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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #15 on: 02 June 2023, 07:06:26 pm »
Hi Kiss! No problem, I’m glad you find it useful.

I haven’t left my awful full-time job yet, as I wanted some savings behind me. I was encouraged by what you all said about men enjoying different ages. People are surprised at my age, so there’s life in the old fog yet! I cannot stand civvy jobs and I want to give myself the best chance at success by having put money aside. The men I have seen are so much nicer than some horrendous colleagues and
Disgusting managers. Like I said before at least you can choose who you interact with as an escort.

Ana I am genuinely interested to know why people still do this job if it is that dire out there? Surely they may as well get a full-time minimum wage civvy job?

I do this around casual work and other self employment (which is quite a balancing act at times!) Like you I can't bear full time corporate type jobs so this suits me well. I'm in my late forties and fairly low volume but I suspect there *could* be enough work to do this on a more full time basis if I had the energy. Mature women are very popular. But it's definitely wise to have savings before making the plunge.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #16 on: 02 June 2023, 10:19:53 pm »
Hi Kiss! No problem, I’m glad you find it useful.

I haven’t left my awful full-time job yet, as I wanted some savings behind me. I was encouraged by what you all said about men enjoying different ages. People are surprised at my age, so there’s life in the old fog yet! I cannot stand civvy jobs and I want to give myself the best chance at success by having put money aside. The men I have seen are so much nicer than some horrendous colleagues and
Disgusting managers. Like I said before at least you can choose who you interact with as an escort.

Ana I am genuinely interested to know why people still do this job if it is that dire out there? Surely they may as well get a full-time minimum wage civvy job?

Hi, I'm not saying is really dire out there, I'm saying the industry has changed, the economy too. Many men paying for cam girls  instead of escort services, guys getting laid for free on tinder and other sex apps etc... In order to succeed in this industry you need to create a niche and a regular clientele, getting established doesn't;t happen in a week, it requires time hence the reason I was recommending the OP to not quit her job right away and do a slow transition.
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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #17 on: 02 June 2023, 11:12:53 pm »
Ana I am genuinely interested to know why people still do this job if it is that dire out there? Surely they may as well get a full-time minimum wage civvy job?

Well not everybody can (or wants to) work full time because of illness or disability, personal circumstances, caring and family commitments plus all sorts of other things? This is not a place where we tell anybody having a bit of a shit few days/weeks that they should give up their job any more than we would if they were a lorry driver or a nurse, and I know from experience that having to work forty miserable hours for crap money is far worse than doing the odd crap booking for loads of it :D

Casual sex has existed alongside prostitution in one form or another for as long as there have been human beings, and I find things are better for me now than five years ago, but that's mostly down to a location change. I do think it's worth rethinking the way you operate now and again to see if it's still the best way for you, and as a newbie you're going to have a fair bit of trial and error to find this out :)

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #18 on: 03 June 2023, 11:07:11 am »
Thank you Ana and Amy for clarifying. I scared myself when you said the industry has changed, I was thinking  the bare minimum of a full time minimum wage isn’t even being reached.

 40 miserable hours made me laugh- I get that!

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #19 on: 03 June 2023, 10:03:30 pm »
Hi Raven and just read your post, I know I couldn't stand a job in the civvy realm. Escorting has given me so much control over my life and apart from the men who enjoy my time and pay for it, I love that I don't feel pressure to be in a relationship with a man for financial security and I support my family alone as a single parent and a ex that doesn't support my kids . Like any job I do have one week a month I don't want to work and I can afford to do just that. I choose my working hours. Escorting turned me off men but not because of any negative experiences from Escorting but because I actually have had better treatment and gains from men I interact with Escorting than when I was dating guys, I know get more respect and better sex.

When you start you will take a while to find your feet and your own boundaries and how to market yourself and all you have to offer. I started alone with no help or advice and I had to learn the hard way and had some negative situations but you learn. Having saafe and all the great advice on here you can avoid some mistakes newbies can make and with age brings confidence and men find that very sexy in a older woman and 50 is not old, I'm 42 and I feel better than when I was 32 and now have less stress and spare cash to take care of myself and if something breaks at home I know I can make the money and not take out a loan or stress about it. Escorting gives me peace of mind.

Negatives are like any form of self employment, If I'm ill, Get thrush or a coldsore then I can't work or have to offer limited services, Have to pay out for working accommodation and work hard to keep it a secret from people in my life and that's the hardest thing is the stigma. But I don't do casual sex or sleep around I just sell my assets and skills and provide therapy and help men harness feel good endorphins.

