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Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« on: 13 June 2010, 09:26:40 pm »
Hi everyone,

I have a beautiful flat in regents park london which i love. Its my home, i have my cats here, my family and friends always visit,i have the park on my doorstep, basically i cant imagine moving. Ive been here 1 year with no problems at all. I work for a few main london agencies, and i have never had problems here. I try not to do many incalls here a week- probably 2 or 3 a week max and i try to do them when my neighbours are at work during the day.

But ive been having problems with one client for a year now. Hes a horrid young asian guy from a council estate, hes very rough. I saw him when i first started with the agencies and i was younger and much more naive. It was at my old flat, in a different area, and i straight away felt unsafe. He was young and asian, very rough, and i cant imagine how he had ?800 in cash to give me...in ?5 notes, all of it. So im guessing hes a drug dealer or similar, he didnt even seem inteligent enough to work at tesco.

He was jumpy, kept asking if there was anyone in the flat with me, did i have a bf, was that my home, he especially kept looking at my jewellery i was wearing. I got extremely freaked out, i was sure he wanted to rob me or worse. When he was leaving he gave me his mobile number and i didnt want to upset him in any way so i took it, i really was scared he would do something to me. I just had no intention of calling him of course when he told me he wanted me to leave him a missed call there and then. i was so scared and i did. After that he kept harrasing me for ages, calling how much he wants to see me, i told him i had a bf and to back off, but nicely as i ddnt want to make him mad- hes not the kind of guy to mess with. He then turned up randomly a few times at my old place but when he heard my bf at the intercom he went. Then i moved to regents park and got a new number.

Since then hes been booking me with different agencies, using different names and mobile numbers. He comes across very sweet, and says he has seen me before. The agency give him my address and he comes. Last time he did this was 5 months ago. Unfortunetely my lock on the building door was broken and even though it was just for that one day, that day was the day he decided to come. He let himself into the building. I open the door in a rush, expecting it to be the postman (he turned up 15mn early) and there he is. My heart stopped and i said i couldnt see him, my landlord had just turned up and i couldnt. I told him to call the agency and they would send him to someone else.

Except he decided to bang and kick my door for a good 20 min, calling me a whore and he has money so why wont i see him. I shouted through the door to tell him to go away, i was even crying by that point so scared my neighbours would hear, he knew i was crying and then i could see him throwing money at my door, shouting hes got money and hes here for the 'service'....my agency called him right away saying they would call the police, he said he didnt care. If in the middle of the day he doesnt mind shouting in my building im here to see the whore, and heres  more money then im sure he would have no shame to tell the police this.

 After 3 threats to call the police he left. But was shouting in my entire block. I was in shock and didnt leave my flat for a week, and since then avoid my neighbours like the plague. One of the other things he shouted was that i didnt want to see him because i was racist bitch. I was scared for ages, but eventually u get back to normal life and i put it out of my mind after a month or so. Then today he came back. This time my lock downstairs was working. He called another agency this time and made a booking with me. I always ask if hes a regular and who he is etc, how long the agency have known him before i do incalls but this time i was just in a really good mood, id had an awful week work wise and was actually looking forward to a 3 hr incall! he said he wanted asap...ok i said id be ready in 30 min...he said no, asap...ok so 15mins...ok, i thought maybe hes shopping in selfridges and very near by?

2 HOURS LATER and my heart is beating like mad, who is this guy, WHY did i agree soooo easily, whats wrong with me! then this fear just struck me- 2 hours to get to me??? and i just find out hes youngish and asian, and they DONT KNOW HIM?! I just KNEW it was him. i call the agency straight away, they told me not to worry that they would cancel it. At the same time i felt bad thinking i may be wrong and ive just lost them 3 hrs commission. i switch my camera for downstairs on, and of course, there he is. hes on the phone, looking like hes arguing and looking mad as hell. my heart just stopped. I called the agency but their phone was engaged, so it was them he was talking to. I ran and switched off the music and tv and got my cats in my bedroom, locking every lock on the door, turning off the lights. I had told the agency as he had taken so long when he wanted ''asap' i had already left and they told him this, that i had already left.


 A normal person would have just said im sorry, and gone back home. oh not him. so waits for some kids to come out of my block and lets himself in. then i hear him pounding my door screaming i know youre in there u slut. I call the agency terrified and they call him to leave and they would send him to another girl (and were really going to send him to a guys house so they could speak with him) This made him worse. he said he wanted to see ME. I could hear him then kicking the door and looking through the letterbox. The letterbox going up and down. Again after threats to call police he doesnt leave. so my agency called them. It took them ONE hour to arrive. They came with the usual excuses, how busy it is in central london today, and how because my 'friend' had called they didnt take it was seriously/or as urgently as if i had called them. He had by then gone and they did walk around my building but didnt see him, they also took a look as they left me and called me to say he wasnt around.


