Hi, I had a new client turn up at my door.
He had no cash on him so I gave him my bank details. I then checked about 10 minutes in and the money hadn't gone through. So I asked him to check. He said he had sent it to the wrong account. I told him to phone his bank to cancel it. He then asked them to send the money to me. He said they told him it would be 2 hours to get to me.
However, it never arrived.
I want to report him to the police. It was a fetish service. He has basically conned me. Do you think it is worth reporting?
I have just moved into a new place with a 12 month contract so any hassle from him after I report him would be annoying, but I'm really annoyed he didn't pay.
I know I should have just told him to get cash, just messed up.
I guess if I report him the police will take my full name and be aware of the work I do, which I don't want. I wish it could be done anonymously and he still gets in trouble.

Some transfers can take half a day or more to arrive, I don't class payment to have arrived until I see it on my banking.

Also sometimes the amount will show on desktop browser banking, before the app and the other way around. I actually would have to assume the payment isn't coming, but if it does it will be a relief and a surprise.

Regards going to the police I don't know if they can do anything, can you ask NUM?

I think this just has to be lesson to you, nowadays transfers happen instantly, or they do with my bank, many years ago transfers could take 2 hours plus to get to your bank but not anymore.

You should have a banking app on your phone or iPad/laptop so that you can check if the money is actually there, and as there is a scam now that shows you that the cash is there, yet it isn’t, then what I do is immediately transfer it to my other account or buy something that I have waiting to purchase on one of my many wish lists in various sites, from Amazon to Office!

All you can do is call him and explain to him that if you don’t get paid the money he is due you, then you will report him, this is whether you will or not, but I second the person that asked ‘what exactly do you want the police to do about it’, you’ve been naive and should never have went through with the booking until you actually seen the money but you know this now, keep it in mind for future bookings.

Definitely make a report to NUM as there are still so many women that allow this to happen and they need warned, and he needs told that he will trouble booking other escorts should he continue with this con, what a prick, most people make certain that they have the right banking details before they transfer, it’s basic common sense and he is clearly just a prick!

'Theft of services' is NOT a UK offence, and as sex based contracts cannot be enforced in UK law anyway it wouldn't matter to us if it was. Please don't post things like this on the forum - it's not helpful

From what the OP says she agreed to the bank transfer rather than refuse service until she was paid, so it's lesson learned. A warning would be handy for others, yes .

Transfers are the new cheques.

I accept many but only in advance, and will not proceed before it hits my account.

hiya, I'm in London too and I believe this bank transfer" thingy is the latest scam going around. In the last couple of months I've had a few dodgy characters come to me up and pulling the "Can I pay with bank transfer?" right at the very begining of the session. I knew right away they were pulling me a fast one and I was never going to see the money so I politely kicked them out (plus it says in my site I only accept cash). Whenever I've transfer money personally it's taken me a good couple of hours.

I accept bank transfers in advance. But recently I had a guy not ask but assume he could pay by transfer at the beginning of a session without any prior warning or agreement. Like you I found it suss and kicked him out but not before he kicked up a massive fuss and tried to out me to the hotel (warning done). This was actually in Birmingham but interestingly the guy was from London.

To the OP, I hope it does come through but do put up a warning yes otherwise

I only offer this to one of my regulars who I trust which he requested after he had been seeing me for a while.

He just prefers it this way but I'm cool with it.

I do accept deposits and full payment by bank transfer. They MUST pay when booking and I don't confirm until I check the money is in then move it to another account.

The only bank I've had issue with payment not going through is First Direct.

If someone turned up and expected to pay by bank transfer, I'd show them the door. It happened last year and took me by surprise but luckily the money went through. If it happened now I just wouldn't give them the chance.