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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: MissJayJay on 14 February 2017, 12:38:14 pm
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Hi all.
First post, so please try and be kind as I know this may seem a silly question / topic, but I do not know who else to ask as my friends and family do not know what I do.
I did some escorting for just over 18 months and it went quite well, but I stopped three years ago to have my son and move in with my partner etc. When I was last doing this work I was a size 10 and I was 19.
I'm now a size 14, and no matter how hard I try I can't get my saggy skin from my c section and stretch marks on my tummy to go away. But my boobs still look good and so do my legs I think. I want to get back into escorting but I don't know if men will be interested or disgusted ???, or if I can justify my rate of ?130 p/h anymore?
Does anyone know if there's anything kind of lingerie I can wear that will cover up my stomach? Do you think guys will be okay with me keeping it on to cover it up or would that not work?
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Guys don't mind! Just take new photos and you'll be fine! As for lingerie, there are lots of suspender belts that cover up more and waspies. Ann summers do a good selection, just have a look on their website and choose one that coveres up more stomach if you are self conscious x
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I'm a size 16 and have had 2 c sections. I wear suspender belts that cover my jelly belly and I never take it off.
Like you, I've got great boobs and legs. Guys love a MILF. Go for it!
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Same as MM, I wear a deep suspender belt that keeps most of the wobblies in! Guys really won't mind, just make sure you have accurate up to date photos and you state your true dress size on your profile.
You will attract the guys who like curves and not attract the ones who don't. Simples :)
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I am a size 12 bottom but a 16 top and have a saggy tummy but i know my legs, bum and boobs are still ok and the guys do not mind the wobbly bits. I think it makes them less self conscious about their less than perfect bodies
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I have a conspicuous tummy tuck scar as well as vertical scars on my breasts from breast uplift surgery. I have been escorting for 19 months now and can see myself selling my body for many more years to come.
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I'm a 14-16 and i bought a steel boned waspie corset at Christmas. Best purchase I ever made! It's make my very unshapely figure look like an hour glass one and I never take it off during bookings. If they ask I just say I feel more confortable wearing it, not many do ask to take it off though :)
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I have to be very careful choosing clothes. I'm a size 10 top and size 8 bottom. I have to pick colours and shape which compensates for the bits of me I don't like. I'm honest in my profile about my body and have representative pictures of what I wear and my figure. I feel really self-conscious and guys have told me to stop worrying. I want to buy a new (and very expensive) bra and suspenders which I need to be more confident with clothes off and on.
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As said previously be scrupulously honest with photos and description.
Whether naked or dressed sexy your confidence is key, if you love your body clients will love it too. Nobody is perfect but love your imperfections and clients will be putty in your hands.
All you have to do is smile and give a damn good service.
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:) thank you ladies for the suggestions. I'll definitely have a look at waspies / suspender belts when I'm next out. I've never been so self conscious before about a body part before, but hopefully that'll help.
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As said previously be scrupulously honest with photos and description.
Whether naked or dressed sexy your confidence is key, if you love your body clients will love it too. Nobody is perfect but love your imperfections and clients will be putty in your hands.
All you have to do is smile and give a damn good service.
Haha thanks; smiling is something I can definitely do :)
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Its cliche, but confidence is sexy. I returned after a break - my dress size hasn't really changed, my hair is longer. That's about it. When I came back after another retirement I had lost a significant amount of weight (well over 3 stone, but I do have an hourglass shape so it's hard to judge by dress size) - and I lost clients because of that!
Men like what they like.
I'd love to know the best places for deep suspender belts though - I have laparoscopy scars that I have issues with, and I'd like to hide them.
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Try stockingsdirect.co.uk - they've got some lovely deep ones at reasonable prices.
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I'm a size ten , nothing really wrong , bought my boobs , no scars apart from them ( tiny) and still worry a bit , personally I think it's normal to be a little apprehensive and I've had a few guys who say I'm too thin and that they prefer a more curvy figure ( I told them I was eating a jam sandwich as we spoke lol) .
Definitely without doubt everyone has a preference and it's not the ideal some of us believe .
Some guys like real women and some like the idea of perfection . I think personally men like real ( personality and shape) .
I think confidence is the key and the ability to put guys at ease , that's mainly what they're after , good luck , it will be the same as before xx
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Yep, confidence and honest marketing are the key. I'm a size 28 and have never had a walker.
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And remember they're not stretch marks they're Tiger Stripes...grrrrr. ;D
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At a size 26/28 with stretch marks and red skin in one or two places caused by dermatitis I can say I've never had a walker. Men don't care as long as you dress up sexy and are friendly, give them a good service and are confident. Don't worry.
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Just be what you are if you are slim and petite market it, if you are a busty babe advertise it, if you are a big beautiful BBW then shout it out, the worst thing an escort can do is pretend to be something they are not. I'm a mature 58 year old and that's what I market. I may be wearing well but I'm not beautiful, thin, extra busty or anything special but I'm honest about who I am and I like to give a good service so just be honest and be yourself and don't worry about the competition as there are men out there who will find you to be exactly what they are looking for. I remember being told when you walk into a shoe shop there are hundreds of shoes to choose from but not all will fit you comfortably in the same way we cant be a shoe that fits everyone we all have our pros and cons but be honest and punters who like your type will book you.
