A couple of the replies mentioned unprotected sex, and i asked him his thoughts on this.  He told me it would be up to me but he would be happy to pay me 50% on top of the regular amount if i wanted to on the basis that we both had regular health check ups.

Up to you of course, but I wouldn't, not for any amount of money.

Is he married?  How can you be sure he's not seeing other ladies besides his wife and you (answer: you can't be)?  And what about your husband - do you have unprotected sex with him?  Mind you, I hate to say it, but you don't sound that bothered about your husband anyway 

If i was to give the trial a go I wont be doing unprotected sex with him, my health is more important than any amount he can offer x

If i was to give the trial a go I wont be doing unprotected sex with him, my health is more important than any amount he can offer x

The agreement sounds good to me but I wouldn't go the bb road either because this guy is having unprotected sex with the wife and good knows who else he has been with in the past. He may be having an affair with the hot secretary who happens to go clubbing in the weekends and sleeps around a lot. God knows. Getting HPV  and suffering cervical cancer in the future is definately NOT worth  the money he's giving you. Or herpes, which is super common and (besides being painful) you never get rid of it. So yes, unprotected sex is something you only do with your partner/husband ONLY. Like you said "health is more important than any amount of money". Some people tend to forget that  when they see $$$$.

So you're saying that your health is only important during the trial period? I think if you truly had no intention of bareback you would have told him so. Instead you 'asked' him about it and he claims he'll pay you extra.  Anyway, this isnt the issue. The issue is that this guy will have complete control over you and you are no longer his escort but his slave. And i'm wondering if your poor husband has any say on the matter...

I spoke to my husband again this morning, he knows i am thinking it through and am leaning towards giving it a try but he doesnt know that i have joined this site and getting advice and thoughts from fellow escorts.  

He believes, as i mentioned yesterday, that if i do accept i then become this guys lover, mistress, call it what you want.  I think he is also worried that having very regular sex with just the one guy will mean the sex between me and the client will get better and better, whereas now with my current standard escort situation its have a booking with one guy, move onto the next booking etc.  That's what he thinks, anyway.

I don't know about the two points above, i feel being financially dependant on one client is no different to being dependant on several clients each week wanting to book me.

I don't know about the two points above, i feel being financially dependant on one client is no different to being dependant on several clients each week wanting to book me.
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Electra- it sounds to me as if you're position on this is pretty clear. In a tug-of-war, the side of agreeing to this is winning. I do the same thing in my posts, think I'm positioning a lot of them as neutral when it becomes more and more clear that I have a bias toward one side or the other.
Maybe you and the hubby could do a pro/con list? Taking into account all of the detractors our friends have suggested... But it looks to me as if your mind is made up so you really need to step back, consider your safety and autonomy and maybe present it to your husband in such a way that he shares in the formulation of the list and the final decision. You should make it clear to him that you're pretty sure you want to do this and justify this in a way that assuages his ego and concerns.

The bottom line is this: you want to do it and most of us and your husband don't necessarily think it's the best idea. What does that tell you?
xx

I'll be back... Need to eat some cheesecake then do some crunches...!

A couple of the replies mentioned unprotected sex, and i asked him his thoughts on this.  He told me it would be up to me but he would be happy to pay me 50% on top of the regular amount if i wanted to on the basis that we both had regular health check ups.

I can't believe you're actually giving him the choice!! At the end of the day he is still a CLIENT/PUNTER, he isn't the one running YOUR business, why are you allowing him so much power/control? I know you said he's willing to pay more, but they ALL say that (all the barebacker desperadoes anyway). I was recently offered ?1000 for a 15 minute booking for JUST unprotected sex. He could have offered me ?1million, I am NOT playing Russian Roulette with my life or health for cash. The discussion should have just been you telling him that unprotected sex is out of the question - END OF.

And no, it's not different if you're only sleeping with him and your husband - as others have said, you have no idea what he's doing with other ladies. When I was younger, the slogan went (something like) "When you have sex with someone, you're having sex with everyone they've ever slept with."

Sadly, by accepting the breast implant money, you initially put yourself in the position of being indebted to a punter, and now that he wants repaying, he already has the upper hand.

I still think 3 months is far too long for a first trial if you're going to go ahead. Start with 1 month, then extend to 3, then 6, then a year, etc.

Quote from: electra on 24 August 2011, 09:25:20 am

A couple of the replies mentioned unprotected sex, and i asked him his thoughts on this.  He told me it would be up to me but he would be happy to pay me 50% on top of the regular amount if i wanted to on the basis that we both had regular health check ups.

I can't believe you're actually giving him the choice!! At the end of the day he is still a CLIENT/PUNTER, he isn't the one running YOUR business, why are you allowing him so much power/control? I know you said he's willing to pay more, but they ALL say that (all the barebacker desperadoes anyway). I was recently offered ?1000 for a 15 minute booking for JUST unprotected sex. He could have offered me ?1million, I am NOT playing Russian Roulette with my life or health for cash. The discussion should have just been you telling him that unprotected sex is out of the question - END OF.

And no, it's not different if you're only sleeping with him and your husband - as others have said, you have no idea what he's doing with other ladies. When I was younger, the slogan went (something like) "When you have sex with someone, you're having sex with everyone they've ever slept with."

Sadly, by accepting the breast implant money, you initially put yourself in the position of being indebted to a punter, and now that he wants repaying, he already has the upper hand.

I still think 3 months is far too long for a first trial if you're going to go ahead. Start with 1 month, then extend to 3, then 6, then a year, etc.

I can understnad how the breast implant situation will come across to people, but he never wanted the money back from me and i dont think he sees this proposal as a way of me repaying him.  Maybe im wrong with that?

A lot of the replies on here are saying 3 months is too long, and are suggesting doing it for a month instead, which is certainly food for thought for me x