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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: cleojones on 22 February 2025, 08:31:30 pm

Title: Befriending them
Post by: cleojones on 22 February 2025, 08:31:30 pm

I kinda did I wanted to have him as security buddy but he starts pissing me off cause he also asks me for sex  (paying) and also made some sexual comments

Don't get me wrong it's just different when a stranger looks like at u like piece of meat vs a "friend" if u get my drift

Besides I sorta feel he should not be actually asking me for meeting, I thought he understood that, now that we r working together

Am I shady

Title: Re: Befriending them
Post by: Mirror on 23 February 2025, 09:08:55 am

Quote from: cleojones on 22 February 2025, 08:31:30 pm

I kinda did I wanted to have him as security buddy but he starts pissing me off cause he also asks me for sex  (paying) and also made some sexual comments

Don't get me wrong it's just different when a stranger looks like at u like piece of meat vs a "friend" if u get my drift

Besides I sorta feel he should not be actually asking me for meeting, I thought he understood that, now that we r working together

Am I shady

You are not shady, having boundaries is a good thing particularly if he's providing your security.

Title: Re: Befriending them
Post by: sourgrapes on 23 February 2025, 09:37:19 am

Call me cynical, but I no longer differentiate between ’friends’ and ‘strangers’, but just ‘men’. Always an agenda where women are concerned. Sounds like he’s about to run the loverboy method on you.

Title: Re: Befriending them
Post by: nina1997 on 23 February 2025, 08:37:40 pm

Sounds like he needs to go!

I'd never have a man as a security person, risk of too much overlap.