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Deborah

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Age Limits
« on: 12 May 2010, 05:24:14 pm »
Greetings everyone, I have a quick question, hopefully not posted lately

I have noticed a strong 'no show' with those under 40.

I am 43, and look for clients over 40 for this reason.

Other than spotting TW's, is there any way of stopping no shows? I've actually considered using my PayPal account for 'booking fees' lol

I'd like to know if any of you have had this. I see it as a maturity thing, no offense intended  :)

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #1 on: 12 May 2010, 06:48:27 pm »
Most of my clients are over 35, but I've had quite a few younger and haven't found them any more problematic. I'm primarily an outcall escort though, which involves less messing about as long as you do it right.

I do incalls from a flat which I rent by the hour, and I decided I couldn't be doing with no-shows in that situation so I take a deposit from all first-time clients who want an incall. That's undoubtedly cost me some real bookings but I'd say it's worked pretty well. If you decide to take deposits for some bookings though, paypal is pretty bad idea. None of the online companies are adult industry friendly, so we have to be creative. Search here for "deposits" and you'll find some discussions.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #2 on: 12 May 2010, 09:30:57 pm »
My youngest regular client is 19 (possibly 20 by now) and my oldest is 83; I would guess that a slight majority are between 40 and 60, but I get a good few in their twenties and thirties too. I get very few no shows (one so far this year and that was in Edinburgh) and I honestly can't see any correlation with age whatsoever - an immature, disrespectful numpty can be any age, and ditto a nice, respectful and gentlemanly client.

I'll be honest and say I have occasionally thought about adding a 'no under 21s' or something to my website since the closer I get to 40, the older they make me feel  :) but I would miss out on meeting some very nice people if I did. Attitude means far more than a number - I don't book the people who ring and talk like Ali G, or mail and address me as 'babes' (or worse still 'hun' - do they think I'm German? ???), but this isn't always the youngsters and I could never tar such a large group of people with the same brush.

I would say that if you feel uncomfortable seeing punters that are significantly younger than you then definitely don't, and plenty of ladies feel the same way. But if you think they are more likely to be timewasters because of the year they were born in, I think you're on pretty shaky ground.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #3 on: 12 May 2010, 11:55:17 pm »
Please send me the young ones!!!!

My youngest regular is 19, and I did have to be a birthday treat to somene of 80.  Most of my clients I would say are between 30 and 60, but I do get quite a  lot of young ones , hurrah.

A lot of the escorts in Kent on AW have a no under 30s policy it seems.

I sift TW's by attitude not age.  No text speak, porn star language etc.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #4 on: 13 May 2010, 01:43:02 am »
My goodness...19 years old? Either they've landed an excellent career or have rich parents or both, most 19 year olds are barely making enough to get by (even though when I was 18 and 19, I supported my broke X boyfriend).

I also dont notice a correlation with age. For example, couple weeks ago I had a 53 year old man (or so he said) email me a fantasy, swear he was coming to see me...and then he cancelled once, and never re-booked like he said. I was tempted to write on my blog, "how in the hell can 40 and 50 year old men be playing these kind of games?"

But I felt that might be too controversial for potential clients to be reading LOL.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #5 on: 13 May 2010, 01:57:39 am »
Hi,

There is an Escort in a neighbouring town to me, whom specifies in her advert that she is a  Fine Mature Lady, seeking Fine Mature Clientele only. It is obviously working for her, as her advert is consistant. So I can't see why it shouldn't work for you, if that's how you want it!

Most of my clients have been over 30 years, to God only knows? I have had a few younger ones though, & have to say I like the older ones best. When I worked in a parlour I did notice a pattern with age & clients, the younger the Escort the older the Client & the older the Escort the younger the Client. My Madame called it the Mrs Robinson fantasy. Maybe that's what your getting & nerves are taken over them to go through with the appointment? Young Fools, don't know what they are missing!

Good Luck Harlow

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #6 on: 13 May 2010, 09:26:20 pm »
Please send me the young ones!!!!

My youngest regular is 19, and I did have to be a birthday treat to somene of 80.  Most of my clients I would say are between 30 and 60, but I do get quite a  lot of young ones , hurrah.

A lot of the escorts in Kent on AW have a no under 30s policy it seems.

I sift TW's by attitude not age.  No text speak, porn star language etc.
You had one of 80! That must have been fascinating.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #7 on: 13 May 2010, 09:33:10 pm »
Please send me the young ones!!!!

My youngest regular is 19, and I did have to be a birthday treat to somene of 80.  Most of my clients I would say are between 30 and 60, but I do get quite a  lot of young ones , hurrah.

A lot of the escorts in Kent on AW have a no under 30s policy it seems.

I sift TW's by attitude not age.  No text speak, porn star language etc.
You had one of 80! That must have been fascinating.

It was a nightmare! He was wired up to emphysema tanks for breathing.  There were happy Great Grandad cards!.  I was worried his heart would give out.  Had to dance around his living room and do a burlesque strip.  His bits did not work thankfully.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #8 on: 16 May 2010, 09:55:31 am »
Amy

I can't stand "Hun" and it makes me think of Attila. I see chaps of all ages and find age is no correlation either, neither is race, class or occupation.

