Hello girls!
I came across this site last week,wow great site(wish id found earlier)
Im 31 and ive been in industry 12 years..escorting with agencys,independent incalls also parlours.
Basically every avenue there is..
Ive had highs and lows and very low times over the years.
Before i write any further,im not saying escorting is a bad thing its just not good for me.
Ive got to the point where i know i have to stop.
For ME im very insecure about my self and my looks and i think escorting is making me feel worse.
Im drinking heavily and also self harmed.which im now badly scarred.
I feel its the years of feeling trapped in the job.
Ive never had family support or love and i was homeless at 16.
In alot of ways escorting saved me and allowed me to put a roof over my head,but its also been easier to stay in rather than face reality,that im very unhappy.
I will have months of staying focused,staying sober and trying to change my situation.
I save money,but then it always goes wrong somewhere and im back to square 1..
I started college but then had to quit due to money being my main priority.
Sometime im struggling to pay all my bills,and i wonder how the hell id manage on a lower wage!
Another reason i feel stuck.
Ive also met someone,they dont know and i really want to start a family.
But i mainly want to stop for me and my well being.
What advice i would really appreciate is how i can stop?
Ive got zero qualifications,ive never had another job.
I really dont know how to move forward,get another job and also pay my bills.
It almost seems inpossible
I feel in despair sometimes and have got so many regrets of not saving while things were good.
But i know ive not got the strengh to stay escorting for much longer.
Ive reached my limit..xx

I don't believe in regrets as you cannot change them,but what you can do,is learn from them and move on.I feel similar to you as I would like to settle down properly with my OH,stop having to lie to friends and family and not check AW every 5 mins ( get a life I know ).Also am tired of married men moaning about their wives,souless hotel rooms,smelly willies,come in my hair......I could go on,but I better not.

Like it has been said,what are you interested in?there must be something.Take small steps into a civvy job,its not all about the money,it is possible to live on less than we are used to.I turned down a fantastic offer last year for a job I really wanted because it was ?8 an hour,but the job was something special.I learnt not to do that again,next time I get an offer for a civvy job I want I am going togo for it,even if its a low wage.Why would you work for min wage when you can get 30 times that, escorting,BECAUSE I know I would be happier,simple as that.

Try not to worry and put your energy into finding something that makes you tick,sod the money you will survive!

When I got married I wanted to get out of escorting to have a more normal life.

To be honest took me few months to get out of the house and go out with my cv, It was like I had lost my confidence in that sense of finding a job plus I had a big gap on my cv. Anyway I found a job and I did have a good time, one week wages was equal one day escorting but I was spending less money too.
I worked as a waitress, i didn't need to worry about bills ( husband always get the bills) but I do have some money saved for the "future" from my previous escorting time...
Another thing ( please I am not judging you or any other girl ) if you only work to pay bills it is better to have a low paid job that doesn't make you feel sad. At least you don't need to lie to friends or family or a possible other half.

If you never worked and have no qualifications start with charities work to get used with it and to have something on your cv.


Good luck

sorry just read reply about working for charitys after id posted..
yes that could be an good way to get something on cv..xx

Oh, I don't know how you've done it for so long!Am already considering an early retirement, was sat in A and E with a friend today, and just kept thinking that I'd prefer to be working there. It's only an hour, or two, or three...but it drains me for days afterwards. I'd suggest maybe going cold turkey, this site is great for help and advice and am so glad I have it, but it also normalises escorting (and there's nowt wrong with that as it suits some, but if it's melting your head then it's not a good thing). It's like going to a bar to chat with your buddies the day you've decided to give up the drink. Ditto punternet, ditto adultwork (just saafe gives back...). Commit, throw away work sim, delete profile and tell yourself you'll stay away from all the websites etc. Just live in the real world, 'tis a lovely auld place!xx