Hey girls,
first off, I'd just like to say that this forum is an absolute godsend!! I'm soooo happy I found it, I've been browsing for a couple of days now feeling like I finally found a whole bunch of friends here <3
I've researched the forum and there's a ton of info here, but I'd still like to ask for advice (or perhaps rather reassurance).
I started escorting a month ago; as I'm a newbie I figured I'd try an agency first and my first one was an absolute nightmare. It was owned by a guy who would make the girls sleep with him for free; he'd call it 'training' or he'd claim to be a 'good friend' or whatever, so I got the hell out of there because it was absolutely unacceptable. The other 3 girls working there were 18-20 years old, I think the sleazebag was grooming them or something...anyway it was horrendous and I wish I never went there in the first place!!!
I then applied for a couple of agencies with super glossy websites, but the thing is, I'm a size 14 with lots of tattoos and long blonde dreadlocks so I was told my look was not what they were looking for.
So I decided to try a parlour. On the one hand, it was nice because the (female) owner was really friendly and supportive, and the other girls working there were lovely; the place was very nice and clean, I felt perfectly safe. But on a busy night, I'd see 8 - 12 clients, and usually more than half of them weren't exactly nice-super drunk and smelly, drunk and smelly, drunk and rude, or they'd push for services I don't do. Now the owner had no problem if I refused clients, but if I didn't want to do the super drunk or smelly ones I found I'd only get 2-3 per day, and usually 15min/half an hour ones so after paying my parlour fees I wasn't making much money at all.
I am now with an agency that likes variety and had no problem with my size, tattoos and dreadlocks; I've done 2 shifts with them and I think I'd do quite well, but I feel like they wouldn't be very happy if I declined bookings, they are sort of passive aggresively trying to make me do much more shifts than I want to, and though the manager is nice I'm not very happy paying them the 30% plus another 20% to the driver for outcalls. Plus, I'm 31 years old, I really hate putting up with bullshit from clients, I just feel like I don't have the patience for the weirdos, the rude ones and the ones who apparently are incapable of taking a shower.
So the only reasonable thing to do here is to go independent, obviously, but I'm a bit insecure if my looks would attract enough business. 100% of my parlour/agency clients loved me, in fact I already have a regular with my current agency after only 2 days there, so I think I'm pretty good at this and I do genuinely enjoy it if the client is nice, friendly, respectful and clean; I'm sure that they'll be happy with the experience once they see me, but the thing is, since I'm very alternative looking-how can I make sure they DO choose to see me in the first place?I'm very anxious about it. I know that variety is the key and that all shapes, sizes and looks attract clients but I still feel super insecure!!
And second-I'm still struggling with money. I was totally skint when I started, so I have paid off my rent debt etc by now and I have only saved a couple hundred pounds. My question is, should I stick with my current agency for another month or so to save enough $$$ for renting an incall appartment, getting good photos and website and having money for another month or two just in case the business will be slow, or should I just take the plunge, create an AW profile and only do outcalls for now, and hope for the best? I really really want to be able to choose my clients and working hours and keep all my earnings to myself, but at the same time, I am super anxious about not getting business and going skint again...
Any words of wisdom?
And sorry for the long post, I just really needed to get this off my chest...
Thanks guys!! Evie xxx