Hello everyone! Just wondered what everyone else does when a firm but polite "I don't wish to see you anymore" to a difficult client hasn't appeared to work?

The first time I wanted this particular man to leave me alone, I admit I was a wet blanket and just told him I was having a bit of a break (which I was- I just never told him I was coming back). I chose to do this because I was a bit wary of how he might react if I said "leave me alone" plainly. He did leave me alone for a while, but then he suddenly started texting again saying he missed me etc. I asked him to stop contacting me outright this time and said simply that he seemed to have crossed a boundary and we should not meet again. He said Ok and left it.

He has suddenly started up again and really has been using every form of technology to get in touch recently. It is daily now, and getting a bit worrying.

True, this volume of communication isn't at the harassment level, but his tactics are bordering on strange. My question is, what can I do now, as I thought I was firm enough in the past, but that obviously hasn't worked and he is really starting to make me feel uncomfortable now.

How have people in the past dealt with such a situation? Murder?  

Does this guy know where you live? (From an incall or possibly from stalking though the latter isn't too likely!) If he does, I would take this all about 90% more seriously and do something like inform the police and tell him that the police have his details as well as texts 'n' emails as evidence.

However, I'm also delightfully lucky enough to have a strange stalker! I only met him once, for an outcall (which I left early feeling very freaked out) so he doesn't know where I live. So now when he rings me every couple of weeks from a new number I just repeat myself about not being able to offer him a booking, say Bye! and hang up. He always calls back a few times but I always ignore those calls. Sometimes he likes to email me to request a booking, too, and he always sounds chatty which freaks me out now that I met him that one time and he went all Jekyll & Hyde-y. Anyway, I still feel pretty safe but think I did put up a warning about him just in case he's the same with other girls. Or that might've been Mr Leaky. Argh! I hate these semi-weirdos - saying that someone gives you a bad feeling sounds a bit silly compared to the girls who've had to deal with seriously dangerous behaviour. But I just know I've seen a few clients who I would definitely not recommend to anyone else.

When I was new (er!) I took the same approach and was a complete wimp about it and said I was leaving the business. He then called more times and I told him that no I wouldnt see him and please stop contacting me. When that didnt work I then threatened him with the police and I havent heard a word since. Sometimes just the threat of police will make them back off so I would try that.

Good luck

Steph

Oh Lord, some men are just so damn needy, and needy people can soon become desperate people, so I think you should go to the police with this one. Good luck

I have been known to curse someone out for calling me non-stop...then I'll get a couple of texts and then never hear from them again. No sometimes means YES. telling them to "dont FUCKING call me again you stupid asshole" means no  

Oh...something less dramatic would be to say "if you keep calling Im gonna post your number and address on a public forum for everyone to see that you're full of shit". I did that with someone, and the response was, "are you kidding me" and I NEVER heard from him EVER again! I was dead ass serious too!