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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: HS1978 on 21 September 2017, 07:00:35 pm
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A potential client has asked for a three hour domination session, I have dominated men for short periods but not three hours how can I fill the time. He says he wants light spanking, wax play, tie and tease, ws. spitting, strap on and worshiping my body including oral and rimming which im cool with. But how the hec do i fill three hours
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From my experience those who book hour long bookings know what they want and they have their own reasons for booking that long. It could be that he wants the company..... who knows?
Be prepared with your tools and just enjoy your money. :)
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Have to be honest, this sounds like a fantasist. I carry out BDSM sessions with very experienced clients and even they couldn't survive a 3 hour session. Unless a lot of thay session involves confinement, human furniture or other non-pain related activities.
If this client is being sincere, I would suggest getting more info from him in terms of his likes and dislikes as well as experience.
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Have to be honest, this sounds like a fantasist. I carry out BDSM sessions with very experienced clients and even they couldn't survive a 3 hour session. Unless a lot of thay session involves confinement, human furniture or other non-pain related activities.
If this client is being sincere, I would suggest getting more info from him in terms of his likes and dislikes as well as experience.
How long would you say a good dom session should last 2hrs?
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i'm thinking about getting him to massage me for an hour before punishing him with his kinks for doing rubbish job, otherwise i'm struggling, trying to keep it going for three hours could be tough, thinking of significant work down time too.
He also wants to book another 3 hrs in a months time. I think its partly company as he does not seem too experienced.
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Sounds like my idea of hell. I used to do long bookings, both gfe and dom but now an hour or a 90 mins at a push and I feel I have done my best for them. This is why I don't even accept long bookings any more as it is not fair to the guy.
I have a great imagination and could if I absolutely had to keep it going for 3 hours but I know I would be watching that clock and when you do that it goes so very slowly. Others here may have more constructive ideas, sorry I am sounding so negative.
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It really depends on yours and their experience. Are you actually experienced in these aspects or is it just something you can do if asked? Is he fully experienced or is he just dabbling? Which types of Mistresses has he visited before?
I assume from the post that you havent met him before? This alone would indicate to me that he isn't being sincere in his request. I have never been contacted by a new client for an extensive meeting and for it to actually take place. Most of these people are timewasters. It's a bit like a new client contacting a regular escort saying they havent had sex before, let alone visited an escort, but would like an overnight meeting. Would you believe them?
I might be wrong. My experience is normally clients new to BDSM will book an hour to 1.5 hour session to decide if it is something they actually like. An experienced BDSM client but new to me would likely book an hour - 1.5 hour session. A regular and experienced client could book 2 hours +.
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It really depends on yours and their experience. Are you actually experienced in these aspects or is it just something you can do if asked? Is he fully experienced or is he just dabbling? Which types of Mistresses has he visited before?
I assume from the post that you havent met him before? This alone would indicate to me that he isn't being sincere in his request. I have never been contacted by a new client for an extensive meeting and for it to actually take place. Most of these people are timewasters. It's a bit like a new client contacting a regular escort saying they havent had sex before, let alone visited an escort, but would like an overnight meeting. Would you believe them?
I might be wrong. My experience is normally clients new to BDSM will book an hour to 1.5 hour session to decide if it is something they actually like. An experienced BDSM client but new to me would likely book an hour - 1.5 hour session. A regular and experienced client could book 2 hours +.
I get the feeling he is very new to bdsm and just wants to try lots of different things out to find out what he likes, a kind of crash course in submission. From his emails and feedback he seems genuine.
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He also wants to book another 3 hrs in a months time. I think its partly company as he does not seem too experienced.
He's talking out his arse. Never experienced BDSM. Never met you. But already talking about his next 3 hour session.
Save your time and don't bother responding to him.
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He's talking out his arse. Never experienced BDSM. Never met you. But already talking about his next 3 hour session.
Save your time and don't bother responding to him.
Not too sure, just asked him for a ?100 deposit and he paid
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Well that, is insane. In that case, you best go away and research BDSM so that you aren't stuck twiddling your thunbs for 3 hours. Log on to Kink Academy, get practising your knots and stock up on bondage candles ;)
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All my bondage and bdsm paraphernalia is gathering dust in a wardrobe. Can't bring myself to get rid of it as now and then I dip into it and use the odd thing.
I tend to agree with Veggiegal though about this man. He paid 100 deposit? So now you feel committed and have to see it through? How does he know he will not hate it and not want another similar long booking?
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Personally I'd just take it super slow and prolong each activity spending loads of time building suspense and if there's still time just go back to the start with the first activities.
He does sound overeager and has probably only dabbled at best but may as well take advantage of it...
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He also wants to book another 3 hrs in a months time. I think its partly company as he does not seem too experienced.
This is a fantasist. Anybody who tells you he wants to become a regular or book you again without having ever met you is full of it. He might be for real but I would be surprised.
* Just read the deposit part sorry.
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Do ass worship with clothes, then without clothes. Don't let him sit on bed, ask for foot massage, foot worship, etc.
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If he's sincere, one thing you can do is to tie him up and leave him while you go eat a snack or something.
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If you know a bit of Japanese rope bondage, then this is a great way to fill in time, as you could spend at least half an hour roping him up. I found this very useful when I got 3 or 4 hour bdsm bookings.
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If you know a bit of Japanese rope bondage, then this is a great way to fill in time, as you could spend at least half an hour roping him up. I found this very useful when I got 3 or 4 hour bdsm bookings.
I have a fab full colour book on it which was a gift from a client along with miles of the soft rope. Yes this is one way of making the time go I suppose, taking it very slowly while talking to the man throughout and explaining what may or may not happen to him next.
No need to buy books though obviously, anything can be learned from a google click.
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I've nothing to add to this other than to say if he's new to domination he's a bit of numpty booking three hours, especially if you're not very experienced either lol. But more fool him! As long as he's specific about what he's after it won't be impossible. Good luck!
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Make him bathe you, give you massages, force feed him food and go from nice food to yuk, anal training foot and body worship, tie and tease, some ignoring, chastity, cleaning duties, use him as a footstool while you read a book. Do his makeup make him look pretty, dress him up.
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Thanks for the advise, I think I will take things ultra slow, plenty of reading up on bondage techniques etc, just worried that I wont have enough up my sleeve for the second meet.
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Thanks for the advise, I think I will take things ultra slow, plenty of reading up on bondage techniques etc, just worried that I wont have enough up my sleeve for the second meet.
Honestly? I would really not worry about the next meet yet, it may never happen, just concentrate on this one.
I only do mild dom, and only accept max 2 hour bookings with new clients, just for many of the worries you bring up.
Good luck I hope it goes well.