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LadyVanilla

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Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« on: 14 February 2013, 11:06:16 pm »
Hi there,

I'm new, never escorted before and haven't had my first client yet. I put my AW profile up today and have had a few emails - one from a guy in the warning thread!
I think I'm handling it ok so far but could do with a bit of advice on this one if you don't mind  :)

So guy sends me a nice email, very polite & respectful and I respond with reassuring words and my mobile no.

Which he then texts me on! I state in my profile I don't respond to or even read texts. (obviously i did read the text!)
The text was fine just telling me that he was outside my area and gave me postcode, which looks like its a nice looking hotel. It's not too far away but not super easy to get to either.  I don't think he's a timewaster and if he ever called I could do a security check before i got as far as leaving my house.

So my question is how to respond, if at all. Do I ignore what I said in my profile text back and see if I can get him to call? Or email him via AW. Ignore him outright, which dose seem a little harsh?

My head is going round and round on this one - probably because I'm broke and really want a client! But also because of that I don't want to make some desperate dumb mistake.

Any thoughts/advice?
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Brown Eyed Girl

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #1 on: 14 February 2013, 11:22:51 pm »
Hi Lady, welcome to the forum :)

Do you mean to say the guy texting has a warning on here?

If that?s not him, then I don?t see the harm in texting him and asking him to call you to discuss the booking. At least that way you?ll know for sure whether or not he?s a TW. You did email him your number so he probably thinks the normal ?do no text me? rule doesn?t apply him.
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LadyVanilla

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #2 on: 14 February 2013, 11:36:10 pm »
Hey Alisha, thanks for the welcome, this site has been a real boon to me :)

No the guy texting is not the one who has a warning - I blocked the warning dude before I even realised who he was!

I see what you're saying and I think I will text he does seem genuine and the postcode fits with previous info ect.
I think perhaps I was just being a bit paranoid about getting into a sexy text back and forth with no booking at the end, which I really don't need. But he's only sent that one text and it was short and to the point, no sex talk in sight!
Thanks muchly

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Brown Eyed Girl

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #3 on: 14 February 2013, 11:44:37 pm »
Much wiser to be over cautious in this job than too lax.
Good luck with it anyway and let us know how it goes.
« Last Edit: 14 February 2013, 11:51:02 pm by Alisha »
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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #4 on: 15 February 2013, 09:46:30 am »
You say you don't accept texts, if you reply to texts I guarantee this will open the gates to more - so you need to decide on your policy and how you are going to deal with enquiries.
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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #5 on: 15 February 2013, 10:38:05 am »
Hi there,

Nice to 'meet' you and welcome to the job, I'm sure I can be confident in assuring you that you will always find great support hear on the board.  Based on the fact that you have actually gone to  the trouble of really reflecting on your course of action and haven't just thrown all your booking procedures out the window in desperation to secure the booking, I would strongly advise you to absolutely NOT reinforce or 'reward' this, or any other potential clients disregard of your booking instructions, by allowing him to advance arrangements by text, in this way, rather you should take this opportunity to really reinforce, in your own mind, as well as publically, your boundaries and authority over the situation by implementing a strict 'no exceptions' policy, right from the very start.  I really admire you for the presence of mind and self confidence you have shown thus far, in not crumbling and allowing yourself to be easily manipulated, considering your status as a complete 'newbie', and as such my advice would be to capitalise on this early success by following through all the way, hopefully setting a real president for your future endeavors.  Perhaps the way I would play it would be to compose a generic text message to save in your phone, a message simply explaining to the sender that you either can not receive or do no read text messages and warmly invite correspondence via x, y, z medium.  Send this guy this message, save the text to use in all future situations of the same ilk and if you like, email this guy to explain you think he may have contacted you but can he email any messages as you don't receive texts.  Something like this that works in the exact context of your situation.

Anyway, I think it's always beneficial to be somewhat cynical in this game, particularly to protect yourself as a newbie, as many guys actively seek out girls at this stage in the hope of using her lack of experience to their own advantage.  This is a good enough reason alone, to start firm in your insistence that bookings be made in the manner requested.  I came to the conclusion, that any mature, reasonable human being would really find it little strain to follow one or two most basic requests hen seeking to secure the time of another person in the nature of our work.  It's not too much that you are asking, never allow anyone to make you feel that it is.

All the best and know you never have to be alone with anything that may arise, you'll always find an empathetic ear, here :-)

xxx
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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #6 on: 15 February 2013, 12:51:57 pm »
Hi

My profile says that I don't respond to texts from people I dont know.

If one arrives from someone new though, and it's polite and well written then they get a polite reply from me, answering their question but reminding them that they need to call me to book. If they send me another text they get a very brief 'Call me to book' reply and if they persist after that I just ignore them.

Text isn't my favourite way of communicating, but at the same time I dont want to miss out on nice Clients who might have missed a line or two on my website or who are stuck in a meeting but with me on their mind!

There are some things that I am happy to be flexible over and somethings I wont budge a single tiny inch from but that comes with time and it's taken me a while to figure out the best way to make things work for me.

Hope that helps :)
R xx
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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #7 on: 15 February 2013, 12:55:53 pm »
My normal procedure to guys who text me is to tell them that I only deal with business through my phone system and will not respond to any further texts.  If they dont have the simple brains to understand that then they dont deserve my services.

My profile on AW states like everyone elses that we do not respond to texts or withheld numbers - but how many girls DO and make it impossible for the rest of us.
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LadyVanilla

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #8 on: 15 February 2013, 12:57:44 pm »
Wow, thanks guys.

