Being slated on a forum

[Tinkerbell]

Hi all

Oh my god, I am livid - Despite having lots of positive feedback on AW, I just happened to google myself this morning, and found a punting forum that I didn't even know existed, where there is a thread about me - In this thread, there seems to be a conversation going on about how many bookings I take in a day, how much money I must be earning, and why I charge for this service and that service, and if I really enjoyed them then I wouldn't charge for them. Also, one person gives a totally inaccurate account of when he had to cancel his meeting with me, and insinuates that it was my fault!!

Anyway, rightly or wrongly this thread has annoyed me, so i've registered on the site, and posted a reply to all this to put the record straight. I have explained that how much I earn is not their concern etc etc.

But, now I've done that, I'm wondering if I shouldn't have - Should I have just risen above it, or am I right to post my thoughts on their little thread?

So angry it's unreal - has anyone else ever had anything like this?

xx

[Taylor]

its never a good idea to read posts about yourself, i did that once, i was called plump amongst other things, i rise above it, there is always going to be haters.

[pandora]

I had a client email me once to tell me that I was being slagged off on a forum - cheers for that.

Looked it up and it was really vile.  The man had obviously seen me as the background was accurate enough about where I lived etc but the rest was made up.  Apparently in the quickie (which I don't do), after midnight (I stop at 10), we managed about 45 different things - all of which I was crap at - AND I had the liberty of charging for it!!!

I wanted to sign up and retort but thought about it overnight and realised that the forum was a self-feeding shark pool so I would only get savaged even more.  No chance of a reasonable retort.

Shame you did reply.  That's why it is not wise to read these forums.

[Kara]

That's so out of order especially this loser who totally lied about you. I'd be fuming, to potentially lose out on business because of this tw*T.
To be honest, I steer well clear of those forums, reading 2/3 threads is enough to make you lose the will to live -- although I know that a lot of it is pure bravado and bullshit they spout out just to fit in with the crowd - it still makes for freaking depressing reading.

[MsDee]

I dislike using this word but I utterly "hate" these pathetic men who spend their lives on forums discussing working girls and I think it is even worse that there are women on these forums who will pander and ooh and aah to every thing they have to say.  It really riles me that men can do this sit on their backsides because they have no life and do this. 

[orchidperfume]

The fact is these individuals on forums actually believe what they read, and are often  impressionable, alot of these men are misogynistic  or are so socially inept and cant get a woman to love them or want to even have sex with them  so pay escorts they have a resentment but have to release sperm at some point,in a way that they think turns them on and then they makeup reports sad sad fuckers...

[amy]

Can we try to stick to answering the thread starter, please?

Ranting about total strangers may be lots of fun but it isn't constructive, nor is it helpful to the forum - all anybody is doing by speculating about people they know nothing about is exactly what everybody's complaining about them doing with us, after all.

[RoxyBlu]

Hi Jessica, I must admit I probably would have done the same thing! Most of the time these guys post nasty things on forums thinking we will never see them, it is easy to say something horrible when they think there will be no repercussions. I hope this shuts them up. Also I would only put one post (polite, clear and concise however angry you are) that way you have not got into a slanging match x

[Rooby]

Hi Jess

I know how you feel. There's a forum where there's some truly horrible things written about me which I made the mistake of reading one day. I was really upset about it at the time - it was vicious as well as being completely untrue - but now I just dont read them any more.

The simple truth is that some men wouldn't be happy even if we paid them. I don't object to honest reviews and comments on service but some of the posters are definitely are driven by their own self-loathing and/or guilt over paying for sex and they enjoy lashing out and causing hurt.

Please dont read any more - and please don't post either. You wont get a fair hearing and the insults will just get worse. If you -have- to engage then as Roxyblu says, a single polite post is fine but otherwise it's just a rock that it's better not to look under.

One further note of caution - some of the people who post there also read this forum to stoke their outrage and fury...

Sending hugs - R xx

[orchidperfume]

Hi Jess

I know how you feel. There's a forum where there's some truly horrible things written about me which I made the mistake of reading one day. I was really upset about it at the time - it was vicious as well as being completely untrue - but now I just dont read them any more.

The simple truth is that some men wouldn't be happy even if we paid them. I don't object to honest reviews and comments on service but some of the posters are definitely are driven by their own self-loathing and/or guilt over paying for sex and they enjoy lashing out and causing hurt.

Please dont read any more - and please don't post either. You wont get a fair hearing and the insults will just get worse. If you -have- to engage then as Roxyblu says, a single polite post is fine but otherwise it's just a rock that it's better not to look under.

One further note of caution - some of the people who post there also read this forum to stoke their outrage and fury...

Sending hugs - R xx

R xx

Too true Rooby

[ana30]

Successful men have a lot of work and family responsabilities. Those guys don't have the time of the day to sit and discuss ladies on forums because they have more important things to do with their time. In my experience those are the good clients: they come, do their deed, pay well and go back to their busy lives. Individuals with "too much time in their hands" and little responsabilities tend to be the "trouble makers" (slagging you on forums, stalking, telling neighbours etc...)

honeyjessica, If i were you I would just -very politely- comment on the thread, say that you don't give quickies or late appointments so his statement is bollocks. Then I would leave it there and forget about it. Do not get into any slagging match or fights cause you'll be fueling the fire of those "men who don't love women" and have "a little too much time in their hands". Just "brush the horse"  (do you say it like that?) ,move one and forgetaboutit.

You'll always have clients who love you and clients who won't. And there's nothing you can do about it. Unless you're a robot you can't make everybody happy.

[strawberry]

The other thing to remember is that this forum is just as publically viewable as any of the punter-led forums, and entering into a them-and-us doesn't do anyone any good.

People have different motivations for frequenting forums, many simply to share experiences and not feel so alone.

[Dani]

I would not have bothered replying to be honest as I doubt it will change the amount of business you get.  A very small percentage of clients read or even write on forums and the rest just do not bother so it should not affect you.
Some people are very easy to please and some would not be happy if you were the sexiest woman aorund and were hanging off the chandeliers and paying them.  It is the way the world is.  We cannot please everyone and one persons view is of little relevance.  I would only worry if there were lots of bad reviews.  One is nothing as every one is aware that the odd person will write something really scathing just because they did not like the colour of your wallpaper or you did not give free extras or you did not let him stay for a week for free.
Best bet is too only google your name when looking for sites that have stolen your details and keep away from forums unless you have very thick skin, change that to armour plated skin

[TeenKylie]

Hi Jess I completely understand how you must be feeling as I have had to deal with this myself from both men an women and its horrible. I am very highly rated on aw myself and i'm very passionate about the work and always do my best to please my clients although I have made mistakes in the past. Unfortunately I have come to learn that there will always be extremely nasty people out there on the Internet wanting to upset you and who really do get off on your misery. All you want to do is defend yourself and tell the truth because your worst feat is people will read it and actually believe  the lies, but the anger will literally end up eating away at you and you will never truly win or beat them honestly.

Pm me if you would like some first hand experience on how you are feeling.

Kylie xx

[Lady_Lust_XXX]

Sometimes it is good to share and care.  Other times it is best to let sleeping dogs lie.

The more you dwell on it the more it may pull you down so maybe best thing to do is to move on and forget the eejits that wrote whatever they wrote.

Think positively and put it in the past and get on with living in the day.

TC xx