When they came i didnt know what to say. The agency advised me not to say how i met him, another agecy told me to say the truth. But i didnt. If i said he was a ''client'' i thought they would judge me, it would forever be in my notes of what happened day that i had been ''working'', i couldnt bear it. I told them i didnt know him that hes just been turning up and i dont know why, the rest i told them the truth. A man police officer and a woman came. The woman was actually very nice and understanding but the man kept questioning everything i said.


The first thing he did was ask me if my pictures are on the internet anywhere, and am i sure...i said no of course not...i said this guy just had a crazy obsession with me. which he does as he wont see anyone else. ive now spoken to all the agencies and he has rang LOADS of times for me but luckily ive also been away, or busy etc. the woman officer called me a few hours later to say how sorry she is, and if i ever call them again they will be there in few mins...but im so scared...he will just go shout hes got money and hes here to see the prostitute!!! he wont care!!! hes physco...i know its his word against mine and they cant prove it but if he says the website he booked me on which he will my photos even though they dont show face are obvious they are me! i know its not illegal what im doing, but i just dont want that kind of attention on me, and what if they go into taxes and report me or something...oh my god...what should i do??what would everyone do in my situation?
« Last Edit: 13 June 2010, 09:36:03 pm by londongirlxxx1 »

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #1 on: 13 June 2010, 09:31:59 pm »
I don't honestly know what to suggest if you're not prepared to tell the police the truth - you have not committed any offence and clearly need to protect yourself from this man. The only other thing that seems obvious is moving house again, but why should you have to? I would  imagine they're fairly clear about the situation anyway, to be honest - you say you don't want 'that kind of attention' on you but I'm sure most of us would rather have that attention than the kind where a nutter is banging on your door shouting about whores and throwing money about.

Could you maybe organise a flatshare with another lady just for working from? It would feel safer, and he may get fed up if he can't make any sort of contact with you for a few weeks - is there someone you could stay with for a week or so in the meantime?
« Last Edit: 13 June 2010, 09:57:32 pm by amy »

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #2 on: 13 June 2010, 10:04:25 pm »
You've got a stalker. The police have policies and procedures for long-time stalkers who threaten their victims. Ask them to set them into action.
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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #3 on: 13 June 2010, 10:29:48 pm »
Hi

Sorry this is happning to you, but if you dont get tough with him he will get worse. Go to the police. Now. It is not normal to be stalked like this and you must take your life seriously. Take the advice given, before you become a headline. Im sorry to be so blunt but it is what it is. :-[

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #4 on: 14 June 2010, 08:53:13 am »
Oh god, also this is a giant agency fail, too. They really are not as on the ball with safety and vetting procedures as they like to say they are. :( I've had an agency send me to the same timewaster twice and it was only when they deigned to tell me his number (acting like I was the one that was wasting their time!) that I found I already had it saved in MY phone (from indie work) as "Nutter". I was briefly horrified - I would never have agree to see the guy after a bad phone call with him, so thank god he only turned out to be a no-show!

Sorry to talk about myself. I'm really sorry that you are having so much trouble and that this lunatic is stalking you. :( I fear that, as the others above have said, you now only have two choices: Go to the police and tell them everything and demand that they help you before this psychopath does something really bad, or just put up with his behaviour. And the latter is not a possibility at all. Please go to the police - I wouldn't care about your neighbours if I was you, if any of them say anything or try to interfere just tell them that this guy has been stalking you for months (true), is very dangerous (true), and that you met him on a night out and gave him your number because he was really intimidating you and you didn't think anything would come of it but now he's gone mad and keeps calling you a whore and trying to attack you. Your neighbours don't need to know anything else as it's none of their business and you don't even have to say anything at all. It would be nice if they perhaps offered to look out for you but also the whole building's security has been undermined by this lunatic guy so that might help make it more of a priority for the police.

