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Title: Am I being over cautious
Post by: sugar on 07 October 2021, 09:40:04 pm
Hi ladies

I recieved a message from a client with 117 feedback.

This is the booking I turned down.

Hi ***** tomorrow lunchtime sounds possible x can I just check that you passionately deep French kiss please? This is absolutely essential XXX I will be clean shaven and nice minty fresh breathe XXX also as you can see from my adultwork feedback I have done a naughty scenario several times which is very sexy ... When I arrive outside your place you are totally naked with your fabulous body oiled from head to toe and pleasuring yourself on the bed when I enter your room I put payment immediately on the side then I get naked and totally oiled up then orally pleasure you then make passionate love to you can we do this *****? Hope so it's super sensual and erotic ;-) As you can see from my adultwork feedback all of the ladies I have done this with have thoroughly enjoyed themselves hehe xxx

I turned him down because:
1)I didnt want to leave the front door open for him, while waiting for him naked on bed. Leaving myself vulnerable.
2) wanted to take the money in my hands and hide it, before he see's any part of my body, let alone masturbating for him immediately. I dont like leaving money on the side, in the open. They can snatch it back and run.
3) never met him before, not a regular. I dont trust him coming on , without me meeting him at the front door.
4) I dont rely on feedback anymore, past experiences have showed me , that feedback can be deceiving.

Am I being too fussy and over cautious??  He sent me texts afterwards, saying other girls have no problems with it, so why am I being so difficult.  Would any other ladies do this booking??
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Luvmylips on 07 October 2021, 09:43:41 pm

He sounds like an absolute nutter to be honest.   I think you are smart in turning him down.  He wants to begin service without you counting the money and hiding it away - that is a no no for me.

Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Mirror on 07 October 2021, 09:45:59 pm
Not at all, lots of alarm bells and even if he is harmless - you don't know that.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: sugar on 07 October 2021, 09:47:26 pm
That was my initial thought.......The thing that made me question myself, is all his positive feedback from other girls.  I can only assume, that maybe they met him before, and trust him with this weird request.   Lol
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Miffy on 07 October 2021, 09:50:27 pm
Ignore his feedback, that has nothing to do with anything. You don't like what he has proposed. This is more than enough for you to decline him without any further thought.

Quote from: sugar
He sent me texts afterwards, saying other girls have no problems with it, so why am I being so difficult.  Would any other ladies do this booking??

If others don't have any problems with it, it would be a better use of his time contacting one of them. He's clearly trying to bully you into accepting the booking. This is not behaviour of a decent man.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: BethElizabeth on 07 October 2021, 09:51:04 pm
There's no way I would have accepted this booking. I think you did the right thing.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Dora on 07 October 2021, 09:59:50 pm
Nothing is 'absolutely essential' and you have the absolute right to turn down any service at any time. That includes during the session. Decide what *you* are willing to do and don't feel bad about saying no.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Miffy on 07 October 2021, 10:03:52 pm
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As you can see from my adultwork feedback all of the ladies I have done this with have thoroughly enjoyed themselves hehe xxx

How do you even know all this feedback is even about this scenario? This to me would be a huge red flag.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Lady Frog on 07 October 2021, 10:13:56 pm
Not in a million years would I do this.
Once  I had a regular client suggest very similar, that I could leave the door on the latch and be lying naked on the bed for him. He suggested this after we had met a few times and to give him credit, once I said no he never mentioned it again. I'm 99% sure he would have behaved as he was a lovely gent but still, if I lived to be a million, I would not do it.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: fallen angel on 07 October 2021, 11:02:19 pm
Not a chance that I would agree to this with a new client.
I have done something similar with a guy that I saw quite often but only after I felt comfortable that he could be trusted.
The fact that he is saying you are being "difficult" for refusing is a huge red flag. He is trying to bully you. Stick to your guns and if you are not entirely happy then don't do it.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: ladyofthemansion on 07 October 2021, 11:55:02 pm
I would say yes as long as he pays the full fee in advance via bank transfer.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: saltysweet on 08 October 2021, 01:56:50 am
No your right.
Anything longer than a sentence I don't bother reading as it's mostly a chain letter wankfest.

I've seen a near identical rapey senarios in aw a few times and Craig's list a while back. I think it does the rounds for years.

I'd not even respond to stuff like this as they probably get off on sw reading his crap.

Now he's jerking off pressurising you... it's free entertainment for him and you are the unpaid victim'.

I'm not interested in feedback.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: saltysweet on 08 October 2021, 02:04:13 am
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Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Kay on 08 October 2021, 03:33:43 am
I'm sure I've seen this (or very similar) before, and no – umpteen red flags, particularly being naked and oily when he arrives.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: lillybliss on 08 October 2021, 05:41:56 am
I had that same message some time ago and instantly blocked the guy, feedback doesn't mean much to me and also I am not into being told to smother myself in oil from head to toe I mean no but really how inconvenient.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Phoenix on 08 October 2021, 06:17:10 am
Was his feedback all from actual Escort bookings and not webcam stuff? 🤔
Wouldn't touch this in a million years.
Entitled prat.
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: abbeyss on 08 October 2021, 08:17:14 am
I got the very same message from this guy a couple of years ago,

perfect meeting for a peep and go guy,

my response was , yes sure  i will book you in, full payment upfront via Amazon gift voucher please,

he didnt reply

asking for a deposit , or full payment upfront gets rid of them,

Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Clarabella on 08 October 2021, 08:21:09 am
You lost me at: ‘I just want to check you do passionate deep french kissing as it’s essential’.
Screw that. What if he showed up with horrendous breath and didn’t know it? You’d feel pressured to do it. His attitude sucks and these are the types of clients I avoid at all costs to preserve my wellbeing. They’re usually awful to deal with!

Never in a million years would I consider allowing myself being vulnerable by leaving the door open. Especially never having met him! What if it’s an ambush and several men enter. You’d be effed!
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Milkymoo26 on 08 October 2021, 10:44:46 am
I recieved the same email a few months back. Lol. Blocked and moved on
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Nervous-newbie on 08 October 2021, 11:24:56 am
Nope you did exactly what I would have done. Why would men even think this would be ok  :FF
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: amy on 08 October 2021, 01:05:11 pm
God, I wouldn't have even replied. Insta-block :D
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: KirstyKiss on 08 October 2021, 04:53:35 pm
God, I wouldn't have even replied. Insta-block :D

Ditto
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Nadya on 08 October 2021, 07:17:05 pm
Hell to the Nah! 

Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: mimi_ on 08 October 2021, 08:31:23 pm
Gross. You already know he's greasy haired, got about three teeth and "kisses" like a washing machine on the spin cycle. Brrrr, good for you saying no!  :o
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Miss Fox2020 on 09 October 2021, 09:43:40 pm
Not a chance…immediate BLOCK!!

Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: KirstyKiss on 09 October 2021, 11:02:00 pm
I've had quite a few emails similar to this over the years with ridiculous demands and all raving about their glowing feedback.
They are the worst type of punters who think they are God's gift.
I've had it by phonecall too when I ignore their email.
They don't handle rejection well  ;D
Title: Re: Am I being over cautious
Post by: Milf-G on 17 November 2021, 07:36:17 pm
I've had similar requests, some which have involved me being blindfolded and never removing it. I have refused all such requests. Firstly, my door is locked behind them to prevent anyone else coming in after. Secondly, payment on arrival before any 'fun'. Scenarios like this make me very, very uncomfortable. Bullshit on the feedback.