This is REEEEALLLY LONG, sorry. A kind of half rant, half question for advice. Mainly a rant, as I know what I should do really.....

I?ve a regular who used to come once week, pay and go. He found me really early on, when my rates were lower, and I was happy to do half hour bookings. I changed my strategy and upped my price a bit about two months after he started booking me, as I was still finding my feet and trying to find a business model and rate which worked for me and my circumstances, but as he was a nice, simple and quick almost guaranteed weekly booking, I kept him on at this original rate and for the half hours. We all have them, right- a few we have different arrangements for etc. Not a problem.

So, one year on, and this is the current situation: he is becoming demanding and needy, and I am suddenly thinking ?woah there! You are a client, remember?!? I have also at times had to stop myself from swinging at him during a booking which something tells me is not a good sign??..

For example: he will arrange a booking on a Monday and then try one for the Tuesday and Friday as well, before Monday is even out of the way. Just a bit too much, you know? Especially as I am also a student and work another job, I don?t want to take up my escorting quota for the week with a client who is paying me half my going rate, for as much effort I would have to put in with a full paying client. I hope I don?t sound up myself, I am appreciative of any booking, but I am starting to feel like he expects to be able to see me when he wants, and that I will want to move my day around to fit him in, like we are almost a couple of some warped sort!

The half hour with him is tedious to say the least, a constant barrage of instructions ?kiss me. Roll over. Kiss me. Harder. Kiss me. Tell me you want me. Do it HARDER. Did you miss me? Tell me you missed me. You didn?t even miss me, did you? Talk to me. Kiss me? AAARGH! ONE YEAR OF THIS LADIES AND GENTS. And I am thinking ?one more instruction and I am going to THUMP you?.

And then the comments at the end like ?you seem like you are enjoying it a bit too much sometimes, I think you might become addicted to me?. Now, I can act as well as I need to, but these little comments where he has clearly crossed some sort of line in his head make me so irritated, I have to bite my tongue.

Another example: a few weeks ago, I was ill for a couple of days. He text and asked me if I had any escort friends he could meet that day instead. I was in bed sick, so I didn?t look at my phone for most of the day, and when I did I see this text followed by three phonecalls, and then another text saying ?I have upset you, haven?t I? You are still my favourite, don?t worry. I am sorry?.

I had to send a sharp message telling him I had been sick all day, not agonizing over the fact he wanted to see another girl. GET A GRIP MAN.

And the flowers on valentine?s day- sweet enough, but I had to chuck them because it was like looking at his face staring at me in the corner. And then the wine which turned up on my birthday week REALLY riled me. (I told him I was taking the week off, he asked if he could see me anyway, I said ?no, it?s a holiday? and he persisted, so to make him leave it I admitted it was my birthday week). He still text me twice that week to ?see if I was about?. It shouldn?t be the case that I am resentful when a gift turns up at the door! I am usually so taken aback, and it is the token gestures of a lovely client which make me love this job even more sometimes. His just feel like he is trying to wangle his way into my real life.

The last bit- I feel like, because he is becoming so demanding and I have essentially been doing him a bit of a favour by keeping the discount going for so long, I should scrap it and charge him the same as everyone else now. I can hear the his comments ?but we get along so well, but I buy you presents? but, quite frankly, I am on the verge of murdering the man. So, it?s either charging him double the price and seeing if he eases off a bit or goes away sulking for a while, or telling him I don?t want to see him anymore (something I should do I think, but just can?t imagine because I can?t quite predict how he is gong to act, apart from maybe stand outside my door weeping or kidnap me or something).

He is a little, weedy loner type who doesn?t speak much, and those are always the ones who have a load of bodies in their garden, aren?t they?

ARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHH. Help!