Anyway. I hope you're okay today. Do you have a friend you could stay with for a short time? I actually live 5 mins from Regent's Park - if you want, you could PM me for my personal number? I'm sorry, I hope that doesn't sound weird to say. But I can imagine the horror of being in your situation and it would make me go out of my mind with worry and shock. I'm not a scary person and I don't really know many people in London (I wish I had a few bouncer friends right now!) so maybe just in case it might help to know that there is someone not too far away who you don't have to worry about finding out about escorting stuff, or to go to the police station with - well, I'm not too far away! And very happy to help if you need it. But also I know the situation might seem really bad enough already without involving anyone else. So either way is completely up to you. :)

Good luck and do keep in touch if you can, I think we're all worried about you. Let us know if you need anything.
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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #5 on: 14 June 2010, 10:33:47 am »
Hi,

PLEASE DON'T WAIT TO SEE HOW WORSE THIS CAN GET!!! GO TOTHE POLICE?

You aren't breaking the law by being an Escort, they will understand your desire to be discreet & oblige as much as they can.

Get a CCTV camera on your front door that takes stills, to aid the police & deter this creep from playing up.

As for your neighbours why should they believe a word from this idiot over a quite Seville neighbour they've known for a while?? They will most likely think he is a guy you brushed off on a night out or some thing.

I have to say I am not racist in the slightest my ex was mixed race Chinese/English, but I learnt early on in my work as an Escort to avoid certain accents when taking bookings. Now I want to stress that, that is my personal choice & I don't want a debate on it. I see it no different to turning down a client because he called me babe, if I don't feel it, I don't do it! If he has a strong accent could you ask your agencies to not book clients with that particular accent, if you want?

I'm really sorry but I think the best way to protect your family & your flat & all you hold dear, is to protect your self first!

Please, Please let us know the out come of your situation.

Harlow x

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #6 on: 14 June 2010, 01:33:03 pm »
Ok so the next time he turns up you can call the police and they will be there straight away or so the policewoman said and she seemed really nice?  The police know about him now so I don't see any reason for you to tell the police the whole story.  Not yet anyway.  I would just stick to what you've said so far and wait till you really have no choice but to tell the police the whole story i.e. if he comes back and the police come and he tells them you're a prossie.  Even then its his word against yours.

He might have actually seen the police arriving even if they didn't see him and it may have scared him off.    

Can you change your working name with the agencies to something else and get some new pics completely hiding your face?  Its an inconvenience yes but at least then they will be able to say "no sorry so and so no longer works with us" if the police or that psycho call them.  Needs must and all that.  If you have lovely regulars they could be told about this and I'm sure they will understand. 

By the way I know this doesn't prevent him turning up at your flat but if the agencies are telling him you no longer work for them then he has no reason to turn up at your flat and if he does then you have more reason to tell the police that you've no idea why he's there. 

The agencies really need to do their absolute utmost to help you with this too. 

Big massive hugs.  xxxx

 
« Last Edit: 14 June 2010, 01:42:55 pm by Cherrylips »

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #7 on: 14 June 2010, 02:00:39 pm »
God you must be terrified, im so sorry you had to go through this but i would echo what the other girls said about telling the police the truth. I have had the police at my place before and they were very sympathetic and even called to let me know this guy had been convicted and sentenced to 3 years. I told them i didnt want my real name connected to this and they just used my escorting name. Maybe you should tell your agencies that you will no longer see young guys, or asian guys, is this possible? xx

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #8 on: 14 June 2010, 02:17:34 pm »
Wish I had something constructive to add here. But at least I can send you a virtual hug and support!

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #9 on: 14 June 2010, 11:00:51 pm »
hi ladies,

wow i didnt know i would have SO many lovely responses...well today i spoke to many friends and it seemed like the best thing to do was to tell the police EVERYTHING. I had information on this guy that i was with-holding from them which i couldnt give them yesterday without telling them HOW i got it- so the only way for this idiot to get caught was to help the police as much as i could. This guy really doesnt understand hes doing anything wrong- hes booked an 'appointment' with me, he gets to my place, i suddenly become unavailable...he doesnt believe im suddenly on my period/left the building/my landlords come...so he wants answers...especially as this happens time and time again...and id rather tell the police before he does then ill look even worse.

Ill be honest ive been SHOCKED at how nice the police have been. Today in just 1 day i had 3 calls, in the morning they called to see if im ok, did i sleep well and of course, did he come back etc...then again in the afternoon...just 'checking' im ok...and again this evening to discuss cctv etc...the guy was so nice and i felt i could really talk to him so i asked would it be possible for a female officer to visit me as i had something to discuss regarding this guy but would feel better talking to a woman as its a 'sensitive subject'.

