Think my decision has been made ... he’s just given me £140 of the £400 we agreed on every month and said that’s all he’s saved in 4 weeks from his pay. He gets paid £330 a week.

I have no idea what the fuk he is spending it on. He said he spends a lot on GREGGS when he’s working. How many sausage rolls can one man buy?

I’m in a similar situation when it comes to relationship. My boyfriend doesn’t like my job, he only pays £400 per month, I pay the other £1k a month for the bills. We do argue about it but he soon backs down when I say he’d have to pay more rent or won’t have certain luxuries if I got a normal job and he would have to get a permanent contracted job... they say women are gold diggers - men are worse!

None of my friends and family know about my job (apart from my brother) I don’t think they would fall out with me but I just prefer to keep it separate.

If my fella was to ever tell his family or mine, it’d be a deal breaker. Get rid of him, I know it’s probably easier said than done but he’s totally betrayed your trust, no man who is suppose to love you would make his family turn on you by letting your secret out.

When women are going through mone.y like nobody's business it is often apparent what it's been spent on... clothes/bags/shoes etc etc but with men not so easy to spot. Possibly gambling or a habit.. both of which can be hidden.

After reading this thread I would say this man needs kicking up the bum and on his way. Not sure how easy that is as each situation is different and some men will go without a wimper and others stick like glue which can cause terrible stress.

Am speaking from some experience here although it was long before I started this work and all resolved eventually, however it took me over 2 years to finally break free.

Check when your next bin collection is due and stick him out with the trash.
If it is a once fortnightly collection, then just drop him off at the local rubbish depot asap.
The sooner the better!