Hello,

So today, I had an incident with a client. He seemed really nice and offered to bring wine for our one hour session. I never seem to have a problem when people bring wine in fact most of the time it makes it more fun. This time, the client came over, he seemed ok, but as we both drank the bottle of wine he seemed kind of spacey (there was nothing wrong with him as a person, he was just one of those contruction/landscaping type owner kind of guy), and since I was a little drunk I was a bit confused if he wanted me to take charge or him? He also was one of those guys who smokes frequently so maintaining an erection was kind of difficult (but at the same time he was really hard to communicate with or feel out)... Anyways, it seemed all fine, I should mention I was on my period but I was wearing a sponge. Anyways, I don't think I leaked or anything and when I was bent over in doggy style I think he sneakishly pulled out the condom and he came inside me. Luckily, I am on the second day of my period. Of course, I also immediately took plan B after he left. But since I was drunk and I've had a lot of recent trauma with offering bareback (unsafe) and this even ruined a chance with someone I was seeing, I freaked out. I kicked him out, of course I blocked his number.

I searched his number though, and what shows up is his real construction company that he owns including his name, website... He's been a long member on the forum where I live and sometimes he writes reviews. I just have to ask, do any of you know what in the right mind makes a guy think that it is okay to do this? I just don't understand. Why do some guys seek such nasty services, why would they even dare putting THEMSELVES at risk, yet, I've had so many clients who want it or push it, or recently they sneak it. I just don't get it? Does anyone know? Is it supposed to be a sign of disrespect or intimacy? Why would you do that with someone you don't know especially a prostitute like no offense to us of course but just to be cliche or stereotypical about it?

I was just wondering, how do you handle these situations with clients, do you direct them constantly during the whole session, do you feel it out, do you push away, how do you deal with people like that?

First of all him bringing the wine was a sign he wanted you tipsey/ drunk etc which basically happened.

They do not care about safety they are turned on and the idea of bareback gets them off. What he did was bareback rape if it was me i would think about reporting hin or at least do a warning on here and NUM.

All you can do is do not get drunk on bookings again as it can make you very vulnerable and you will not be alert enough and always guide them in yourself with uour hand and keep checking the condom is still on.

This industry is full of arseholes unfortunately but do not beat yourself up about what happened. What he did was a form of rape and illegal he definately needs a warning or reporting.

I'm not denying he's a douchebag, but surely you can see it's not a good idea to get drunk with a client during a booking for exactly this sort of reason? Also, if you've been offering bareback anyway, surely you're on a permanent form of contraception? 

What's your question OP? It sounds as if you know you're engaging in risky behaviour. Do you want to continue with this or do you want help to stop?

If I’m bent over I always tickle their balls, that way I would notice any fiddling and I can feel for the ridge of the condom every 30 seconds or so just to check it hasn’t slipped