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Author Topic: Advance booking - punter pissed off and cancels after my confirmation message  (Read 1326 times)

Mirror

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Oh I misunderstood so my reply regarding the client is too harsh.

He's a simple 'no-confirm'. I agree with Amy no need to pursue any further and pester him. We all hang round in our knickers sometimes and prospective clients can be unreliable. We all like to plan our day so you're not alone. I have a fair expected period of confirmation, 15-30 minutes before the gig and yours is probably 5-8 hours before. Neither is right or wrong, they have different pros and cons.

He has to confirm yesterday and today?
If he didn't confirm today at X time I wouldn't chase him. What do you hope to achieve?

'No call', is his way of saying,'Im not interested' and you can relax and do other nice stuff rather than letting it destroy your day.

I think your confirming many hours or a day before the booking is the issue, it allows too much time for them to have a change of heart...drop outs are normal to expect. Plus you don't have a deposit system as an incentive so they're free to go off the boil. Cocks have no loyalty.

If over 50% of them turn up on your present system I think you're doing very well indeed.

Yes I had a few confirm the night before then disappear so learned to ask for on the day, and early enough to rearrange or get on with my own things if they don't.

Francesca-Rose

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Nope it's what I do, i expect them to confirm on the day, if they do t i send a message saying, hi I am taking it you can no longer require an appointment. I've never had any issues from clients with doing this x

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I need to refine my system then. The risk of this is - he wants to attend but forgets. So my message sometimes serves as a reminder. But like a few said, best to perhaps explain at the time of booking what’s required of them.

But I find no matter how many hoops we make them jump through, there is always that one that will pull a no show. The most infuriating type blocks you right away when you ask if he’s on the way or outside or anything like that. Sometimes there’s no way avoiding that. Unless you’ve got enough balls to ask for deposits and lucky not to lose business that way

I am also taking the note of not confirming the bookings. Had a scenario when he got me a negative because I dared to cancel two weeks in advance. The cock waited all that time just to spoil a flawless record.

ladyofthemansion

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I always advise guys who are new to punting to invest in a different sim or phone for this hobby as I’ve heard of cases where some ladies will text them six months later out of the blow with a special offer half price blow job. But you still have to be discreet with all guys and assume they haven’t done it and never text them out the blue. At the time they call and book I will book all the guys in for the time they want even if three of them want 6pm. They are all told to text one hour before. The guy who texts one hour before to confirm is the one who gets the booking. If two of them send that confirmation text I deal with the problem by moving the time. I find that the ones who call at the last minute wanting to come within the hour are far more reliable than the ones who call at 11am wanting to book 6pm. When I was at work the other day I remember having four booked in at 11am and same again at 6. But after a couple not confirming and a couple running late it all worked out. If one of your treble booked is running late then you can say the guy who was due after him arrived early and you didn’t want to turn him away because sometimes when guys say they will be late that don’t always show up.
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GothGirl

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I need to refine my system then. The risk of this is - he wants to attend but forgets. So my message sometimes serves as a reminder. But like a few said, best to perhaps explain at the time of booking what’s required of them.

But I find no matter how many hoops we make them jump through, there is always that one that will pull a no show. The most infuriating type blocks you right away when you ask if he’s on the way or outside or anything like that. Sometimes there’s no way avoiding that. Unless you’ve got enough balls to ask for deposits and lucky not to lose business that way

I am also taking the note of not confirming the bookings. Had a scenario when he got me a negative because I dared to cancel two weeks in advance. The cock waited all that time just to spoil a flawless record.

Somebody gave you a negative for cancelling 2 weeks in advance???? I hope you disputed that!

northernstar

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Somebody gave you a negative for cancelling 2 weeks in advance???? I hope you disputed that!

I have and explained at the time it was something I couldn’t mitigate. Complete prick.

English Green

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If i take a booking with there phone number which is how i do my bookings then if an emergency happened to me and i needed to cancel i would contact them to let them though otherwise why give out there number if you cannot contact. But if i do need to cancel i send a vague text saying sorry i cannot make the booking i never make it clear what i do for work just incase someone else happens to pick the phone up.

Personally i do not get why clients make bookings with there personal telephone number if they are up to no good and there wife or family could look at it surely it it down to them to cover there own back not us. We are just trying to run a business and part of that could be having to contact them to possibly cancel or rearrange a booking which could be out of the blue but keeping the message vague should not be a problem otherwise do not book or at least explain not to contact xyz times so it is made fully clear what there situation is.

TantricTease

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If i take a booking with there phone number which is how i do my bookings then if an emergency happened to me and i needed to cancel i would contact them to let them though otherwise why give out there number if you cannot contact. But if i do need to cancel i send a vague text saying sorry i cannot make the booking i never make it clear what i do for work just incase someone else happens to pick the phone up.

Personally i do not get why clients make bookings with there personal telephone number if they are up to no good and there wife or family could look at it surely it it down to them to cover there own back not us. We are just trying to run a business and part of that could be having to contact them to possibly cancel or rearrange a booking which could be out of the blue but keeping the message vague should not be a problem otherwise do not book or at least explain not to contact xyz times so it is made fully clear what there situation is.
I am surprised at the amount of men who also use their personal phones to book escorts and what’s even more alarming is that they don’t have their What’s App settings set to hiding their profile pics from me and in these profile pics are their families, gf/wife and the kids too!

Men just don’t seem up to date with phone apps at all, you’d think they would cover all their bases!

Jane Seymour

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This is always a difficult one.  I would never message a guy on his 'phone unless he said it was safe to do so.  If they make an appointment for a certain time they should always confirm.  I always preferred email rather than texts on mobiles.  You never know where he is and who he is with, plus it could be someone else checking up on him.

If they can't email, then why not ?

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V24

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I used to get guys to reconfirm 2 hours before but I have now changed that.  Any advanced bookings have to be reconfirmed by 9am, I make it clear that I will not chase them to reconfirm and if they don't their booking will go to someone else.  When they reconfirm I send them the parking postcode which within it states in capital letters PLEASE LET ME KNOW YOU GET THIS, if they don't acknowledge receipt of said text within 15 mins I send another one saying 'please let me know if you got the directions, if I don't hear back from you by .....  you're booking will be cancelled..  It has seemed to cut down the amount of no shows, although that can never be eradicated fully as there is always some arsehole that goes the whole hog.

I have had on occasion people reconfirm about 9.30 and act all indignant when told their booking is no more, but tough!

Kescort

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Hiya

Had a weird and annoying issue today. For advance bookings I always ask them at the start of the day to confirm their bookings. This way I am trying to avoid no shows and timewasters . He made his booking a few days ago and we confirmed yesterday. However I am still following my system. A few ours after I sent the message I said to him if no update at x time I will book someone else in.

He then responds that he has a family and I am indiscreet. Cancels on me due to my messages which he claims are not necessary (they absolutely are to me).

How to handle that crap? I am a business and I can’t be hanging in the air like that. Never had a complaint about it before, the rest seem to understand that. He then adds, I will give you a positive because I am a gentleman. Ugh. I have not done anything wrong!!

was it a text or email ? I do this through mail usually on AW  unless a punter specifically says I can text him which some do. I'd never just text a punter out the blue at any time as it is indiscreet. if they don't confirm  I just presume they arnt coming and find another punter
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