sounds like it was just a  rookie on the phones. I would try again in a few hours or so. The Law is the Law and being a WG isnt illegal, the law is there to protect us and blackmail is illegal, please dont let this idiot carry on, it could get worse. The likliehood is if he is doing this to you he may be doing a similar thing to other ladies.
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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #18 on: 20 September 2011, 04:45:53 pm »
We share the flat and all paperwork is in my friends name - know technically this is illegal but the law is an ass.  (We've both had coppers as clients  ;))

Yep, at least one of you is breaking the brothel laws, but it sounds like the local police don't care.

It's a bit late now, and I'm aware I'm saying this as not the person who was in the room with him, but...

Paid a tenner less then he should have done to keep quiet - he gave me no choice on the matter.  There followed a series of texts asking for a discounted session with my friend (who works from the same flat) at some time in the future,  to keep his lips sealed.  Felt we had no option but agree to this - again, a tenner off.

... this is where it went wrong. You're now in a position where you've given what he wanted, twice, and he will expect you to keep on doing that. It would have been better to have said 'fuck off' at the point where he started all this. Oh well.

Rang the cops anyhow (anonymously) for general advice only to be told by some disinterested nincompoop that prostitution is illegal - or at least that's what he remembers from his 'training' course.  :o  >:(

If you're in / near a large city, there should be a sex work project that should have contacts with someone in the police with more clue who doesn't confuse soliciting with prostitution. I'd recommend that way above some of the 'threaten them back' approaches above.

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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #19 on: 20 September 2011, 05:56:35 pm »
I don't know what area you are in, but in the area I'm from, there is  a special department for wg's to contact, they're not vice, they're there to help us and give advice.
They're based in Ipswich and their number is 01473 282352, and the person who's in charge is called Janet, she's brilliant, really straight talking and down to earth.
If you were to call her, I'm sure she would be able to tell you where the equivalent of this is in your area?
She'll take what you've got to say and won't try to fob you off like they seem to be doing at your local station.
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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #20 on: 20 September 2011, 06:26:48 pm »
If you're in / near a large city, there should be a sex work project that should have contacts with someone in the police with more clue who doesn't confuse soliciting with prostitution.

Seconded.  Get someone who knows what they're talking about (easier said than done, I know).

As for the steaming piece of shit who's blackmailing you, I am not endorsing this course of action but if it was me I'd tell him you've got him naked on CCTV (he doesn't know you don't have hidden cameras) and you're sure his wife/girlfriend/work colleagues would be very interested in the footage.  As for any 'freebies' to get his car numberplate, I understand why you want the numberplate but you could just arrange the booking and not answer the door when he arrives.  (Obviously, this only works if you can see his car out of the window from your incall place.)  But I would definitely not be giving him any more tenners off, never mind freebies  :o 

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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #21 on: 20 September 2011, 08:35:43 pm »
In reply to xw5 - it's hard to get the measure of someone you've just met.  All the while during the appt itself I was wondering how to play it/him....I could have just acted cool and demanded the extra tenner as though I wasn't bothered by the implicatons.  He might then have gone played snitch anyway, knowing there was no mileage in his demands and we'd have been instantly in the shit.   This concession at least (hopefully) avoided him telling tales immediately and bought a bit of thinking time.....

By the end of the booking, during which he had made comments to the effect that the landlord would find it a hoot (he wouldn't!), I could just envisage him with an alcohol loosened tongue exclaiming "Eh! Didn't realise you had a couple of hookers in one of your flats mate!"

Thanks for the Ipswich number - after the response of the so called copper who doesn't even know the law; my next thoughts were about what organisations in my area may know who best to talk to.

On a brighter note, I saw another client later that day.  (This tale will reveal my weakness re asking for the money up front).  I saw him to the door after his appointment and set about tidying up.  A minute later there was a knock on the door - he can't even have got out of the building as it's an entry phone system.  He'd returned to pay the fee (my mind was on other things  ::))

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« Reply #22 on: 21 September 2011, 08:44:11 pm »
Update - the last couple of days have been pretty stomach churning for me, but even more so for my friend who has far more at stake.  After yet another sleepless might she sent a text to the turd mentioning that she had clients who were business men with close connections to our landlord; that she is a qualified auditor with connections to the tax office (we have a strong hunch he's probably self assessed); that clients who also happen to be policemen are putting her in touch with a liaison officer and that she has many clients who would hate to see her upset......

She told him that all of the above are waiting for her  to send them pics of his van and copies of the texts he has sent - that is if it comes to that  ;)   As a final comment she casually mentioned the brothers and husband who are not yet aware of the situation.

There was no response for a while and then he rang her.  A fairly heated discussion ensued, but he rang again and a calmer conversation was had - he seems to have backed down at least for the time being.  However, we will still probably move, but in less of a panic than if this guy told all tomorrow.  He could now swear blind that he'll stay schtum but we all now how alcohol can loosen tongues and whatever his intentions it could still all go wrong.

Thanks for the Ipswich number - rang and Janet called me back.  Although the heat has gone out of the situation she's going to call again with a contact for my area, whether I need it now or in the future.

On another brighter note - a regular came to see me this evening.  He was regaled of my tale of woe.  When it came to paying he put down an extra tenner.  He said it was because he was way over his time.  I replied that that was only because he'd been kind enough to listen, that the over run was due to ME.  His response that it was also to compensate for the turd's underpayment.  It restores faith in most being decent, kind and caring.

Thanks again for all contributions to this thread - it has been much appreciated  :-*


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« Reply #23 on: 22 September 2011, 12:39:41 am »
:-)
That's lovely:-)
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Re: Blackmail
« Reply #24 on: 24 September 2011, 10:47:13 am »
awww thats really nice .... its not the tenner but the kind thought behind it,  hope you gave him an extra nice kissy :-*