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primeapple

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Newbie question :)
« on: 03 April 2008, 03:44:50 am »
Hey everyone!

I am very new to this...just getting started really. And there is one thing that has been on my mind-- how do we get aroused for men we find unattractive? A lot of the men who contact me are older, hairier, heavier... And I'm not physically attracted to them, so I don't know how to...handle it, I guess. Is it just play-pretend?
I feel bad for even asking, but any thoughts would be awesome...

Thanks!

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Re: Newbie question :)
« Reply #1 on: 03 April 2008, 08:30:03 am »
Hi and welcome.

Well the longer you do this job, the more guys you will get through the door who you dont fancy so if you want to stay in it and do well and stay sane you need to get your head round the fact that you are providing a service, a relatively expensive one at that, and so will need to act sometimes and do it well.

IME, the vast majority of gents have something quite lovely about them, its very rare, if you get your marketing right, for someone to walk through your door with no redeeming features whatsoever and so acting is pretty easy.

Escorting is about more than sex, companionship comes into it as well, even on the shorter one hour bookings so if you are a people person, you and the guy should click in some way which makes it all easier.

At the end of the day, us girls are being paid a pretty sum to entertain our clients and so that's what we should be doing. If you find its not for you and there is too much acting then maybe its not the right career for you as it can send girls a tad crazy and have them relying on drugs or alcohol to get through their day.

To be honest I think most of us are surprised at how enjoyable the sex part can be with men who we wouldn't normally fancy as we automatically begin to look beyond the shell.

I should say though that you must stick to your boundaries. Yes we are providing a service but that doesn't mean we are there for men to use/abuse as they see fit.

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Anika Mae

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Re: Newbie question :)
« Reply #2 on: 10 April 2008, 11:49:14 am »
One of the things that got me going when I first started working was focusing on how many of my clients would have very little chance of being with someone like me under other circumstances, and how the smoothness of my skin and stuff is special to them. I'm a huge narcissist, but I've heard others talk about seeing themselves through their clients' eyes, so it's not just me. If you want to bring pleasure and not just make money it can be helpful to see thing that way.

If a client repulses me it's a problem, but that's very rare. If they're just not doing much for me I find faking quite easy. Acting like I do when I'm enjoying myself makes me genuinely enjoy myself more.