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LondonEscort2018

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #15 on: 26 March 2018, 03:10:54 am »
Hey I haven't read the the whole thread just your post. So my apology for not replying to the OP.

I just wanted to say I have been through what you are going through. I work full time and did uni part time until last year as a "mature" student too lol. Although I wasn't escorting at the time, but I sugared (sugar baby) in my spare time for the last one and half year of uni. It was busy but I enjoyed sugaring and didn't have a secret life so I was lucky in that sense.

If you do want to talk, whether about uni, work or rant about life generally, feel free to PM. Same for the OP. 🙂

LondonEscort2018

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #16 on: 26 March 2018, 03:26:18 am »
First if all alot of people do t realise how isolating this job can really be how much it effects ever area of your life.

I can relate to your post so much, I want to give you a big hug.  I've been escorting 10 years this year and I feel like in a way I've gained so many experiences I'm grateful for because of it but I've also missed out on the normal side of things. The only time i dated someone outside the industry he became emotionally abusive. i struggle with freindships because at some stage escorting will inevitably become a problem or a fascination for people.  All this said I wouldn't change being an escort right now as I do truly love it and it is a part of me.

I struggle with depression and in the past an eating disorder  which added to the demands of this work can make it very complicated to maintain and do "normal relasionships".
 I'm in uni 32-40ishish hours a week this year as I decided a few years ago to come back after a useless first degree I hated when I was younger due to it being easier to escort. So now i either study or am in the lab all day, I horrifically underestimated how hard it would be to work and go full time study. I don't know anyone from my course really because I'm a bit older, I work evenings and weekends and cant relate,weekends are my escort time and only income so that's them out the window.

Sorry for the mild hijacking of this post! My only advice really as clearly I am not the best person to ask is to focus on what you do love about your self and your life. Your starting a new course so keep focused on this one that you DO want to do!
 If you want to gain friends I've found doing non time consuming and low pressure things that are in no way work related helps,in my old city I joined meditation and wine tasting classes  to get out and about. The meet up app is where I met my only friend is often a good place to start expanding from that "work work work"lifestyle. I have to be honest I'd be lost without that friend, I had gotten to a stage it would be weeks until I saw someone other than clients.
(I also find talking to other sex workers can be extremely helpful as they understand about so much)

Hey I haven't read the the whole thread just your post. So my apology for not replying to the OP.

I just wanted to say I have been through what you are going through. I work full time and did uni part time until last year as a "mature" student too lol. Although I wasn't escorting at the time, but I sugared (sugar baby) in my spare time for the last one and half year of uni. It was busy but I enjoyed sugaring and didn't have a secret life so I was lucky in that sense.

If you do want to talk, whether about uni, work or rant about life generally, feel free to PM. Same for the OP. 🙂

DarcyLady

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #17 on: 26 March 2018, 05:21:25 pm »
I understand completely. I've been escorting for 10 years now, and it really takes it toll on you mentally. I love my job, but shitty clients can really take it out of me. I actually got myself a dog to help with the loneliness and it's actually forced me to go outside the house and do something normal. My dog walks keep me sane. X

Kanzaki

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #18 on: 26 March 2018, 08:57:46 pm »
I understand what you mean OP! It wouldn?t be so isolating if yhe society just accepted this work, after all, all those men who come and see us have no pb coming to see us (if not married), but us escort we are condamn to be whores for life! Well sorry, when a girl go to a night club and sleep around it?s ok, but when you are free and independent and thinking of your future likeyou do funding for education by doing escorting then it?s bad??
Who dictate the world? You tell me anyway good luck with everything  :-*

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #19 on: 26 March 2018, 09:13:25 pm »
I've managed to find some freedrom selling clips video clips and supplimenting with escorting so i'm not waiting at home all day and go spend my clip money that I know is coming in on XYZ day

Ieaio

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #20 on: 26 March 2018, 09:20:56 pm »
Also get twitter & try find sex worker friends, I got 1 recently they're literally so eye-opening a relief to hang out with lol & that's coming from an introvert :)

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #21 on: 26 March 2018, 10:49:15 pm »
I think we can all relate to this to a certain degree, this is the downside of this kind of work.

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #22 on: 26 March 2018, 11:36:42 pm »
I have made recently some wg friends, and I have to agree this feels amazing, I can't believe how much wg have on common, the way we think, feel, our background, there is always a reason that links us both so we decided to do that  :-* :-*

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Re: life passing me by...sacrifice to work
« Reply #23 on: 27 March 2018, 08:11:54 am »
I have made recently some wg friends, and I have to agree this feels amazing, I can't believe how much wg have on common, the way we think, feel, our background, there is always a reason that links us both so we decided to do that  :-* :-*

This is a good reason to meet up with ladies you can be honest with and share support and stories .