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looseelastic

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Some advice please!
« on: 21 March 2008, 09:10:55 pm »
Hi all!

I have become am escort by mistake really. I met a guy who wanted to take some pictures of me, he then asked me if we could have sex and we agreed a price. He has asked to see me again and said he will order a takeaway!!!
He also asked me to move in with him and wants to sleep with me for an amount which I think is poor because I am a nice looking girl, how do I get out of this?

Also is it normal that I was a little turned on even though he was vile looking?
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Suzanne Hammond

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Re: Some advice please!
« Reply #1 on: 21 March 2008, 09:47:20 pm »
He sounds like an exploitative pimp, I?m not saying he is but it sure gives me all the warning signs. If he?s got porn shots of you he may use them on the web. I think I?m right in saying theoretically he can?t do that unless you signed a model?s release form, but the law?s one thing, enforcing it?s another.

I should check out AdultWork and other sites for new entries in your area anyway.

The first question is do you want to be an escort? In which case, maybe he could be helpful? But it?s important to draw very clear boundaries that you both understand, and it would be silly to move in with him at this stage.

If he?s got porn shots, be careful about blackmail - try to get things in writing if only emails, think about taping conversations or even having witnesses.

Was this the first time you had sex for money and when you said you want help getting out of this do you mean the particular situation or escorting in general?
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SJ

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Re: Some advice please!
« Reply #2 on: 22 March 2008, 06:52:02 am »
Quote from: looseelastic on 21 March 2008, 09:10:55 pm
Hi all!

I have become am escort by mistake really. I met a guy who wanted to take some pictures of me, he then asked me if we could have sex and we agreed a price. He has asked to see me again and said he will order a takeaway!!!
He also asked me to move in with him and wants to sleep with me for an amount which I think is poor because I am a nice looking girl, how do I get out of this?

Also is it normal that I was a little turned on even though he was vile looking?

You get out of it by telling him you dont want to see him anymore an by cutting contact. Why do you feel you need to continue it if you clearly feel its not something you are comfortable with?

Escorting isn't about reluctantly doing stuff for the price that some random geezer sets, its about you deciding you want it as a career and taking a professional approach which includes setting your own boundaries and staying within them.

As for being turned on even though he was "vile looking", not much wrong with that really, good sex is about far more than just looks. 

However, escorts need to be condfident and not get talked into things by potentially unsavoury men. Is he wanting bareback sex from you i.e. sex without a condom? An absolute no-no if you want to stay healthy.
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DemiBBW

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« Reply #3 on: 23 March 2008, 09:02:50 am »
Hi there,

ekkkk, he doesn't sound like a nice guy to be honest.  Personally, I wouldn't see him again. 

Don't feel bad bu being turned on, theres nothing wrong with that at all.  If you think you would like to become an escort, then I would do it without him. :)

Good luck.

Hugs.


xxxxx
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Anna WestCoast

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« Reply #4 on: 23 March 2008, 10:50:54 am »
It sounds to me like this guy is grooming you to be his personal money making machine.
You are under no obligation to him whatsoever, if I were you I would stay well clear.
Have a long hard look at yourself and where you want to go, and if you decide you still
want to be an escort, join an agency for a while until you learn the ropes.

I don't think you'll have much luck with the pictures to be honest, because even if you
insist on having them back, the chances are he'll have made copies. If you join an agency
they'll get a reputable photographer to do some shots for you. At the end of the day, you've
no way of knowing what he's going to do with them, but it's your word against his that money
changed hands, and you're not a "known" escort if you see what I mean. In reality they're
probably just for his personal pleasure.  ::)

Don't worry about finding sex with a vile guy a turn-on, I've had some shocks in my time, lol.  ;)

Anyway, post and let us know how you get on.   xx
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Louise

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Re: Some advice please!
« Reply #5 on: 23 March 2008, 08:50:59 pm »
Quote from: looseelastic on 21 March 2008, 09:10:55 pm
Hi all!

I have become am escort by mistake really. I met a guy who wanted to take some pictures of me, he then asked me if we could have sex and we agreed a price. He has asked to see me again and said he will order a takeaway!!!
He also asked me to move in with him and wants to sleep with me for an amount which I think is poor because I am a nice looking girl, how do I get out of this?

Also is it normal that I was a little turned on even though he was vile looking?
I dont understand ...how did you meet this guy? do you need to move in with him?why does he want you to move in with him?
will you still be offering services while he is there ? if so will he be taking a % of your earings if so he is a pimp
you havent mentioned how old you are.
in my eyes you are not an escort you are someone who is in real danger of being exploited
an escort likes her work and gets into it via her own free will this is something that i dont see happening
with regards to the pics Anna's pretty much spot on , I wouldnt be suprised if ther'e not already floating around on adultwork with him making money out of YOU via the private gallery
get out of the situation and id he tried to blackmail you deny deny deny...


I am also confused re you first post

Quote from: looseelastic on 08 March 2008, 02:06:51 pm
I know this is not really a question but I was looking to join the industry and
just looked at adultwork.com and found a picture of my ass being used by a escort in London! I took it to use on an adult site.

It is a good picture though, wonder if she gets much work!!

Hi all anyway, this is a great site!





I think maybe you should search aw for the pictures that the guy took of you as youve already found one of you on there
you should have a look at the main site as well as i dont think you are ahaving a good start in the industry by having 2 sets of pics taken and potentually used do you ?
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laralara

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Re: Some advice please!
« Reply #6 on: 25 March 2008, 12:46:50 am »
Hi all, thanks for the advice, I don't think I was very clear.

I have no intention of moving in with this guy and I am not worried about being blackmailed as non of the pics were facial shots.

I also did post a question about how to get into escorting as I was looking at adultwork. This was my first time (albeit unintentionally), I did not intend to sleep with him but I was asked to and agreed. I want to get into escorting and don't take it lightly, I just felt uncomfortable, I don't want to be exploited either.

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Louise

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« Reply #7 on: 25 March 2008, 07:42:55 am »
imho adultwork is not the best step to take when escorting for the first time
get yourself a website(you can do them for free yourself..try rare escort.com)
also get yourself listen on the main sites eg punterlink,uk belles (although saying that uk belles doesnt list free websites) punternet,puntingzone and maybe if you do fancy going onto adultwork just do a small profile and post a link to your website via there
the other route you can go down is a parlour you will have to give a % of your earnings for the upkeep of the house,I started that way and although its not for everyone i did learn the ropes so to speak stayed a few weeks then went on my own
getyourself onto forums and ask questions any of us here will be able to help you..also take advantage of Pennys buddy scheme you can either pm penny via here or there is a forum about it
good luck and dont forget to read the main site its very informative
good luck xx
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