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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: K47 on 10 March 2016, 09:48:26 pm
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I had a customer earlier and during the sex he kept saying to me "you fucker..." It made me a bit uncomfortable, but am I just being too sensitive? would you brush it off as harmless dirty talk, or would you find it offensive/disrespectful?
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Just a tad sensitive sweety, most clients enjoy dirty talk and it helps if you talk dirty back.
I always ask clients at the start of an appointment whether they would like dirty talk, they will either say yes or no, if no then they are more the sensual kind of client.
It is a job don't take it too personal, if they call you names during the act, I tend to call them dirty bastards and myself far worse, clients love it, does not mean they think of you as such. You will get a feeling for the arseholes who do it deliberately and who are deliberately being disrespectful. But most it is just part of the thrill.
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I personally love it, and will quite often call them a dirty bastard/filthy cunt etc if the mood is right. Obviously not to sensual GFE type clients.
If you don't like it you absolutely don't have to tolerate it, just make sure you're clear in your advertising that you don't like aggressive dirty talk. But I wouldn't take it personally at all, it's more that he's saying it because it gets him off to hear dirty words, rather than because he thinks you're not worthy of respect.
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I do like a little bit of dirty talk myself! I cringe if I do it though I have tried many times and I die inside haha.
I once had a client say "Yeah you dirty black bitch you like that" when he had me from behind, I move from him got up and told him I don't like that, he as really apologetic, I'm not sure if he did it deliberately or if it just came out but it made me feel so uncomfortable! He made several attempts to book me again and I said I was fully booked each time lol!
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I couldn't care less what they call me once they've paid up :).
Fortunately for me I'm deaf in one ear, so if they're getting on my nerves I just turn my head thataway. I suppose it's the equivalent of shutting your eyes although sadly I haven't yet found a way to switch my nose off :D.
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I don't mind dirty talk and I do it but it's normally just stuff like telling them what I want them to do to me etc, I've never had a customer say things like that to me as dirty talk before, it's normally just like 'mm you like that dont you' and stuff.. so just wasnt sure what to think, but I'm fine with it if its normal. just thought I would check
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I couldn't care less what they call me once they've paid up :).
Fortunately for me I'm deaf in one ear, so if they're getting on my nerves I just turn my head thataway. I suppose it's the equivalent of shutting your eyes although sadly I haven't yet found a way to switch my nose off :D.
Just nearly shot tea out of my nose ;D
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I don't do dirty talk but if they wanna grunt shit they can, in one ear out the other it's just white noise
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Eh, I've been called all sorts. But i've also been called allsorts by loving partner, its just a sex thing. People say rude things because it makes them feel dirty in a good way. They call me a bitch i'm not thinking what did I do to them for them to think i'm a bitch.
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It can be a shock when you first hear it. All depends on how you want to be treated & what your style of working is.
I had a guy call me a bitch once, so I said I'm not into name calling & he did it again. I then said
"I think you are bitch here, you're paying to being spanked by a stranger in a hotel room." I whacked him a bit harder. I didn't like him instantly so I had my guard up & took it negatively. If you turn it around back onto them to get some empowerment back it doesn't feel so bad. Some do it to get a reaction to make you angry to initiate BDSM.
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I don't mind a little bit of "you're a dirty bitch" in the heat of the moment. If it's from someone who has been friendly and respectful up to that point and they're literally fucking you and it's obviously just playful, I'll go along. But I don't really care for it too much. And if I think it's literally coming from a place of contempt I don't like it at all.
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I like it a lot...Whether its them calling me names or me them or both. The only words I wouldn't like to be called is cunt or twat, although I often use the C word as a descriptive in bookings and they seem to love that too. 99% of the time its all said in a fun way :)
What other job is there where you get to swear and verbally 'abuse' people and get paid well for it ;D
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HATE IT and I know its all harmless etc and I quite enjoy it from an actual partner but coming from a client I HATE it. If it's a regular I usually try and train it out of them by getting really quiet whenever they do it. If it's not I just ignore it.
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I encourage it and join in as it normally makes them cum quicker "oh yes I am a dirty whore and you are going to rip my arse apart aren't you?" "Oh no have things ended a little prematurely never mind we've got plenty of time for round two so don't panic"...
