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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: secretcallgirl91 on 16 April 2012, 04:50:13 pm
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Im with an agency and they ask that we withhold our numbers when confirming a booking with a client.
Some how a client has got my number..
Luckily my phone was on silent and MY BOYFRIEND IS LATE COMING ROUND!!
I have a missed call, voicemail and text from the client.
The voicemail was the same as the text...
"Hi ive just left a message on your answerphone. I was wondering if *** or *** were available this afternoon? I spent a lovely hour with *** (which is me) last week. Look forward to hearing from you."
I am not working today as I have had an sore throat, cough cold and been run down and to top it off found out I was pregnant today!
Tried to reply to client as professionally but small talk as possible and said
"hello ***, its ***. unfortunately I am not working today as I have some personal issues to sort out but I will be available tomorrow if you would look to book an appointment then you can do it by calling the agency on...... Thank you."
Just got a reply, dont want to be rude and completely ignore it but I dont really want to be socializing in anyway with clients unless I am booking their appointment or they are paying me for there time.
The reply said
"Thats great :D Take care and I hope everything is ok at home? I fancy spoiling a naughty school girl! Hope your up for that"
I now remember who this client is and he was a very nice gentleman but I am sure he is married and I dont feel I should be texting a client intimately that I am looking forward to it? and I dont think he should be saying this.
I need to end this conversation as quickly and politely as possible.
What shall I say?
I cant risk my boyfriend turning up and asking who I am texting if he replies later on...
Shall I just say Everything is fine thank you. I look forward to our next appointment?
keep it as simple as that or ...?
Ahh i dont know I dont want to loose the client as I am going to need all the appointments I can get before my bump shows and I have to stop escorting? x
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Firstly I hope congrats are in order, or was it a bit of a surprise. I hope you're ok luv.
I think I would just ask the client no to text you or call on this number as your boyfriend is about. If he wants to book you to call the agency. You look forward to your next appointment. Luv ******
xx
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Goodness me, if that one polite text (after an attempted phone call, even!) has put you in this much of a tizzy, you might want to wear a hard hat at all times if you ever go indie. ;D
Sorry - I'm not being mean, it just made me giggle because if you have your work number on your profiles and website etc, you get about a bajillion texts and calls every week, more than half of which can be FAR worse in terms of pestering/rudeness/stalkery-ness then this guy! He just sounds like he wants to book you again. You've told him what to do if he wants to book, he's obviously also interested in engaging in some sexy sex chat with you but he's a purchaser of sexual services so of course he'd be up for a free wank right now. You just need to decide whether you want to provide him with that.
This is Sex Work 101 (for indies): Stay in charge of all communication with clients. If you want to titillate him, tell him you're really excited to blah blah schoolgirl naughty blowjob blah blah. But then be very prepared for the consequences which will be him getting all excited and possibly starting to think that you're just a slutty mcslutterson rather than a professional sex worker. Absolutely nothing wrong with being a slutty mcslutterson, mind! The issue here is actually just about how the client perceives you. So stay strictly professional if the idea of getting involved in unpaid text chat makes you feel mildly to moderately irritated. It's all entirely YOUR decision at the end of the day. Think about what you want, and then think logically about the best way to obtain that.
Wow, a text from a client, a cold AND a foetus at the same time! What a day of swings and roundabouts you've had. :D
Oh, also? This is Indie Sex Worker (and also Punter) Rule #2: Do not have your work/punting phone switched on near, or indeed in any sort of vicinity of, a person that you are trying to keep your secret life secret from. Just don't do it. Not sometimes, not occasionally, not "oops I forgot" even once; NEVER.
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"Hi ive just left a message on your answerphone. I was wondering if *** or *** were available this afternoon? I spent a lovely hour with *** (which is me) last week. Look forward to hearing from you."
If the first ***s are names, then he's mistaken your number for the agency's number = you probably didn't withhold your number last time. If they're sexual acts, then see Emily's advice.
Lots of people would arrange a booking without going via the agency...
I am going to need all the appointments I can get before my bump shows and I have to stop escorting? x
Good luck - so much of parenting is luck.
The very idea squicks some out, but you know there is a very definite niche market for pregnant escorts, don't you? Search for 'pamfan'.
To add to Emily's #2, make sure they are different sorts of phones, possibly on different networks.
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Yeah I think its a case of him thinking he rang the agency where I must of not withheld my number. I have a spare phone and have ordered a sim card on a different network so I can use this for work. I dont care what the agency says, now I am pregnant I have to be even more careful and keep it even more seperate. And after yesterday if my boyfriend showed up on time and my phone was ringing he would defiantely have something to say about that.
I always book with agency as I am only advertised with them, I do incalls in their friends house so I would need to confirm this booking. Also for my safety and I wouldnt want to loose my place with the agency for stealing their clients.
I am very shocked to find out I am pregnant, it has come at the worst time ever! Thank you for the congratulations. I just want the next few weeks to hurry up! well months!! lol.
Do girls find it hard then when they are pregnant? my agency said I should be ok. They have a girl whos just found out shes pregnant and is 5 months and starting to show and shes still getting regular clients.
Abortion is out of the question, especially to carry on escorting. I am very nervous, scared, paranoid, tired and feeling low and emotionally finding it really tough atm x
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also...i did reply to client saying
'I look forward to seeing you again. We can discuss more when you book the appointment'
Didnt get a reply after that but got a booking from him today :) so glad with the outcome x