The officer was so nice, he said i should talk to him as he is in charge of this case now. So here goes i thought! nervously i explained the situation and why i couldnt be honest yesterday when it happened- i was in shock, scared and didnt want to be judged in any way. I think the officer understood that, and was VERY nice, and helpful suggesting personal alarms, and even that i could have a panic alarm installed in my apartment...it didnt actually seem to faze him when i said about the 'escort' part. well he didnt show it anyway.

I gave him the numbers the agency sent to me that he had been using, i told him he uses different names/numbers so the phones would be probably off. he then asked me to find out who owns my building so he can then contact them tomorrow to arrange viewing of the cctv. i feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted of my shoulder.

10 mins later he calls me back...im thinking he forgot to ask me something when he said the guy had actually picked up the phone when he tried one of the numbers! He said he had given him a 'harrasment warning' to leave me alone, but the guy had denied it all of course. well at least thats something!!

After all this, i called all 4 of my agencies last night explaining what had happened and how serious it was, police were involved now, and under no circumstances were they to send me any incalls unless it was one of my old regulars, no one else. no matter how sweet, ''nice'' he sounds. All were very concerned and said ok.

Then this afternoon, i get one agency ringing (the one that gives me most jobs), and this is how it went...

Agency: Can you do incall in 30min??
me: huh? what?INCALL??? (i wasnt expecting it so soon after lastnight) who is it????? is he new???
agency: erm....yeh...hes new, but hes sooooooooooo nice....please see him
me: where is he from? (as in does he sound asain? (should have said a brief no thanks bye at this point)
agency: I DONT KNOW HOW SHOULD I KNOW!!! (getting mad at me like why u asking so many questions!!!!?)
me: well, u know what happened last night...(thinking in my mind why is she being like this!)
agency: well ive just been recomending you for him for last 10 mins, and hes so nice american (i thought she didnt know where hes from?!) oh he will be so disappointed...(now getting attitude-y) well u should just take time off completely not mess me about...
me: i dont need time off, i just told you i can only do incalls with my regulars i know and then outcalls only...
agency: right fine whatever...and hes so NICE...bye then (by now extremely bitchy hangs up and i dont hear from her again all day and night..)

WTF is wrong with these people? this is same girl receptionist from agency that sent me NICE guy a year ago and continued sending him to me many times again...cos he sounded NICE!!! ''nice'' guy ended up physco guy that makes me scared to leave my flat!! even IF his accent was american anyone can do american accent, how long does he have to speak to say can i book so and so...2 secs!

« Last Edit: 14 June 2010, 11:07:49 pm by londongirlxxx1 »

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Re: Agency called POLICE today on my client- im worrying!
« Reply #10 on: 15 June 2010, 12:53:54 am »
First of all, I'm delighted that you told the police everything and that they were so helpful and even gave this pest a harassment warning.

But for your main agency...  >:(
I mean you've already told them you'd only see your regulars and NO ONE ELSE. No means no in this game and I really don't like their attitude. They could just have said "oh, she's not available I'm afraid" unless they'd recognised one of your nice regulars' numbers.

As for you I think you've done really well. It is not an easy situation to be in. I think any of us would have freaked out in your place. Take great care of yourself.
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« Reply #11 on: 15 June 2010, 12:48:26 pm »
Hi,

Well done you, that was a really brave thing you did & you should be so proud of yourself.

I have to say that what you have said a your Agency just re confirms my lack of belief in them. In all fairness you & the police did all the hard stuff (not your Agency). If I was you I'd think about maybe now is the time to o indie!! You are in charge of all your bookings & will have the concat with the client to make the decision.Look into & think about it before you dismiss it really :)

Harlow x

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« Reply #12 on: 15 June 2010, 07:50:10 pm »
Brilliant news.  ;D  It must be such a weight off your shoulders that you have told the police and they were so understanding and that that psycho now has much less power over you.  Its really good to hear how nice the police were as I would have been in exactly the same frame of mind as you and been scared to tell them.

In yo face psycho stalker!!   :D

I'm with Harlow ditch those agencies and go indie baby yeah!
« Last Edit: 15 June 2010, 07:52:02 pm by Cherrylips »

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« Reply #13 on: 16 June 2010, 11:17:21 pm »
Brilliant news.  ;D  It must be such a weight off your shoulders that you have told the police and they were so understanding and that that psycho now has much less power over you.  Its really good to hear how nice the police were as I would have been in exactly the same frame of mind as you and been scared to tell them.

In yo face psycho stalker!!   :D

I'm with Harlow ditch those agencies and go indie baby yeah!

What everybody else said. Good luck to you and hope you're looking after yourself - let us know how it goes  :).