Hey Guys, I’m looking for some advice of fellow WG 

Basically my family found out about my job earlier this year (a so called friend told them)
My family did not take it well and to cut a long story short my mum no longer speaks to me. She’s made it perfectly clear that the job disgusts her.

I met my boyfriend in March. I told him on the first date about the job. He was ok with it and was glad I told him from the start. Things moved fast and he soon moved in. He then started acting up and causing arguments every time I go away to work . I tend to tour a few days a week. We then began arguing more as he wants me to quit.

I financially cannot just quit as I have debts to pay off which a normal job will not cover.

He pays around 400 a month towards the rent and bills.

Another argument happened last night & he went to stay with his parents. He then proceeded to tell his parents EVERYTHING. They are disgusted and have told him to stay away from me. He is back in the house now, said he doesn’t want to break up but still wants me to stop escorting.

I personally don’t want to stop anytime soon. And how does he think I’m meant to face his family again?

I’m in a pickle of what to do.

Any advice would be appreciated x

Sorry this has has been done to you. I'd be asking myself how I could stay with a man who betrayed my trust in such a manner.
You were open from the start and this is how he treats you. Presumably you told him it was confidential info?
Personally I'd be making plans to leave him. I'm very sorry you've had this experience xxx

So he's making your life miserable and on top sure his family makes your life miserable too by spilling the beans to them?. He's your enemy, not your friend. Dump his sorry ass asap and let him know that you are very dissapointed with him because "he knew the deal" when you guys started dating and the main reason you chose to stay with him what because he was ok with it, so after moving in together turns he's not?Why didn't he said that from the begining and save yourselves so much drama? (it's like buying a BMW then getting home and finding out it has the engine of a ford fiesta inside). very deceiving. You're going to have to make hard decisions here and get rid of a lot of toxic people in your life, starting with your boyfriend and family I'm afraid.

Horrible situation for you not only you're mum but now his parents know which like you said how are you supposed to face his family now. I understand he would not want you doing this job sleeping with other men most would not but he accepted you're job when he moved in.

The fact is he cannot be trusted now after blurting this out to his family and they will look at you very different now because of him.

I think if it was me i would look to going seperate ways and continuing to work. He only pays £400 a month so hardly a saviour for you, you do not need him or him telling people what you do.

It sounds like he's living in your flat/house? If he's not on the tenancy I'd give him 24 hours to pack his bags and fuck off.

I have some sympathy with his feelings - sometimes we can think "yeah I can deal with this" when we're all excited about a new relationship, and then reality sets in and we realise actually, no we can't deal with this.

But that should prompt an honest conversation about what happens next. This fucker has just sat about whining. You've made it clear you both need and want to continue with sex work. He doesn't have to like it, he doesn't have to live with it. He could have bailed out months ago. But no he has hung around making you feel bad about yourself.

Time for my favourite phrase:
"Off you pop then, fuckity bye"

Re. your family, it may just be that they need some time to digest the news, and the fact that you haven't been honest with them.

The bloke there are two alternatives: a). say you'll stop escorting if he'll cover all your expenses to the equivalent amount of your earnings (or any difference with a civvy job you find), or b. tell him to fuck off.

Another one for telling him to fuck off. He has betrayed you by telling people your business. He should have been honest from the start instead of trying to manipulate you into giving up your job. My concern would be if I stopped for him, it could lead down a very nasty route of him not liking any civvy job I do, him not liking the clothes I wear, not liking some of my friends. It might just be this job he doesn't like, but I wouldn't stick around to find out if he was an emotional abuser.

^ This.

He'll start thinking he owns you if you give up your job based on his forcing you to.

Hey Guys, I’m looking for some advice of fellow WG 

Basically my family found out about my job earlier this year (a so called friend told them)
My family did not take it well and to cut a long story short my mum no longer speaks to me. She’s made it perfectly clear that the job disgusts her.

I met my boyfriend in March. I told him on the first date about the job. He was ok with it and was glad I told him from the start. Things moved fast and he soon moved in. He then started acting up and causing arguments every time I go away to work . I tend to tour a few days a week. We then began arguing more as he wants me to quit.

I financially cannot just quit as I have debts to pay off which a normal job will not cover.

He pays around 400 a month towards the rent and bills.

Another argument happened last night & he went to stay with his parents. He then proceeded to tell his parents EVERYTHING. They are disgusted and have told him to stay away from me. He is back in the house now, said he doesn’t want to break up but still wants me to stop escorting.

I personally don’t want to stop anytime soon. And how does he think I’m meant to face his family again?

I’m in a pickle of what to do.

Any advice would be appreciated x

He's killed any chance of a good relationship for you with his family. And he knows it. Even if you quit, they'll hold it over you.

My current has never uttered a word to his family about what I do, and I'd view it as a betrayal of trust if he did. He knows the stigma is such that he can't just tell anyone.

I would honestly consider telling as a betrayal and couldn't be with them. If he honestly wants you to quit he can offer to pay more towards rent and bills than currently. Not try to shame you into doing so