Hi Carla,

I think deep down you have made up your own mind, gosh isn?t he a pain or what! I have also had my fare share of what I call ?sicko-fantics? but at least they were paying my current rate! I know it?s easy for me to say but ?if I were you? I would tell him that you can no-longer accept half hour bookings, and the minimal appointment is 1hr+ at your current rate. So he gets to see you and have loads of fun for twice as long. You shouldn?t need to explain yourself any more than that. I don?t know if your working from your actual home (and perhaps you may have previously told him so) but tell him a little white lie to stop him turning up or sending gifts to your door. Tell him you share your room from an agency and rent the room out by the hour, informing him you have never mentioned this before as the agency also provides protection and you never go into security arrangements with anyone (as a oath to your agency) and hopefully this will make him realise that you are not so alone nor reliable to him (like he likes to think as much in his own stupid head) along with this little white lie, tell him your room rates have gone up so if he wants to stay for just the half hour then the ?sss will just be the same as for the hour regardless!!!! Good luck, I reckon its best to offer him an appointment with your current rates (with no exceptions to him) so hopefully he will be out priced and decline and if that is the case he will be out of your hair for good! Its better than outright banning him, let his wallet do the talking on this one.

xxx
 

Woah, sorry about this everyone. I was just sitting there earlier thinking of a nice way to ignore his texts for the day enquiring about my health, and realised I was actually starting to stress out about him quite a lot in my personal life. And then I got thinking and realised quite how annoyed I have become at the whole situation without even noticing. And so the spew above spilled forth, freely and dragon like. Eeep! Must calm down.

I think I am questioning so much whether to let him go, because I don't want to be morphing into a greedy "I deserve more than THAT" type of up myself escort without even realising it, which hopefully my post didn't make me sound.....

LE1984, you are right in that I should be prepared to lose him- regulars are our life-blood and I am pained to lose one, especially as I know we all have to grit our teeth and smile for even the best regular from time to time just to get the reward... but seeing as I am the first to jump on my high horse and advise people to lose the money and keep their sanity by shaking off a nightmare client, I will heed your advice and do this asap.

JessicaJ, I think the idea of letting his money do the talking is a good one- as he knows me as an indie, I can give some bull about the new tax year etc. This would definitely oust him painlessly without having to let on that he is starting to make me feel creeped out (and irritated to the point of murder,) provided he couldn't afford my higher rate. If he can, I can maybe tell him it is now a million pounds an hour? I would also prefer this as opposed to entering into a conversation with him about stopping the bookings, which, knowing him, would boost his standing weirdly enough- he'd probably twist it to see it as in intimate chat bringing us closer together, which I am somewhat keen to avoid!

I have analysed it to death (as I love to) and I feel like I have been seeing him to keep HIM happy and not me. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON HERE?! I feel a bit bad but god, this has gone far enough.

Anyone want to snap him up?

Thank you for being a such a compliant, captive audience whilst I work through a problem, love you all! xxx

tell him to act right or else dump his ass...I had one before, the type that instructs you to 'do stuff to them' and be all aggressive.

Like they have said, there isnt much to add. Either drop him or put up with the obsessiveness. I'm the type who can put up with behavior like that as long as Im getting the coins, but sometimes you need a break...like maybe once every other week.

Dont kill him cause SAAFE cant write you if you're in jail!

He's overstepping the line, and he needs to be put back into his place, as a client. This relationship is taking a different turn, and it's not good.
Personally, regular or not, I'd kick him to the kerb. It's easy for me to say but this job is stressful enough as it is without clients thinking their entitled to things they're not, just because they've been seeing you for a while. But then he sounds like he has an obsessive personality. I guess he's the type not to take no for an answer?
Can you think up a good excuse not to see him anymore?

Well like they said Carla I mean its definently worth getting this one in check. I still have one such as this back home, although not as aggressive. I know I could walk away after the booking and be left alone, but anytime in person I tend to want to back off. In addition the distance between us stopped what could have been obssession. But he's a good person though so I wouldnt knock it.

Oh, and the thing you said about "do you have another girl who could take your place" question he asked, well someone asked me that for the first time when I moved asking, "Do you know anyone who could take your place?" I told him it was "rude to ask that, besides no one could take my place anyway". So I know what you mean by that

Familiarity can sure breed contempt and it sounds like this client/WG relationship has run its course.

Personally, I'd tell him that things have got too intense as you've been seeing each other for so long and as a result you dont want to see him anymore (or for a while if you want to soften the blow). Then just ignore his texts and calls.

He possibly thinks he is special to you because he is still getting you at the lower price and maybe that is driving him to act in this manner.

Knock him on the head for sure, as I cant say enough times, sanity is always more important than profit, no matter what the economic climate.

Whats the saying? Clients are not  paying us for sex, they are paying us to go away after the sex.

Oh my god, I am so getting a t-shirt with that on...