And now I think you maybe a little disappointed in me for I have texted the fella in question!
The reason why is this - in his first email to me it sounded like he was within walking distance of me, so in my reply I said if you are in *town* I can get out to you tonight.  His text was simply telling me that he was not in town by giving me his postcode.  While at first it annoyed me that he had broken the no text rule, the fact that he only texted his postcode (no sexy chat or requests ect.) and then didn't follow up with any other texts mollified me quite a bit.
I possibly still wouldn't have texted back except that I added a line into my profile saying that I could only do outcalls within town area and he is a little outside it. It is however easy enough for me to get to by bus that I thought I would let him know I could get out to him, I gave him revised times (because of bus times - not that i said or will say that!) and asked him to call if he still wanted to book.  If he calls - all is well, if he texts again I will ignore and move on with my new career!
This all makes perfect sense in my head but I'm not sure I'm explaining it very well.  ;D

I certainly do need to have a good long think about my rules, whether or not I'm being clear enough in my profile and email responses, and decide either not to make any exceptions or exactly what those exceptions might be and under what circumstances I would make them - in advance! (don't worry the exception wouldn't be 'oh look he's offering me loads of cash'! but more along the lines of 'I made a mistake, or miscommunicated something')

Having read through a large part of this forum and the main site including all 272 pages of the 'how not to book an escort' thread I feel I'm well prepared to deal with upcoming situations but I'm aware that this is all still theory for me right now and having people who are willing to give me the benefit of their experience is just wonderful. I've said this a few times now and I'll say it here again; Thank you all so very much.

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LadyVanilla

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #9 on: 15 February 2013, 01:04:39 pm »
Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 15 February 2013, 12:55:53 pm
My normal procedure to guys who text me is to tell them that I only deal with business through my phone system and will not respond to any further texts.  If they dont have the simple brains to understand that then they dont deserve my services.

My profile on AW states like everyone elses that we do not respond to texts or withheld numbers - but how many girls DO and make it impossible for the rest of us.

I get this completely and it's was why I was so reluctant to text back - however as I said I kept it simple asking him to call for a booking and in the future I think I'll just make it super clear in my email responses not to text and really not make exceptions - I just need to train myself not to read the texts and either not respond at all or only with a simple prewritten 'please call to book' message
« Last Edit: 15 February 2013, 01:06:30 pm by LadyVanilla »
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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #10 on: 15 February 2013, 01:07:53 pm »
Hi

I dont think there's anything wrong in what you've done - sounds like good business sense to me and I hope it works out to be a good booking.

Having said that - we all need to figure out what works for US personally. Some Ladies are happy to respond via text and that's cool, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. But then it also doesn't bother me in the slightest if I'm the ONLY working girl on the entire planet who does or doesn't do a certain thing. I'm always interested in other peoples opinions and in learning what works for them but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm going to change what I do :)

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #11 on: 15 February 2013, 01:12:09 pm »
Quote from: LadyVanilla on 15 February 2013, 01:04:39 pm
Quote from: Lady_Lust_XXX on 15 February 2013, 12:55:53 pm
My normal procedure to guys who text me is to tell them that I only deal with business through my phone system and will not respond to any further texts.  If they dont have the simple brains to understand that then they dont deserve my services.

My profile on AW states like everyone elses that we do not respond to texts or withheld numbers - but how many girls DO and make it impossible for the rest of us.

I get this completely and it's was why I was so reluctant to text back - however as I said I kept it simple asking him to call for a booking and in the future I think I'll just make it super clear in my email responses not to text and really not make exceptions - I just need to train myself not to read the texts and either not respond at all or only with a simple prewritten 'please call to book' message

I have no problem with texts provided they are polite and specific - it isn't my fault that AW automatically sticks that line about not answering them at the bottom of every profile, and if I could remove it I would. I've said it before, but I really don't understand the difference between a text and an email, and I'd much rather have a polite enquiry via the former than a load of text speak rubbish ('u free 2day babe lol' etc, etc) or the lengthy wank fodder style dreck from the latter and I think a blanket policy of ignoring the good as well as the bad is shooting yourself in the foot somewhat.

If you don't want to answer texts that's fine and a lot of ladies don't, but if an enquiry is polite and sounds genuine I do think it's foolish not to reply once and once only to ask them to phone when it's convenient. The genuine ones will and the knobheads won't, so problem solved :).
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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #12 on: 15 February 2013, 01:19:59 pm »
Quote from: amy on 15 February 2013, 01:12:09 pm
If you don't want to answer texts that's fine and a lot of ladies don't, but if an enquiry is polite and sounds genuine I do think it's foolish not to reply once and once only to ask them to phone when it's convenient. The genuine ones will and the knobheads won't, so problem solved :).

Amen
There's having boundaries and then there's cutting off your nose to spite your face. Think you did the right thing OP.
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LadyVanilla

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #13 on: 15 February 2013, 01:50:45 pm »
I'm feeling good about my choice to text in the case - although I do seem to be (am) dithering about from one position to the next! I think a lot of it is nerves and my head going round and round not wanting to spend time on idiots but not wanting to send away perfectly nice clients.
I think I just need more practice  :D

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Re: Advice needed on how to handle a Client
« Reply #14 on: 15 February 2013, 02:19:21 pm »
You really do what you think it best for you based on the text you receive.I didn't reply to text before but recently I have been replying to them if the text is polite and giving me details etc.I do tell them that I prefer to have a chat before hand and politely inform them that I do not like to send text messages,if they are genuine they do phone me to make a booking.Although making a booking does not mean they are going to turn up, usually they do though but you will still get the odd few that don't they just wanted to talk/ hear your voice/waste your time who knows.
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