Hi everyone,

The agency just texted me tonight asking if I would see a lad with Cerebral Palsy on Sunday.

This guy used an escort before, but for whatever reason, he's wanting to see another. I believe he had the other one long term (so I am led to believe).

His Aunty and Uncle will be in the house when I arrive and then go(?!) Which is a bit weird. He is apparently in a wheelchair, but fully functional down below.

I have worked with disabled people before in my regular job but never been with a disabled client! Is there any advice you can offer me? E.g. do they normally need some help getting out of the wheelchair?

Anything on what to expect, or do, so that I can let this chap enjoy himself, as I would with any client, would be great. It's my first time with doing this, I obviously don't want to treat him any different to other clients, just worried in case I hurt him!

I have disabled clients from time to time (and also one who had family there- is this in Glasgow by any chance, a long booking? Im sure it was the same scenario he was lovely). My usual stance on this is to ask him personally. I just say something along the lines of "hi honey, would you mind explaining your disability a little so I understand it better, and also tell me what help you may need. For example do you need help with getting into bed etc? Its no problem for me doing this; I only ask so that I can make sure our time together goes smoothly." Something like that, and then they will tell you themselves what they need etc xx

i think just let it go with the flow and if they need you're help they will ask for it. Most disabled clients i have met are pretty independent.

If he his celebral Palsy is quite bad he would not be able to get out of the wheelchair himself so I am sure his family will do all of that for him as there are right ways and wrong ways of lifting physically impaired people.  You will have to find out the extent of his impairment before doing anything though.  Does leaning on him cause pain? Giving oral may mean having to find a different position do to it as you may not be able to get between his legs and may not be able to lean on him due to causing discomfort. During sex obviously you will need to be on top but can you do this on your knees without it hurting him or causing discomfort or will you need to do it in the crouching position.  Not things we normally have to think about but with cerebal Palsy it will need consideration.

Every impairment affects the person differently so there are a bank of questions we need to be able to ask either the person or their PA (no longer called careers)

It might also be better for you to speak to his family before meeting him as they will not be embarrassed to tell you his needs whereas he may well be.  For someone with impairments it can be very hard to ask a stranger for help or tell them they are causing discomfort as they try to be as independent as possible and not all will be happy to ask you for anything they need.  we assume they will be used to it so wont have a problem asking or saying anything when in fact the opposite is often true so I find it always best to speak to a family member

Most of all remember he may have a lot of impairments but he is still the same as everyone else so don't keep saying do you need help as that can be very patronising and upsetting

Good, I am glad.

I've not had any problems with any disabled client, or indeed anyone presenting any sort of medical condition. I do get a bit nervous myself but once we've covered any obvious essential immediate needs, it's the same as with any other client. Obviously accessibility is a consideration, and you may need to be creative with positions sometimes but with a good sense of humour what could appear to be awkward usually ends up being quite fun.