Hi everyone. I'm just looking for some honest advice really!

I've been considering escorting for years but have never had the courage to just go for it.

I'm worried about not being able to have control over the clients I saw. I expect that the majority are pretty undesirable but I couldn't see dirty or really fat men or someone really creepy...like some of the stories on here! But you only know once you're there right?! I couldn't just go through with it and never see them again, I'd literally have to walk away there and then. And I'm worried that could turn nasty.

The only way I can think of avoid this is to meet with clients in a public place first? Does this sound very realistic? What does everyone else do?

I think maybe I'm looking to do this on my terms which I feel is how it should be but I not sure how realistic that is!

Thanks all

Jen

To be honest escorting is most likely not for you, if you place that much importance on appearance. I prefer cleanliness to whether they are fat or ugly. They are all human beings who deserve respect and not your condemnation. Also the ugly guys treat you way better than the I am hot and fit lot.I know I may sound harsh but you cant refuse a booking on the grounds of someone's appearance, if you want to get any work that is lol. And of course clients will be fed up, it has cost them time and money to get to you to be rejected.

I have met many ugly men in my time and I remind myself that they are paying for a service and that everyone I see has some redeeming qualities. Okay I refuse to kiss some if its that bad but your going to have to decide if escorting is for you if you feel that strongly about the matter

I agree with curvywench in that you need to be sure escorting is something you can do, I believe many women would like to become escorts because of the money and freedom but find it difficult to overcome their aversion to shagging a physically (to them) unattractive man.  I think you have to be a certain type of woman to become a good escort where you more value their personality, manners, warmth, gratefulness, generosity, honesty, vulnerability etc.
Fat/old clients are still clients and some of the best Ive had and the vast majority of them are lovely and they deserve the same respect they give me. On the other hand fit handsome younger guys often have a self entitled aura and an ego that need feeding and that I find very unattractive, I much prefer a lovely mild mannered polite fat/thin/ugly/older/lumpy bumpy punter who is gracious and kind.
In the same way you can't be a nurse if you balk at the sight of blood you cant be a good prossie and maintain a stable mental state if sleeping with fat/old/ugly (to you) punters for money is something you find repulsive.

I agree with Curvywench and Helen - it's the young attractive ones who have the worst attitudes IME.

I'm gonna sound like a hippy here, but part of the job (to me) is seeing through the external factors and finding the client's inner beauty. I have a lovely regular who is very obese and unattractive, but he is a lovely, kind and generous person and really interesting to talk to. He's also really good at oral 

Maybe a better route for you might be a sugar daddy arrangement? It's more like dating in that you can suss each other out first before committing to anything. It obviously pays much less than escorting but you can physically screen clients beforehand. If you google "lets talk sugar" you'll get a website with lots of helpful info.

I have to agree that this line of work probably isn't for you.

I mean as has been said the majority of clients are lovely, although they might not be attractive, but they tend to be the best clients.

For dirty clients, well we are well within our rights to not provide the service if they don't go and get washed when asked.

For extremely obese men, you could put something on your ad saying you don't see them, but most dont read ads in full and it probably wouldn't make you look good.

As for creepy clients well that is why you speak to them on the phone before accepting any bookings, you can usually get a good idea by how someone comes across on the phone. If they turn overly creepy during a booking you stop what your doing and tell them not to do that, if they keep doing it you get up and get dressed and stop the booking there and then.

I mean don't get me wrong I do have on my ad that I will only see those between 25 & 65, that I won't see anyone who can't speak or understand fluent English, that I won't see anyone who has an extremely wide body frame, or anyone with either a micro penis or a huge whopper.

Age is because I only do outcalls and found that everyone that was under 25 seemed to either live with parents, or a bunch of flatmates, over 65, personally nothing against them just found they were the ones that would constantly make appointments then forget.

Speaking/Understanding English well that is pretty self explanatory.

Extremely wide body frames (fat or muscle doesn't matter), I don't have a personal aversion to them (being on the big side myself it would be a bit two faced of me), but being 5" 5 I find it very difficult to find positions that don't end up killing me for hours later.

Micro penises/whoopers I just find really difficult to do anything with and don't feel I can provide a good service for the client.

So as you you can see while I do have people I don't see they are not based on my personal preferences but whether or not I can provide a good service to them

I will disagree on not being allowed to be fussy - we can be as fussy as we like. I turn away clients that others would take. I avoid seeing disabled clients because I have some stupid phobias (that extend to myself. I broke my arm and couldn't look at my own arm until it was in a cast and I never did look at my x-rays.) I don't like to see very elderly clients and will avoid them when I can. If there were a way to avoid the ones I find physically repulsive, I would. Luckily, it's very rare for someone to actually repulse me and the few times one has walked through my door, I have just gritted my teeth and bore it. I would love to screen out the morbidly obese but there's no graceful way to do it. A couple have asked on the phone and I've declined. But if they show up, I deal with it as professionally as possible.

But I am fine with all races and I quite enjoy the young ones (when you're an old, assertive Amazon like me they don't take the piss too much - I find them easier to manage than 55-year-old middle-class white men.) We are all individuals.

But, to specifically address the OP: there's no way to screen for looks in general. Like others have said, you have to look for the good in people. I find a wide variety of men attractive. Christopher Walken, Willem Defoe, Benecio Del Toro, Danny Trejo, Steve Buscemi... these are all "ugly" men and I find them all hot as fuck!

You have to be prepared for who is going to book you. They may be unattractive, they may be fat, they may be really good looking. But regardless of their looks you have to give them a good service providing they are clean and respectful. If you can't do that this isn't for you and I think the advice to try SA is a good one.

I've been booked by very obese men and yes it can be uncomfortable especially with positions but most have been really nice guys. The same with the unattractive ones, I've had some guys I have though "how the hell am I going to go through this" but I have done it. I agree you can tell a lot by chatting to a man on the phone and screening him that way. It works mostly for me!

I also agree you can be fussy in this job. I am and I can afford to be. I hhave a couple restrictions which I didn't have when I started but now do and my experience is much better than it was before.

Try SA, even though there are equally unattractive and creepy men on there you can get away with asking for a picture or just meeting up in a public place to decide if you can go through with it! X

Choosing clients?  As some are aware on here i do not see asians and do very well each week but its rather unrealistic to ask to meet a punter 1st to see if you 'can' see him, infact its rather bonkers

It reminds me about those look and go clients is the way they play. If the Op is very nervous about escorting re clients i will advise not to do. Ever since escorting it has opened my eyes to another world. So approach with caution having a hard think about this because once those memories are made they can't be erased instantly or never ever.