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PurpleNails

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regret
« on: 29 April 2011, 11:35:35 am »
I regret doing this job and I cant get over it.

I now cant believe that i had sex with people that I didn't want to for money.
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Re: regret
« Reply #1 on: 29 April 2011, 01:03:22 pm »
It is not the job for everyone and there is a lot more to the mental side of this job than people realise .... some with the 'lies' or 'covering up' that is required for some ladies ........... some people are silly enough to think it is just jumping into bed with guys and having sex (or not in some cases) but that is not the case.

Put it down to experience now and get out if you feel that strongly against it.  I am sure there will be someone along soon that can advise you re getting a counsellor you can talk to to get through your anguish.
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Re: regret
« Reply #2 on: 29 April 2011, 01:54:30 pm »
If you've been feeling like this for a while, but kept on doing it, ouch. There are lots of projects who will be happy to help you 'exit' - if you say roughly where you are, it should be possible to point you in their direction.

If this is a sudden thing, then it's possible this could be temporary. There's at least one thread here about dealing with feeling burned out.

Either way, it's a sign you need to look after yourself a bit more, whether that's by quitting, taking a break, being more selective about who you'll accept as a client, or...
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PurpleNails

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Re: regret
« Reply #3 on: 29 April 2011, 02:20:20 pm »
It could be just feeling it today, I've had burnout before, I'm not sure to be honest, I respect girls that have chosen to do this.

I haven't worked today because I don't have to but again it will reach a point where I have to.
« Last Edit: 29 April 2011, 02:28:18 pm by PurpleNails »
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Re: regret
« Reply #4 on: 29 April 2011, 02:25:27 pm »
If you feel like you're trapped because of financial commitments it may be helpful for you to change the way you work. At the beginning of this year I got bad burnout, I didn't regret the work but I just didn't have the passion for it I used to, and was getting irritable about the most tiny things clients did that annoyed me. I took about 6 weeks out and got into webcamming instead, which is more dependable moneywise although it's not as high an hourly rate (I average about ?20-?30 an hour before commission), and I found much less emotionally draining. I then went back into escorting only offering 15/30min appointments (which causes a new kind of grief of course as I have to deal with lots of stupid phonecalls from people who can't read :P) as I enjoy them a lot more and don't find them stressful.

If you're really unhappy you should try to get some help getting out of the industry but if it is just burnout or you really don't have any other options, think about what kind of appointments you enjoy (or hate the least) and maybe only offer those for a while, whether that's minimal involvement quickies or long relaxing overnights. Think about things like webcam, phone sex, panty selling etc which could be a good change for you, or things like picture and movie clip selling (I use that as a backup, it's not great money on it's own but possibly if you put lots of effort into it with new pics every day or so and featuring it'd be more profitable). If you can afford it, just a break for a while might be the best way to clear your head and figure out what, if any, type of sex work you're happy to keep doing.
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Re: regret
« Reply #5 on: 29 April 2011, 10:51:01 pm »
I agree with everybody else and I do sympathise - having suffered from one bad burnout myself and felt it creeping up in the background on other occasions (including now if I'm honest, after a few stressful weeks) it's a horrible feeling, and worse still if you have no alternative because of your financial situation.

I do think that if you really have come to hate the job, you need to get out for the sake of your emotional well being, and there are people who can help you to do that. Nobody has to work as a prostitute if they don't want to, and there is support available - a support resource could help you find a regular full or part-time job so the immediate pressure of regular income is off, and you decide after a break you might like to come back part time for some extra cash there's nothing stopping you. One thing about this work is that you can dip in and out of it all you want.

I've never tried webcam work and it doesn't interest me, but a lot of ladies seem to do well with it - might be worth a try if it's just the physical meetings you're finding difficult? There is a long thread about camming in the Adultwork board :).

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Re: regret
« Reply #6 on: 30 April 2011, 12:28:56 am »
I have hit a wall once before and couldnt stand the thought of seeing another client I met a regular and realised what I had been missing and really loved it again after that but sometimes girls cant get over that hurdle.

I would have to agree about the webcam thing, if you feel like you have to work that is an absolutely horrible position to be in and I have earned on average ?500 a week on webcam sometimes up to ?1500 a week on my best week so all I can say is if you cant physically do a meet consider webcamming if you HAVE to do anything otherwise you will feel worse....