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Aliceinwonderland

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Am I being to fussy
« on: 03 November 2012, 01:20:37 pm »
Hello all

My name is Louise and Im a newbie. I created a profile on AW in the last 48hrs and have had two messages both of whitch I didn't even respond to.

The first message literally said "you workin tonite"
This one ignored as they didn't even bother to spell "working" or "tonight" correctly. In personal life these terms are ok but in business if I sent an email to someone I would expect to be ignored if I used slang.

the second from a different person said "hi baby will you do an outcall for ?50"
This one was ignored as they didn't even specify a the time frame as I'm outcall only I don't do 15min bookings its a minimum of 1/2 an hour and if he's expecting a hour for ?50 he's dreaming!

Moreover there was no politness to either message. Im not a snob but I want the contact from clients to be respectful and polite as I feel it gives you an insight into the type of client they are.

Am I correct to do this or am I being to dismissive?

Thankyou for any help

Best Wishes

Louise

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #1 on: 03 November 2012, 01:33:28 pm »
Louise, welcome to SAAFE.  With being a newbie on AW, you will receive a million and one emails from TWs. Not all corresponders will be TWs but its just something you have to take with a pinch of salt.  There is a facility that guys can use that informs them of EVERY newbie to the site, which in their eyes is good but in ours it is not.  Be prepared for similar emails for the next 6 months, they all chance their arm and luck and most annoying to receive but ........................................

It is your perogative whether you wish to respond to an email or not.  Nothing to do with fussiness, just a right.

You may find through time that even doing 30 minutes outcalls in not worthwhile either.  Many WGs will not do an outcall if it is any less than one hour and with others it is two hours depending just how far from home it is.  It is up to you to decide though but never travel any further by whatever mode of transport you choose than it will take to do the booking.

We all want our clients to be discreet, polite and respectful, unfortunately we dont always get what we want and sometimes if it is not obvious from the outset then we have to cut the booking short.

It is up to yourself how you run your business (and yes whoring/prossying IS a business) so it is up to you how you run things and that has to be in a way that you are comfortable with.
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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #2 on: 03 November 2012, 02:54:19 pm »
Hi, Welcome to SAAFE :)

Personally, I think you did the right thing in ignoring. Basic politeness costs nothing, and if the first guy can't even be bothered to type "Hi, are you working tonight? Thanks" then he's not the sort of guy I'd like to see. Some ladies may disagree, but it works for me.

Second guy is already trying to haggle and push your boundaries before you've even met, so imagine what he could be like in the bedroom??

I think what you're calling "fussy" is actually a gut-reaction, and by listening to that inner voice you're doing exactly the right thing.

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #3 on: 03 November 2012, 03:15:40 pm »
Hi Louise and welcome to Saafe  :)

As the girls have already said you did the right thing with the 'Newbie Hunters', well done, it's daunting when you first start!

What I would add is make sure your profile has the answer to these types of questions to save people emailing you to ask them. OK not everyone reads the whole of your profile but then you have the option of sending an auto response telling them that if they have a question about your services/availability/rates/etc. then they should read your profile fully for there answer. If they are asking a daft question which can be answered on your profile then don't give them any more of your time.

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #4 on: 03 November 2012, 05:23:35 pm »
Yes, what they said.

It's also good to remember that no-one's spelling and grammar are perfect all the time: there are two 'o's in 'too' :)

(I'm still embarrassed at adding an extra 'u' to 'usage' in a post somewhere else this week. Twice. :-[ )
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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #5 on: 03 November 2012, 07:44:21 pm »
If I get a half arsed email like "u working 2nite bb" i dont answer it. Im not a snob or high class, but it`s about respectful contact to a business women in regard to her services and these types of guys usually turn out to be timewasters, outcall quickies or just plain immature men anyway. Just my opinion though.


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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #6 on: 03 November 2012, 09:05:34 pm »
Welcome to the our planet!
From now onwards you will see so many strange e-mails that you'll take no notice of them any more....

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #7 on: 03 November 2012, 10:07:18 pm »
If I get a half arsed email like "u working 2nite bb" i dont answer it. Im not a snob or high class, but it`s about respectful contact to a business women in regard to her services and these types of guys usually turn out to be timewasters, outcall quickies or just plain immature men anyway. Just my opinion though.

