...and this  on the phone. I knos it screams "timewaster" from a mile away and I've just played the game of one of these until he abruptely hanged up on me laughing hysterically. My first instinct was correct, that he was a tw and it was a waste of time to engege in conversation with him. When he first called me "darling" my first thought was to tell him not to call me that, but I don't know why I didn't act on it. I think I am overly polite. What strategy do you have for phone callers calling of this sort

I think you have to be open to the fact that in some regional areas this can be seen as normal chat.

You have a right to correct them but I think its just one of those things you just have to ignore....

though saying that I can not believe the amout of times I get reffered to as "PRINCESS"!!! For some one with an alternative image who also offers mistress services why they think this is going to go down well I have no idea!!! 

To be honest, I think you can tell the difference between someone who uses terms of affection inappropriately out of habit, and someone who thinks he's a big ol' charmer chatting you up and wasting your time.

I do hate being called "darlin" and "hun" and will probably not respond to an email that doesn't contain my actual name anywhere, simply cos it's more likely to be a copy & paste job from a TW/worse. But if it's during an actual booking it would be fine, obviously! That's very rare though because I think I inspire more of a "yes miss" attitude than a "hi babe" one in person.

Similarly, it's rare for me to have someone be ovebearing on the phone to me but it's easy to deal with them: Just wait til they start asking how you are, what you're up to etc, and then yeah, they'll burst out laughing and hang up (if you don't do the same first) because they're just some kid messing about with their mates.

A genuine client is even easier to recognise, since all he wants to do is make a simple appointment, so you can always focus on that, too.

I gotta say, it doesn't bother me in the slightest! I wouldn't dismiss an email/phonecall for containing any of those words. I can think of a lot worse to be called!

Yes i hate this too, the way i see it potential clients do not know me and therefore should be contacting me in a polite manner and i never respond to anything containing the word "babe" or such like.

Yeah - it's funny but for me, only timewasters use 'babe' etc, and genuine clients never do, so I just end up automatically not seeing the "babe"ers because they just won't make an appointment properly or confirm properly or show up at all. I guess it's lead to my aversion for the "babe" guys but only out of long experience.

I'm sure someone's called me "darling" before in a perfectly respectful way (maybe in the second or third booking??), but overall I agree with MissCleo - most clients manage to contact me in a respectful fashion so I stick with them. If I wanted a hair appointment, would I find a hairdresser and start texting them with "hi babe can i c u now"? No, I bloody well wouldn't because that would be ridiculously, unbelievably inappropriate and said hairdresser would recoil in horror and I'd never get my damn appointment.

Quote from: sweet jane on 07 August 2011, 10:10:01 pm

teehee.... this evening I found myself wishing there was an instant electric shock applied to every one who started a chat with 'hi bb' or the ever fabulous 'mmmmm'

Oh god on cam this is there answer to everything! "Mmmmmmm" "mmmm" "mmm" "bb" 

You can just imagine loads of keyboards in repair shops with broken M buttons 

This is a new one on me, but does this mean that 'bb' means something other than bareback? I have told at least a dozen Adultwork types (where else) to fook off for including it in emails, although since anyone who doesn't address me by name and uses 'babe' and so on gets turned away anyway it hasn't made any practical difference.

I don't mind things like 'love' from people I know and I tend to use it myself anyway - I agree it's to some extent a regional thing and I don't mind 'princess' either, but it all has to be from punters I've met already, not from strangers. The text speak ones like 'h*n' are a guaranteed instant block. And since when has the word 'when' needed abbreviating? I keep getting 'wen r u free' texts and I haven't figured out a way to block the on the basis of piss poor spelling yet  .

Bloody idiots. I just assumed they were would-be barebackers and dumped the lot, although the outcome wouldn't have been any different had I known. The M keys seem to work fine up here as I've never had that (and I can't begin to work out what it means), but we do definitely have burgeoning trouble with Shift keys  .

I can not stand text typing or really any forms of poor or lazy grammer.

I cant stand when they ask where I'm from, I say Scotland and they come back with some ridiculous attempt at "typing Scottish". Am I talking like an idiot? no, so what makes you think that is going to go down well?!?! 

I had a guy in free chat the other day and every line he said I had to question what he meant! He said "this isn't going well is it?". You are the one who chooses to talk like a moron not me!