Hello, new here -

The situation is this - I'm American, bf is Irish, we want to get married at the latest by late next year, he lost his job last fall and given what he says and also what I've heard of the economic climate in Ireland/Dublin doesn't look like he'll find employment for a long time. Financially he's not good. Slim chance I could work there myself given the US isn't part of any EU agreement, whatnot. So the only thing would be escorting looks like when I do return to join him, but when I brought/bring it up he not okay with the idea. He is the jealous type, but the way I see it I'm not 'cheating' on him since I'd not be doing it out of pleasure and recreation but out of necessity.  How do you get a guy to see this and be okay with it cause it's not worth me doing if it means we break up. I had thought of doing it under the radar but Dublin is a small city so that's taking a chance with him never finding out, and also since he's unemployed and at home most of the time not possible to do this without him knowing anyway.

Also, does anyone know how is the escorting 'scene' in Dublin?

Don't do it unless being an escort is more important to you than this relationship. There are plenty of women who've had successful relationships with men who knew they were escorts, but more often it ends in tears, and that's even with men who've initially agreed to deal with it. Most people don't have the capacity to deal with a relationship like this which is in conflict with society and everything they've ever learned. The chances that he does are very slim, even if you do manage to convince him initially.

Hello, new here -

The situation is this - I'm American, bf is Irish, we want to get married at the latest by late next year, he lost his job last fall and given what he says and also what I've heard of the economic climate in Ireland/Dublin doesn't look like he'll find employment for a long time. Financially he's not good. Slim chance I could work there myself given the US isn't part of any EU agreement, whatnot. So the only thing would be escorting looks like when I do return to join him, but when I brought/bring it up he not okay with the idea. He is the jealous type, but the way I see it I'm not 'cheating' on him since I'd not be doing it out of pleasure and recreation but out of necessity.  How do you get a guy to see this and be okay with it cause it's not worth me doing if it means we break up. I had thought of doing it under the radar but Dublin is a small city so that's taking a chance with him never finding out, and also since he's unemployed and at home most of the time not possible to do this without him knowing anyway.

Also, does anyone know how is the escorting 'scene' in Dublin?

Hi Midori

I think your first question has been covered, but if you decide to go for it and you still want info re dublin, PM me, I may have some info for you.

Hi all,

Well, I thought about stripping and granted, this is all on the outside looking in as I've never done any adult work of any kind, but I don't know if that'd be for me as I think I'd feel inhibited in a public setting and don't know if I could deal with the competition. As for webcamming unfortunately while I am attractive in the flesh I am not photogenic, it takes many snapshots where I come out looking good in a few, even my bf when taking my picture  wasn't thrilled by how I photograph and told me "you look way better than that!" So even though I know you don't have to be a beauty queen to webcam I think I'd look unflattering most of the time. As for him participating in a couples setup that wouldn't work, he is a straight edge and wouldn't do it. I did have a period of an active casual sexlife before meeting my bf that maybe I'm being naive but looking back esp now that there is money issues I feel like I was an unpaid prostitute, so that's why I think there'd be little difference between what I did then and escorting except for the money part, which we/he could use.

He has his dole money plus I do have some savings. He goes to some kind of job center thing as a requirement from time to time to show that he putting an effort to look, although from what I gather it's a superficial thing for the most part, just for show, and he says that it's not easy to find work because of the influx of people from other EU countries undercutting the Irish workforce, he's pretty mad about that. Anyhow thank for the helpful replies, I will take up those on their pms about info on the Dublin escort scene if and when I do need it, I just think it sucks that why should we have to live what feels like scant standards when things couuld be so much better if only he would see that, I mean his flat is on the outskirts where there's hardly anything to do, to save money he hardly uses the heating, the water is on a timer so the only time we use hot/warm water is when showering and even then the water only lasts 15-20 minutes, at first I thought it was a cool adventure living like that but not so much anymore.

Hi Midori

Ahh your fella does sound like he's trying hard, nothing like my wally ex.
I used to be self-concious of my body too, but was amazed at the way my clothes seemingly would melt off as my cash dwindled lol. Strippings not for everyone though.
Ooh I had another though! Chatlines! The cash isn't great but you can do it from home and it may or may not reveal a saucier side in you...either way you'll make a few quid. There's all kinds though, not just sex ones Plus, having the accent will be a huge plus over here.

xhugsx
Melody x