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I have barely any time to escort around my full-time civvy job. I would like to escort full time and be in charge of my own life and away from horrible colleagues who make life hell. At least with escorting you have the right to choose who you interact with.

Would anyone be willing to give their experiences of leaving full-time civvy work for full-time escorting. I desperately want to make this move.

As a 50 year old us with no private pension is it too late for to transition. When is the career over as an escort?

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #1 on: 11 February 2023, 04:33:25 pm »
Similar recent thread here

I'd agree you're probably a bit late to start a pension, but there are plenty of ways to save (mine is currently worth next to fuck all anyway and I started it at thirty). There is plenty of info on the likes of Money Saving Expert if you don't know where to start :).

Whether you should give up your job rather than just find a better one (which is a lot easier if you still have the first one) is a how long is a piece of string question; what are your financial commitments like? Do you rent or own, do you have debts to pay off or dependents (this isn't meant to be a How Middle Class Are You? question - where I'm from a fifty year old's kids would likely be thirty plus but in other places they'd barely be starting secondary school).

What is your general health like? Do you have enough stashed away that you could manage if you couldn't work for a month/three months/six months? I'm not really sure why you think age is relevant otherwise.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #2 on: 11 February 2023, 07:28:03 pm »
Thank you for your advice Amy. I am in a reasonably good but position I suppose.

It’s the same with everywhere I work, I
may enjoy the job but the toxic few ruin it; escorting is such a breath of fresh air in that respect - having choice helps with regards to life satisfaction!

General health is good (knock on wood)! I just wondered if there is an age where you wouldn’t get as many clients etc? I need to be doing this for many years and would want a decent amount of clients. Does she affect this?

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #3 on: 11 February 2023, 08:59:12 pm »
Thank you for your advice Amy. I am in a reasonably good but position I suppose.

It’s the same with everywhere I work, I
may enjoy the job but the toxic few ruin it; escorting is such a breath of fresh air in that respect - having choice helps with regards to life satisfaction!

General health is good (knock on wood)! I just wondered if there is an age where you wouldn’t get as many clients etc? I need to be doing this for many years and would want a decent amount of clients. Does she affect this?

Speaking as someone who only started escorting a few years ago at the age of 55, as far as I can tell age just isn't an issue so don't let affect your decision. Younger men in their 20's and 30's like to fulfill the mature woman fantasy. Men in their 40's and beyond often prefer to be with someone who isn't the same age as their daughter / granddaughter. Capitalise on your years of experience!

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #4 on: 11 February 2023, 09:10:49 pm »
Boudoir thank you for taking the time to respond. Reassuring to know that older ages can be capitalised on in this business too!

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #5 on: 11 February 2023, 11:44:09 pm »
I don't think being a bit older (at least up to 60ish) will mean you aren't busy, as there is definitely a significant market for 50+ escorts, both of younger men and those who feel more comfortable seeing someone closer to their own age.

What I would consider is:

1. The menopause
My libido, which was admittedly high beforehand, plummeted. I know we don't need to be turned on or feel 'sexy' to escort, but I think mentally it can make a big difference to motivation and job satisfaction. My natural lubrication also almost totally disappeared over 2–3 years, and while lube obviously fixes that, you may not be able to physically handle as much PIV sex, or at least prolonged, rougher etc.

2. Being 100% reliant on escorting for income
After being made redundant, I escorted full time for 4–5 months before setting up as a freelancer in my original profession, and since then have combined the two. It's worked very well for me, as I could escort more when my other work was slack, but drop it when I was busy. It also meant I had another stream of income, and I think that protects you a little from making bad decisions about who to see/what services to offer, e.g. seeing a client you don't like because you're desperate for cash.