It's also my opinion... I do not claim to be a queen and I do not expect to be treated like that but at least I want respect for what I do and the politeness of someone can be seen also from  a simply email.

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #8 on: 03 November 2012, 10:17:43 pm »
I've only just started escorting and still haven't seen a client because I am very fussy. I spend more time deleting idiots than replying to the occasional few nice people. I do have someone to see next week, who I'm convinced is NOT a timewaster - due to a lot of excellent feedback - it wasn't his fault he got poorly and I said to just get better first, as I don't want to catch it.

But, really, even though I have massive bold type on my profile saying to not text me, or bother leaving voicemail, guess what I get loads of? *sigh*

It is so lovely when the nicer ones actually engage their upstairs brain before making the downstairs one communicate in a stupid manner.  ;D

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #9 on: 05 November 2012, 06:08:23 pm »
If I get a half arsed email like "u working 2nite bb" i dont answer it. Im not a snob or high class, but it`s about respectful contact to a business women in regard to her services and these types of guys usually turn out to be timewasters, outcall quickies or just plain immature men anyway. Just my opinion though.

It's also my opinion... I do not claim to be a queen and I do not expect to be treated like that but at least I want respect for what I do and the politeness of someone can be seen also from  a simply email.

True I think that's what is expected, a serious client is normally very polite, respectful and specific. Louise you are in the right track and there s nothing wrong with what you are doing.

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #10 on: 05 November 2012, 08:20:26 pm »
hi Louise :) Im a newbie also and ignore more messages than i respond too, or i just send a message saying, sorry im not available. Like everyone said there are more TWs than decent genuine clients, you can never be too picky in this, safety and health before anything.

Feedback is a good indicator of the client and have a look at the girls theyve seen previously. Although saying this i've seen a few guys this week who havent had an escort before, give them a number or ask for theirs and speak to them first. the more checks the better :) xx

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #11 on: 05 November 2012, 10:51:16 pm »
Welcome to the our planet!
From now onwards you will see so many strange e-mails that you'll take no notice of them any more....

 True, some strange emails are to be blocked if too rude and annoying not worth replying at all.

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #12 on: 06 November 2012, 04:42:01 pm »
Hi ladies,

Thankyou for the replies I dont feel so much like Im being a princess now. So far all I have had is timewasters :-\

Although one did provide me with some fun when I was bored he said he wanted to book me for an overnight booking in London, his profile seemed iffy so I said I did not do the London area he just kept replied with his number and a list of times he was avliable for me to call him and see where he could fit me into his schedule lol I didn't realise I had to book the clients.

Another guy contacted me very polite lovely in fact! He also wanted an overnight booking in London. This guy even had excellent feedback!!! Then here came the catch I'm based in the midlands and this guy wanted an over night in central london for ?200!!! Apparently other ladies do this for him. I cant see why anyone would do an overnight booking for such a small price baffles me.

Oh well the search continues for a real first booking.

Love Louise xxxx

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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #13 on: 06 November 2012, 05:00:32 pm »
@AliceInWonderland. You DO NOT book the guys.  It is up to them to book YOU.  If I read the post correctly he simply gave you times he was available.  But if you are in Midlands and London is a no go (I dont know I'm in Scotland and dont know the distance) then no probs.
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Re: Am I being to fussy
« Reply #14 on: 06 November 2012, 05:46:57 pm »
@AliceInWonderland. You DO NOT book the guys.  It is up to them to book YOU.  If I read the post correctly he simply gave you times he was available.  But if you are in Midlands and London is a no go (I dont know I'm in Scotland and dont know the distance) then no probs.

Hi Lady lust

I don't mind going to London as I said it was just that his profile seemed iffy his feedback was hidden and he was offering ?2000 for the night and you know what they say if it sounds to good to be true it usually is. So telling him I didn't work in London was just a polite way saying no thank you. After this he just repeatedly sent emails with his number telling me to call him and arrange a meeting no matter how many times I said no. If this guy was a genuine client I would have no problem calling him to arrange a time of course but this guy didnt understand the meaning of No written in an email so Id rather not be in a room with him.

Love Lou x