And camming can't replace what the guy's I attract want, They want a womans touch and company in person and I see guys up to 70 and they still get horny.

I can make from on a good day working 9.30 to 6pm Escorting what I wouldn't working 3 days in a 9-5 job.

I entered escorting with the idea I'd try it and see if it was something mentally and physically I would be OK with because your mental and physical health is what comes first and for me Escorting feels easy for me when I make sure I rest when I need to and refuse that last job if I'm tired and need to be home cuddled with my dogs and a chill.

I hope you have got lots of advice to help you decide.


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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #20 on: 05 June 2023, 04:13:54 pm »
MissElvira thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I really needed to hear that after another horrible day at the office.

I wish I had been able to start this full-time as an escort years ago, as I am being assessed for ADHD and I really struggle with civvy jobs.

I have only had positive experiences with men I’ve managed to see so far, so hopefully I can screen well. I am nearing the time I am going to go for full-time escorting and I cannot wait. Thanks again for the encouragement. 🤗

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #21 on: 05 June 2023, 10:59:34 pm »
Your very welcome Raven it's great you have had positive experiences :), I have ADHD and in the beginning I struggled with double booking people or forgetting advance bookings and time keeping when first Escorting but I have got so much better, I work best if busy because i hate sitting around but i fill time updating my profile and taking pictures, Go for walks.

If you need any advice then your welcome to private message me.



I'd get bored in a normal job and I like that everyday is different and I've got loads of lovely regulars that I've built up over the years.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #22 on: 07 June 2023, 01:52:43 pm »
I’m going to take you up on that MissElvira - thanks for the offer!  :) :)




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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #23 on: 09 June 2023, 07:03:28 am »
I am down as age 51 and as I have low overheads I work low volume which suits my health and personal circumstances. I am in fact late fifties but look younger so can easily justify age 51. I can easily earn enough as my profile photos and ratings are all very up to date.

I have kept my prices pre pandemic level however except for my half hour rate to which I added an extra tenner. Where I live is relatively poor however in comparison to say London/South east/South of England.

Hope this helps. I work maximum three small days a week.


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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #24 on: 09 June 2023, 07:34:32 am »
I also agree menopause can affect the job and the number of services we offer. I removed pussy licking and 69 but as I have changed to blonde hair there seems to be a scarcity of blonde escorts where I live so it has not reduced interest.

I know I couldn't physically cope with many clients a day on tour for example but luckily I do not need to generate a high income due to my low overheads.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #25 on: 09 June 2023, 11:29:44 am »
I know I couldn't physically cope with many clients a day on tour for example but luckily I do not need to generate a high income due to my low overheads.
I particularly admire women like you!
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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #26 on: 09 June 2023, 03:17:08 pm »
I particularly admire women like you!

Bless lol. Yes no mortgage no debt and not long sold the car. No longer needed. I feel very fortunate. Just as well though as I still get the no shows plus cancellations like we all do get hey ho.

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« Reply #27 on: 14 June 2023, 06:28:45 pm »
I have gone from one extreme to another, last September I dropped my hours down to essentially a zero hour contract, started full time in sex work again after a 5+ year break of being very part time, come April, I am back in civvy work full time, with very little/no time for sex work & not really being overly bothered about it tbh

I would give it some serious thought before making the leap, not just around finances but also around whether you can allow yourself a day off when you need it, are you OK with having a slow day/week and is being self employed the right way to go?  The freedom always seems appealing but sometimes if things go a little slow, can you power through

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #28 on: 14 June 2023, 07:13:08 pm »
I have gone from one extreme to another, last September I dropped my hours down to essentially a zero hour contract, started full time in sex work again after a 5+ year break of being very part time, come April, I am back in civvy work full time, with very little/no time for sex work & not really being overly bothered about it tbh

I would give it some serious thought before making the leap, not just around finances but also around whether you can allow yourself a day off when you need it, are you OK with having a slow day/week and is being self employed the right way to go?  The freedom always seems appealing but sometimes if things go a little slow, can you power through

Very good advice especially highlighting yes you can have freedom but more quieter periods too.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #29 on: 14 June 2023, 08:15:48 pm »
That’s good to hear Lushblossom I’m glad you meet your requirements.

Interesting points about quieter periods, but the way these unscrupulous businesses act these days I never feel particularly secure. They are literally chomping at the bit to sack me from my job at the moment due to a disability! They are not even worried about discrimination. Lots of my colleagues have been fired multiple in 1 week in my office a couple of months ago. I’m clinging on for a bit more to have a bit of a buffer so that I can do full-time.

Apart from having savings is there anything women do during quieter periods to earn? Like temping etc?