I've never done anal in my life but I will make him think it's a possibility if it gets him off quicker, bonus points if he can't manage round two and says you can leave early. Tricks of the trade mwahahaha.
Although being called names goes in one ear and out the other with me so I understand why a more sensitive person might be insulted.
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Very few of mine do, but I've got this one (lovely, sweet, friendly) guy, who- literally as soon as he's aroused- turns into a complete sexual deviant!! (it's funny though) Calls me names, slaps my ass etc, he's got a huge cock and when he's fucking me he shouts, dirty talks, fucks me hard etc, whilst at the same always checking I'm ok & he's not hurting me etc (with the huge cock!) He's as lovely as ever again as soon as he's cum :) He's really grown on me actually lol!! :-X
I usually encourage it if the guy's into it but judge the level of how far it goes (I.e domination) with the individual punter and how well I know them :/
It wouldn't be my first choice either but I'm not too fussed- you could lay some boundaries from the get-go of what you're prepared to take from the more dominant guys, maybe through email/txt/phone when arranging your booking, or face to face as soon as you feel it coming :o xx
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I adore it. Though i think it because it only starts to happen when the guy is REALLY arroused! so for me, its a turn on knowing i turn them on that much if that makes sense!!
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I don't mind what they call me in the heat of the moment but I find it awkward myself especially if they just come out and ask me to "talk dirty". On demand it's even more cringe worthy and embarrassing!
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I don't mind what they call me in the heat of the moment but I find it awkward myself especially if they just come out and ask me to "talk dirty". On demand it's even more cringe worthy and embarrassing!
Oh God, I know!! :-[ I'm not good at dishing it lol taking it is different! Hate feeling like I'm put on the spot too, I freeze up! Xx
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I don't enjoy it but then again I don't enjoy being called "Babe" or "Sweets" either, lol. I see it as just another part of the job and don't say anything against it but don't do it back either. There are a few clients I would have enjoyed calling "Fucker" though. ;D
About the ones that want me to talk dirty non-stop--THAT is exhausting. I have my standard lines that I say to turn them on but seriously, not enough to fill an hour unless I'm going to sound like a recording on a loop. ::)
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For me, if the guy is nice and respectful in the lead up to the booking then I don't care at all if he likes to spout filth in the meet itself.
If someone calls me for a booking, and during the initial phone call says "You're my filthy slut" etc then no way would I meet them! But, if they are nice in terms of making arrangements, and polite in all communications before the meet, then as far as I'm concerned once we're in the booking, the meet time is their time and if they want to dirty talk then bring it on :)
Besides which I am a foul-mouthed hussy, meaning that they are likely to get a whole lot more filthy talk back from me than they give out ;D
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Just let it go over your head. X
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To me it happened only once and I really disliked it. He said: 'you, sexy, gorgeous bitch'. Thank you for the first 2 adjectives, I thought, but do I really deserve the third? I did not say anything. What if we were to call guys all kind of names too?
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I don't mind it If your in a hurry and let them verbally abuse you it might get them off quicker if you wish t get it over with :D
I lovely guy always calls me a fat bitch in the middle of doing his thing . Then spend the next 10 mins saying sorry
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It depends on the guy if I can tell it's just heat of the moment stuff or just something he does in a bantery,naughty kind of way I don't mind as it get's them off quicker and I will join in.A couple of clients I banned for being in my mind down right abusive.Their faces would just change and I felt it was to try and humiliate rather than anything else.Big difference between 'You dirty bitch' said in a phworr kind of way with a smile and 'You fucking fat slut' said with a look of agression while pushing my head down..I think not and the session will end.
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I think there are generic words like "dirty slut" and then their are pointed, specific words. To point out a scar or say something about nationality or race is too specific and I won't tolerate that. I also once had a muslim guy call me a "dirty fucking pig." Somehow, that just crossed the line. Perhaps because I assume that "pig" is especially nasty for a muslim. I told him to cut that right out and he did. If someone said anything derogatory about my nationality I would pull them up on it. Of course, I will often introduce my nationality, myself. To say, "Yeah! Fill my dirty Danish arse!" is one thing. But to say, "You slutty little Scandanavian skank" would just feel "off."