3. Friends & family
More minor, but what would you tell friends, family, neighbours etc. you're doing for a living if you escort full-time for more than a few months. Any issues with a CV gap, mortgage, banks etc. etc.?
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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #6 on: 12 February 2023, 06:44:50 am »
you can do cam also. there is market for your age range. lol they want mommy (incest is banned however...) step mum and they like you call them good boy
this is not something i like ::) :-X but just to report what guys want to....fantasies! watch porn and you can see there is a big market around.
many want same age escort, they want a woman not a girl so even for convo etc... it is not just about body apparence
i m 41 LOL i care about myself and my look. i started very late.
you can look beautiful and sexy at any age.
there are old lady superstar on onlyfans also. start on weekends maybe? to have an idea before to jump on full time basis.
escort or sex industry is hard like any job IMO, it is v immediately rewarding but far from easy, no job is perfect. you ll meet interesting men and dealing with idiots also  ;D ;D ;D in any job that :)))))

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #7 on: 12 February 2023, 08:09:01 am »
I second what Kay said in regard to menopause. I started age 43. I hit full menopause about a year ago and in the run up to that I found my ability to withstand long drawn out penetration rapidly disappeared. Now I'm on the right HRT things have rapidly improved, however.
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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #8 on: 12 February 2023, 01:43:12 pm »
There is a thread about menopause and sex work here:

https://saafe.info/main/questions-and-answers/sex-work-and-the-menopause/ :)

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #9 on: 13 February 2023, 03:45:15 pm »
Thank you Kay good for thought.

My secret - I really don’t fancy canning but thank you for the suggestion.

Voluptuous Curves did you quit a full-time job to escort full-time? Did you find it works out well for you after a few years if you don’t mind me asking?

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Could you combine the escorting with doin ga part time civvy job perhaps?

Work say 25 hours a week in a civvy job and fit your es orting around that?

It may help to balance out your perspective a bit......... 

If you do intend to go full time with escorting just be aware that self-employment is a tough gig and involves a lot of work and you must have contingencies if you cannot meet your targets financially:

a) what happens if you are depending on meeting a client who cancels?
b) what happens if you get shortchanged?
c) what happens if you get zero bookings for the day/week/month?
d) are you touring or will you offer incalls?
e) local clients or will your market be out of towners/ international gents?


All these factors need to be taken into consideration when you decide to go the full time escort route.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #11 on: 01 June 2023, 10:12:42 am »
I would agree with the menopause factor, im 49 and dealing with perimenopause which has caused my crippling anxiety and made it impossible to see new clients, the thought makes me feel physically sick. These things obviously affect us all in different ways but its something worth knowing, best of luck.

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #12 on: 01 June 2023, 04:18:41 pm »
I have barely any time to escort around my full-time civvy job. I would like to escort full time and be in charge of my own life and away from horrible colleagues who make life hell. At least with escorting you have the right to choose who you interact with.

Would anyone be willing to give their experiences of leaving full-time civvy work for full-time escorting. I desperately want to make this move.

As a 50 year old us with no private pension is it too late for to transition. When is the career over as an escort?
Thankyou for posting this, it's a older post I've not been on saafe in ages .How are you getting on ? I'm in a situation where I also don't have a pension too .I'm going to have to return to escorting as I'm crap with money and need more ! I've only worked full time in my civvy job I can't afford to quit I dread getting sick

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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #13 on: 01 June 2023, 11:11:45 pm »
I believe quitting a full time job for self employment in abrupt manner is quite a risk, any self employment I mean, unless you have massive savings to cover you up. If I were you I would start dipping your toe first, maybe work weekends or evenings, build clients, see if it's working for you and once you see you're able to transition to full time self employment then quit your job. the sex industry is not what it used to be 5 or 10 years ago.
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Re: Another toxic civvy job/full time escorting but what about ageing?!
« Reply #14 on: 02 June 2023, 06:36:05 pm »
Hi Kiss! No problem, I’m glad you find it useful.

I haven’t left my awful full-time job yet, as I wanted some savings behind me. I was encouraged by what you all said about men enjoying different ages. People are surprised at my age, so there’s life in the old fog yet! I cannot stand civvy jobs and I want to give myself the best chance at success by having put money aside. The men I have seen are so much nicer than some horrendous colleagues and
Disgusting managers. Like I said before at least you can choose who you interact with as an escort.

Ana I am genuinely interested to know why people still do this job if it is that dire out there? Surely they may as well get a full-time minimum wage civvy job?