Had quite a few older chaps not confirm, tell porkie pies (and I don't mean about personal stuff), book and cancel habitually, continually muck around just as I've had respectful younger guys confirm on the dot, turn up thrusting the right money at me and leave on time with no hassle whatsoever.

Age is not relevant however attitude, respect or lack of certainly is.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #9 on: 16 May 2010, 03:44:46 pm »
... [the clients] confirm on the dot, turn up thrusting the right money at me and leave on time with no hassle whatsoever.

*dreams* Oh, for a life where all clients are like this! I would only add in the middle, "and have a great time without trying to do a detective number into my past and current life (for surely I was/am/will be an abused addict at SOME POINT RITE?!?!) or being otherwise weird or odd; just being genuinely nice and fun and then leaving on time with no hassle whatsoever." ...ahh, bliss! No one wake me from my daydreaming please. ;D

For me there is Absolutely No Physical Attribute that does or does not indicate how the client will behave. I wish they honestly were easier to judge on appearances (thus making us all safer at work and able to make quick decisions about whether or not a client LOOKS like a murderer!) but unfortunately in this job, a client's height/weight/age/job/wages/background/ethnicity etc are meaningless and you can only judge 'em by what they do. Luckily, idiots tend to out themselves quickly and an escort's weirdo-radar is quickly fine-tuned. (If a client of mine complains that he didn't hear back from another escort he wanted to see, I always start by recommending he re-email, this time only writing three lines or less as the more they rabbit, the more likely they are to set of a sensitive creep-detecting system! But I phrase it more tactfully, of course. :P)

That all said, I tend to deter very young guys (18-19) from seeing me if I am able to guess their young age by witnessing immature behaviour from them. I mean, as said above, if you're going to call me and squeak, "Heya babe! Do you wanna go cinema wiv me?" then you're pretty much shooting yourself in the foot. But if I can't guess their age because their behaviour is perfect then there obviously isn't anything for me to object to, so I don't. :) I don't really get any no-shows (though I've probably just jinxed myself horribly) or at least not ones that matter - if I don't get the morning confirmation call for a booking made in advance, I just take another appointment or go and spend the afternoon with my friends instead. I guess maybe I'm just not surprised by any no-shows as I assume it's a no-show until I get that *definite* confirmation call right on time so don't bother wasting my time getting ready if I don't hear from them. I also have a few regulars by now who know my system so know when they can call and see if I've had any cancellations that they can have instead. And of course, a good system is fine-tuned to focus on rewarding the good clients, the regulars and reliables, and just dismissing the no-shows and timewasters without a hiccup so that ultimately, you end up healthy and happy with lots of money and relatively little stress! Mainly I stalk Amy's posts and copy her stated screening/booking methods - definitely a recommended way to improve your biz. And obviously this entire forum is full of everyone's best ideas and input, too.

I don't think that many young (again, ages 18-19) guys get through my screening and although I've had a few odd emails requesting I take someone's virginity, I take instead the whole thing with a pinch of salt and reply that no, I'd really rather not. Ick! Major turn-off and I think, in the case of the fantasist, more about dominance/submission or power-play sex which isn't something I really offer. I don't even really think it's a good idea for a guy to perhaps refuse to wait til the right girl comes along to have a bit of a relationship and a caring 'first time' the old-fashioned way - I mean, I don't count work sex (paid physical acts) as personal sex (passionate and loving with a special person - I am secretly innately boringly monogamous!) so for me, if I lost my virginity to a sex worker I'd still want to lose it to a 'real person'. But I might just have a weird attitude about sex and what makes it either a physical thing, or an emotional one, or both, or neither(?) - I dunno!

Oh, I'm going on loads of tangents here. Must stop rambling. Er, time for a cuppa!
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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #10 on: 16 May 2010, 09:15:04 pm »
I agree, TW and noshows come in all shapes, sizes, ages, races etc. Though I do find that I get a fairly large number of email enquiries saying 'Blah, blah ... want to book an escort... blah, blah... I'm only xx (anything from 18-22) years old, is that a problem... blah, blah...' and eventhough I say that it doesn't matter, I either scare them off or they are TW.

As most have said, I judge by language and attitude and I am sure I have sometimes turned down a genuine client and have sometimes been outfoxed by a TW or no-show. Such is life.
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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #11 on: 17 May 2010, 08:28:35 pm »
I am a older escort in toronto canada and the main stay of my biz is middle age guys who are generally respectful
but as others I have clients as young 19.I find them as  respectfull as any one else and they are fun  and their excite is infectious.inspite of that I perfer men in the  30 to 50 age range, but have had clients as old as 80 .even recieved money from several estates over the years.no shows are a problem  for all girls but I find lately it as not as bad as it was when I had just started.I find internet dates are the most unreliable.phone date usually good and in person  best.I work in a strip club I find it is a good way to pre screen clients.
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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #12 on: 18 May 2010, 09:23:08 am »
Age, I tend to find age 18 is in some cultures a relative number. I would happily have an 18 year old Dutch client as opposed to and 18 year old Irish one. The attitudes and the experience level are completely different.

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Re: Age Limits
« Reply #13 on: 18 May 2010, 10:09:52 am »
I've had a rule that I stick to ..... I never see anyone of an age that I could have given birth too, and have written that on my AW profile.  I'll let them figure out the maths, but it usually means I am only interested in clients over the age of 30.  I also try not to see anyone that is old enough to be my father either!  lol.

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