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im a size 20 with a big saggy belly with big saggy boobs and guy don't mind I am a very willing partner if im treated right and in a safe environment
I will do what their wifes wont ;D
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Its cliche, but confidence is sexy. I returned after a break - my dress size hasn't really changed, my hair is longer. That's about it. When I came back after another retirement I had lost a significant amount of weight (well over 3 stone, but I do have an hourglass shape so it's hard to judge by dress size) - and I lost clients because of that!
Men like what they like.
I'd love to know the best places for deep suspender belts though - I have laparoscopy scars that I have issues with, and I'd like to hide them.
Correct, when I'm smaller some clients tell me they don't like it. Others think it's wonderful.
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:) thank you ladies for the suggestions. I'll definitely have a look at waspies / suspender belts when I'm next out. I've never been so self conscious before about a body part before, but hopefully that'll help.
Check out 'deep suspender belts' as an eBay search and you'll see loads , mine cost various amounts but they have nice really deep Lacey ones for around 6.99 they're great !
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i am a size 20 and trust me my belly is not flat as ive had a c section myself i have been pulling men with this body for years. Over the years i have learnt that every man has a preference some men even tell me am not big enough its all about how you package yourself make sure you do nice nails lashes good make up get yourself nice lingirie on Ebay and also lovehoney for lovely plus size lingirie.
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Hey Hun
First of all we are all different and I believe there's work out there for us all doesn't matter on age , size or race . As long as we market our selves right it's all ok . I have never had kids but I have had stomact surgery scars and stretch marks on my bum from all the weight I have lost from when I was younger . I have never had any one comment on my scars or stretch marks part from one guy . I usually wear all in one body stockings . You will be find Hun go for it . We can't be every ones cup of tea there always be the odd idiot who has some thing stupid to say .
But good luck and go for it babe xx
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Thanks everyone ;D made me feel a lot less paranoid! I'm taking new photos when the underwear I ordered gets here of course as I don't want to mislead people. Think that's just asking for trouble.
Do you take nude photos that specifically show your bits so that people know, or just honest photos but in underwear that covers it?
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Try stockingsdirect.co.uk - they've got some lovely deep ones at reasonable prices.
Thanks for that. I've ordered from them. They're not too badly priced either.
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Thanks everyone ;D made me feel a lot less paranoid! I'm taking new photos when the underwear I ordered gets here of course as I don't want to mislead people. Think that's just asking for trouble.
Do you take nude photos that specifically show your bits so that people know, or just honest photos but in underwear that covers it?
I have a couple of nudes in my private gallery that show everything but since I usually keep my sussie belt on during my bookings, most of my photos include stockings and belt.
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I have a couple of nudes in my private gallery that show everything but since I usually keep my sussie belt on during my bookings, most of my photos include stockings and belt.
:) thanks. Good to know.
Wish I'd known about this site when I started years ago. Would've saved me hours researching escort friendly accountants and finding out the heard way re time wasters on the phone!
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And remember they're not stretch marks they're Tiger Stripes...grrrrr. ;D
Oh I love that. Cheered me up seeing your post there mature Helen. Think I'll look at my tiger stripes in a different way from now on. Bless. x
Trust us all and look at the saafe website. Escorts come in all shapes and sizes. You have nothing to worry about.
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Just be what you are if you are slim and petite market it, if you are a busty babe advertise it, if you are a big beautiful BBW then shout it out, the worst thing an escort can do is pretend to be something they are not. I'm a mature 58 year old and that's what I market. I may be wearing well but I'm not beautiful, thin, extra busty or anything special but I'm honest about who I am and I like to give a good service so just be honest and be yourself and don't worry about the competition as there are men out there who will find you to be exactly what they are looking for. I remember being told when you walk into a shoe shop there are hundreds of shoes to choose from but not all will fit you comfortably in the same way we cant be a shoe that fits everyone we all have our pros and cons but be honest and punters who like your type will book you.
Great Post M H xx
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sexy underwear and spray tan should be enough to hide wat your not comfortable with, confidence is more important than anything
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This is my favourite deep suspender belt
https://www.zalando.co.uk/lascana-suspenders-black-l8381a014-q11.html
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This is my favourite deep suspender belt
https://www.zalando.co.uk/lascana-suspenders-black-l8381a014-q11.html
Just looked thatbone up. Its gorg x
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sexy underwear and spray tan should be enough to hide wat your not comfortable with, confidence is more important than anything
I dont think I'll be able to wear spray tan with my skin tone being mixed ;D but I've ordered an underbust cincher which covers everything nicely. Just have to make sure no one takes it off!This is my favourite deep suspender belt
https://www.zalando.co.uk/lascana-suspenders-black-l8381a014-q11.html
Thanks. I realise I might have been a bit boring before lingerie wise. All I ever wore was bra, suspenders and thong and that was about it. So it'll make things a little more interesting I'm sure.
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I dont think I'll be able to wear spray tan with my skin tone being mixed ;D but I've ordered an underbust cincher which covers everything nicely. Just have to make sure no one takes it off!Thanks. I realise I might have been a bit boring before lingerie wise. All I ever wore was bra, suspenders and thong and that was about it. So it'll make things a little more interesting I'm sure.
That's all I wear but I wear a little black dress and heels as well
Im also mixed race and have spray tans not at the momenr as im still pretty tanned from my holiday in jan but generally I have one every week when not got a nice tan ( probably don't make sense but I like having them lol