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Justine

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When they say it is not your fault
« on: 13 November 2019, 11:05:50 am »
I imagine we have all had this one. Client just can not climax no matter what he/I/we do to get him there. No suggestion of extending time and I am fairly strict with not letting them go more than a few minutes past paid time if they are not interested in paying for more.

They say it's not your fault. We know it isn't!

What do you reply. I usually say I know it isn't my fault, just one of those days when it's not going to happen.

I have never felt guilty if they go home with full balls.
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SWgirl

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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #1 on: 13 November 2019, 11:20:52 am »
Oh this is reverse psychology in my opinion. He wants to try and make it seem like it’s your fault without directly saying it so you won’t get offended.

Regardless you know it isn’t your fault but he seems like a sneaky sod trying to get 1 up over you.

I’ve had it in both personal and professional and both times they were on drugs so of course it wasn’t anything to do with me.

Kind of condescending too, I personally wouldn’t want to see him again.

Hat off to you for not biting back I’d have struggled.
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #2 on: 13 November 2019, 11:49:06 am »
I have loads of people who are just too nervous or old for them to get there. The majority just apologise and I tell them it's okay which it very much is. Doesn't make one iota of difference to me  :)
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #3 on: 13 November 2019, 11:55:40 am »
Ohh yeah I have had that. I reply pretty much with what you say. One guy couldn’t get hard and then said he had some nose snow before arriving which normally helped him in bed ‘but oh please don’t blame yourself, it’s not your fault.’ I know it’s not my fault mate. Think he seemed a bit taken aback that I wasn’t apologizing for not getting him off. I do my best for all clients but if it’s not gonna happen, it’s not gonna happen.
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #4 on: 13 November 2019, 12:34:00 pm »
I would not accept bookings from a cokehead because it’s guaranteed I’m gonna spend x hours dealing with a limp spaghetti dick. If they take that without telling me it’s entirely on them and they’d get chucked out with no refund. Similar with “I’ve had a few beers I’m nervous”.
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SWgirl

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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #5 on: 13 November 2019, 02:07:08 pm »
Quote from: NorthernStar on 13 November 2019, 12:34:00 pm
I would not accept bookings from a cokehead because it’s guaranteed I’m gonna spend x hours dealing with a limp spaghetti dick. If they take that without telling me it’s entirely on them and they’d get chucked out with no refund. Similar with “I’ve had a few beers I’m nervous”.

I adopted the same thing after I had one guy refuse to leave until he has finished.
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #6 on: 13 November 2019, 06:27:16 pm »
Quote from: Justine on 13 November 2019, 11:05:50 am
I imagine we have all had this one. Client just can not climax no matter what he/I/we do to get him there. No suggestion of extending time and I am fairly strict with not letting them go more than a few minutes past paid time if they are not interested in paying for more.

They say it's not your fault. We know it isn't!

What do you reply. I usually say I know it isn't my fault, just one of those days when it's not going to happen.

I have never felt guilty if they go home with full balls.

I’m pretty much the same as yourself. I say I know it’s not my fault, it can’t be helped, sometimes it happens. I will usually add I bet you will pop at home thinking about the booking.

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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #7 on: 13 November 2019, 11:42:32 pm »
Or they say oh this is unusual do not usually not happen, this is when they usually expect you to offer more free time as must be our fault if they not emptied there sack.

I think it is really bad manners and rude of them to just expect more free time. They pay for a certain time period and yes we do sexual stuff with that time but there is no contract that states the agreement is we must make them ejaculate or we have not completed our job.

When i get a massage i always start to feel more relaxed near the end of time and do not want it to end but would never say just give me 5 more minutes as it is not enough yet they set there clock then when it is up they walk out which is business and professional.
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Wailing Banshee

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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #8 on: 14 November 2019, 02:32:58 pm »
I think plenty of them are genuine when they say 'it's not your fault', it's a nice thing to say if they think we think we might have let them down in some way. I don't think interpreting client's words in a negative way all the time is particularly helpful (which seems to be happening here more and more!)

 
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CelesteManchester

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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #9 on: 14 November 2019, 04:36:03 pm »
Quote from: Wailing Banshee on 14 November 2019, 02:32:58 pm
I think plenty of them are genuine when they say 'it's not your fault', it's a nice thing to say if they think we think we might have let them down in some way. I don't think interpreting client's words in a negative way all the time is particularly helpful (which seems to be happening here more and more!)

Very true, but I'm always listening, listening, watching, watching. I'm watching body language. I'm watching their eyes; it's very hard to lie & keep your micro expressions from giving you away. Yes, I watch too much Criminal Minds, lol.

I genuinely try & give it my best. After 45 minutes into their hour & it's clear nothing's going to happen, then it's no longer on me & I have no guilt, nor any compunctions about sending them on their way, especially when they've been given the 15 minute heads up.

If you can't pop in an hour, that's a YP, not a MP.
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #10 on: 14 November 2019, 04:47:00 pm »
I'll do 5-10 minutes then session's over. I say sympathetically they're  impotent 'tired' and they agree. It gives them an 'out'.
« Last Edit: 14 November 2019, 04:49:35 pm by saltysweet »
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #11 on: 14 November 2019, 08:40:41 pm »
Quote from: saltysweet on 14 November 2019, 04:47:00 pm
I'll do 5-10 minutes then session's over. I say sympathetically they're  impotent 'tired' and they agree. It gives them an 'out'.

You're a kind soul, my sister from another mother♥️. You're nicer than me, but that probably has to do with the whole "raised in another country" thing😉😆.
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #12 on: 14 November 2019, 08:44:19 pm »
 ;D i am starting  to say...ah well happens to many...any age ...i think that it is your diet! ahah are you eating your greens?  ;D ;D ;D
 ::) when they said it is not my fault ...i am listening..no comment...
i do not make further effort bc when do not work...do not work...
more you push more not work... getting stressed more and me i get bored! so i try to end the booking asap!  >:D
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #13 on: 14 November 2019, 08:47:37 pm »
Quote from: CelesteManchester on 14 November 2019, 08:40:41 pm
You're a kind soul, my sister from another mother♥️. You're nicer than me, but that probably has to do with the whole "raised in another country" thing😉😆.

Aww shucks Celeste  :-* Fake smiles get them out the door quicker. Flies and honey.
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Re: When they say it is not your fault
« Reply #14 on: 15 November 2019, 11:09:05 pm »
Quote from: mySecret on 14 November 2019, 08:44:19 pm
;D i am starting  to say...ah well happens to many...any age ...i think that it is your diet! ahah are you eating your greens?  ;D ;D ;D
 ::) when they said it is not my fault ...i am listening..no comment...
i do not make further effort bc when do not work...do not work...
more you push more not work... getting stressed more and me i get bored! so i try to end the booking asap!  >:D

This is so true! Why do they try force it? If we have tie left, this is when I take a really gentle / tantric approach and sometimes, I am amazed, it atually works! Not always, but sometimes. Definitely more effective than the death grip hard wanking that they try!!

If it doesn't happen, I know for sure it is not my fault. I have developed some mad skills in making men cum so I know it's not me!! :-P
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