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lady c

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am i being paranoid about ...
« on: 08 June 2012, 11:24:03 pm »
the ex finding out... we are not on good terms as i had a restraining order put on him with power of arrest if he breeches it, he is scary and capable of anything..however he sees his little girl through access that is regulated through a court order. I chose to do this job as i wanted too so there was no pressure and no one knows..
Lately he my ex has made the odd comment its just time, he is waiting  for me to cock up? i should expect a few surprises on the door mat?? and last night i had a text, do u have a tattoo on ur foot off an enquiry?? i do, however i said no.. I have been to police about his mind games and they said as long as there are no threats they cant do anything.yet... He has threatened he wants custody and will win one day but it is only for his benefit to hurt me, we are happy and my little one has a routine so why would he try and spoil that to hurt me..Is he onto me???

lili69

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Re: am i being paranoid about ...
« Reply #1 on: 08 June 2012, 11:33:33 pm »
It may feel like you are being paranoid, but equally if something sets off your "Spidey sense" then it wise to follow your instincts.  I would definitely be as paranoid as you want to be to ensure that your escorting stays secret if you need it to be that way.

There is a lot of stigma attached to being a working girl, I wish people realised that it really isn't as sordid as they think.  Most of the time we are just being paid to be discreet so that guys can have some sexual release without any strings attached.  I wish I'd know before I started escorting how much kindness and respect I would be treated with (most of the time) - I'd have started years ago if I'd known!

casey_kisses

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Re: am i being paranoid about ...
« Reply #2 on: 08 June 2012, 11:34:47 pm »
It is possible he is onto you. Even if he is, he has no way to prove it right now. Make sure you are as discreet as possible... even if that means changing your appearance completely for photos and escort bookings and changing where/how you work.

At least you know he can't come to your door... if he does he is the one who is breaking the law and not you (through breaking the restraining order).
Even if he did find out, considering there is a restraining order against him, and it's your word against his, they would probably believe you anyway.

Unfortunately some people are just unstable, and you just have to focus on protecting yourself and your child.

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lady c

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Re: am i being paranoid about ...
« Reply #3 on: 08 June 2012, 11:38:22 pm »
he had me followed once, that is why i can,t trust him....I am worried a bit as he wants custody but this does not affect my child at all as many of you know...

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Re: am i being paranoid about ...
« Reply #4 on: 18 June 2012, 07:21:55 pm »
personally, i don't think he knows anything. It sounds like he just wants to freak you out. Would it be possible for you to move to a different area?
Even if he does find out, so what? you are doing nothing wrong and i doubt anyone would believe him anyway x  ;)

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Re: am i being paranoid about ...
« Reply #5 on: 19 June 2012, 10:30:29 am »
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Escort38

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Re: am i being paranoid about ...
« Reply #6 on: 19 June 2012, 11:09:50 am »
We can become paranoid over these things, thinking people know when they don't.
I was surprised to read about your tattoo though, you have admitted it on here so
you can hope he hasn't discovered this forum!

Plain backdrops on photos, not showing ANYTHING which could identify you, altering
your details on your profile/website or wherever you advertise(you can alter your
text to slightly change your age/height/boob size etc, not so much that any client
would think you were duping them of course).

Be most careful what you write on forums though! I think that is the number one thing
to do.