Do you ever get this? For some reason, it makes me uneasy. I just got such a call. I asked him what sort of session he was interested in and he said he'd looked at my website and that the services I'd outlined there were fine.

So, he was OK but... I just didn't feel right about it. I asked him "Can I ask you who referred you to me?" and he said "I wouldn't want to say." and then I just said "I'm sorry but I don't want to see you. Please don't take it personally."

I'm just... well, if I feel at all uneasy about anyone - for any reason, even if I can't quite define it - I will not see them. I just don't know if I'm being a bit paranoid or silly.

But it just doesn't sit right with me.

Yes, KC, I know what you mean.  I have had these calls over the years and I just wont see them.

I do understand that they may not know the name "their friend" used when they saw me, if indeed they really did, and not want to give anything away but it is too underhand for me too.

I would rather do without the money of the booking than jeapordise my safety.  They could very easily be a timewaster/no show anyway, so really nothing lost.

Yes and I have seen some of them, and I do believe some guys do pass on numbers. I've actually had someone pass on the address - ok so the guy wants to know where he's going but it was scary when he said he really didn't know the address, then phoned from right outside my door saying "is it number x?". Not very discrete

I do however still carry out my own usual screening, if they sound like they aren't going to get on with me, or behave like a bit of a knob on the phone then I'm going to be declining fairly quickly.

Someone once rang claiming someone had given him my work number to ask advice on a hobby in my personal life that I supposedly know something about, nothing to do with sex work. He refused to tell me the person's name for fear of getting him into trouble, err well in that case why pass a prossie's number around for 'advice' why not stick a few words in google or ask a business locally dealing in that area

I do believe some guys think that saying they've been passed your number will provide some sort of explanation that might make me feel reassured, it's a form of introduction, or make themselves feel as if they've not been searching for prossies.
 
Whatever reason it really doesn't seem to make any prossie feel comfortable.

I don't know if his intro got me paranoid or if his voice was truly "off." I think it's possible a genuine punter might say such a thing because it's true and they think this will reassure me... but it just rubs me the wrong way.

I'm getting a run of weirdos today! They come like busses, don't they? And sometimes when it's just vague little things and there's a constant stream of them it's like judgement can get warped.

But a good one always sounds like a good 'un on the phone! That bright, confident way of asking to make a booking... you know it's going to be good and THAT is what I have to wait for.

I just take it as yet another way of saying 'I couldn't be bothered to read your website'. The genuine ones say so if they're at work or whatever and unable to do more than have a quick skim over it and I don't mind that at all, but why lie?

If they say they got my number 'from a friend', I politely suggest that they ask their friend for my website address .

Yes,  I know what you mean kimberley and I feel the same way. 

If they say a friend gave my number,  but no description,  I do the same as Amy and bibi, just advise them to read my profile or ask their friend for more information.  If I get a particularly strange vibe from them I ask them to book me through aw.

I just don't like referrals,  unless they sound comfortable and confident and experienced,  then I try to engage in more conversion to see if they can change my almost automatic no feeling into a yes.