Ok...here's where I meant to place the link...you might want to read it http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=45.0

You're not going to believe what happened!!!

hey now, thats my line   

Hopefully I've made people at work think and done a little to destigmatize escorting for at least one person by proving that we really are just normal people making our way in the world just like everyone else. I hope this puts other escorts minds at ease too. Maybe the world isn't such a bad place

Thats the spirit. If one person doesnt have the courage to stand up for themselves, then how can anyone expect people to not view us in such a negative way? It makes a difference. But a word of caution...just because nothing was said one day doesnt mean it wont happen the next. Not to sound negative, but just keep your guard up and dont become complacent with the current atmosphere.

I'm glad it went well but also consider that the rumor may not have even reached all of them.  In my experiance if a rumor has legs it will last a little while.  It could just be that people didnt belive it so didnt bother entertaining it.  I'd say people have a pre-conceived idea of what all escorts are like and if they think you come across as an intelligent, up standing pillar of the community they just might not believe that you would have ever done it and put it down to idle gossip.

Well done for facing it though rather than walking away.  Good on ya.

I'd say people have a pre-conceived idea of what all escorts are like and if they think you come across as an intelligent, up standing pillar of the community they just might not believe that you would have ever done it and put it down to idle gossip.

I've worked in offices where you have the hoochies and then you have the goodie 2 shoes. Then you have the downtown offices where you see stilettos. Which one would it be more believable was an escort? Its all about stereotypes. If you dont have eyeglasses and a school dress that comes down to your ankles then I'd work on getting them! 

It is good to hear you are feeling much better about things.

Why anyone would want to out someone I dont know. I guess some people just dont understand how serious it could be for a lady and their family, its all a bit of a laugh to them.

Hey thank you cassie, Trafford and loveamber!

There was an interesting conversation snippet last night. To paint the picture, we don't all sit at desks in a quiet environment, everyone is constantly moving around and shouting within quite a small area and in a fast-paced, loud, busy environment. There's not much time to have long meaningful conversations with colleagues as we're constantly interrupted by customers, telephones etc.

Anyway I was chatting to someone and he was saying that his plans for next week was to sign up at some kind of chartered institute as he's studying engineering. Because I was moving around whilst listening to him, and I was quite far away from him too, I didn't catch what he said so I replied quite loudly "An institute?".

Another guy who was standing right next to me (one of the young guys) said to me "A prostitute?!" and I looked at him as if to say "haha, grow up, like I haven't heard that before" and he promptly muttered, "sorry, I though you said prostitute". So I said to him with a smile "No but that's ok, an easy mistake to make..."

After that things went back to normal almost immediately, there was no awkwardness, and the young guy started conversations with me about his favourite dance tunes that he likes to hear when he's out and the other usual things he talks to me about. In a strange sort of way, it was nice, I'm glad it happened, I think he was trying to be funny or something, and it was like a moment where 2 folk know exactly what each other are talking about, without explicitly talking about it, you know what I mean? What I liked about it is finding out that he surely does know for sure, but it doesn't bother him. I felt accepted by him, and the whole of me, not just the part of me that I chose to put on show before it came out.

There were other folk there last night who weren't there the night before who no longer even acknowledge me, but that's fine because they don't matter to me anyway - I don't know them, they don't know me and they don't mean anything to me, and by last night I already felt strong enough to face anything anyway. If people stopping talking to me is the worst that's going to happen at work, I think it'll be ok. I think even the manager knows, but what's important to her is how well I perform my current role, and I do a pretty darn good job, everyone knows it and says it, so hopefully she realises that my past has no effect on my ability to do my current job and she doesn't equate the two.

it was like a moment where 2 folk know exactly what each other are talking about, without explicitly talking about it, you know what I mean? What I liked about it is finding out that he surely does know for sure, but it doesn't bother him.

Sorry, i dont want to put a dampner on it or anything but i still dont get how you KNOW that he knows.  Like ive said before, he may have heard the rumour and chose not to believe it or the rumour may not have even gotten to him.  Maybe i have missed something here but id still say there is a good chance that the conversation you describe above was just coincedence.  That 'moment' you describe sounds like something out of a movie (Im not suggesting your dramatising) but those movie moments are rare in life and frankly.... men arent usually that discreet!  It would be pretty easy in a loud environment for him to have actually thought you said the word prostitute, its not just prostitutes that talk about prostitutes, you could have just been talking about this weeks eastenders (hillarious by the way, lovin peggy mitchells work even if it was predictable).

Like i said, ive probably just missed something but i'm not convinced that you have been totally outed.  Its easy to convince ourselves that we are seeing/hearing/feeling things around us when we are fearfull of something.