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£3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« on: 11 September 2019, 06:33:02 am »
Would you do it? Spend a few hours with a condescending prick for £3,500

So I have seen him twice before at my normal rate when I was touring his city. Now, he wants to do a "fly me to you" weekend date and he'll cover everything. I'll probably only spend 6 hours max with him for that £3,500. I just don't know if it's worth it. To be honest I have been questioning the whole escorting thing lately. Disordered/narcissistic men are rampant in this business (maybe just my experience) and I don't know if I can take it anymore as they remind me of my mother, whom I hate with a passion. She is a snobby, misogynistic hypocrite herself. I suspect she did sex-work in the past but is now holier-than-thou because she was "saved" by this poor soul who she manipulates like play-dough. Anyway, that's another story.

I didn't mean to ramble, sorry, now back to this guy in question. He is a high earner, specialised doctor by profession, married. Problem is he is very snobby. Last I saw him he was mocking my RnB playlist, saying Mozart is better especially since he is an "intellectual". I played along and put Mozart on. He was even criticising my frozen salmon dinner as he was leaving, saying he only eats fresh, "high end" food. I also think he secretly  went through my toiletry bag as he was showering cause after the booking, he started asking me (in an accusatory tone) about herpes (he really emphasised herpes) and other STIs, there was cold sore medication in my bag which is not mine. So I put 2 and 2 together and I confronted him by text after he left and he denied it,  saying the medication "fell out" ::) .....

I put him on Ugly Mugs here (Australia) cause I thought what he did was quite sneaky and out of order. I am now thinking the fly me to you booking could be a setup as maybe some escort showed him my UM report and he wants to get his revenge but then again it might be genuine because he can certainly afford it. It's just his snobbiness and condescending attitude ughhh ..... I am at a stage where I want to prioritise my mental health. I guess I have answered my own question. Still keen to hear from you ladies. What do you think? What is your tolerance when it comes to men like this? Should I ask him for £5k instead  ???

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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #1 on: 11 September 2019, 07:08:47 am »
What do you think? What is your tolerance when it comes to men like this? Should I ask him for £5k instead  ???

I think it would be a very wise idea for you shift your focus and follow your gut rather then focusing solely on the money. The bookings Ive had in the past e.g. where Ive made a heck of a lot in one booking were horrible. In hindsight I would never allow myself to go thru that experience again because I felt like crap afterwards - the money didnt feel rewarding in the slightest. Money comes and goes but your mental health is priceless!

If you dont enjoy your time with this guy, no amount of money is going to change that.  If you continue to accept bookings from men you dont have a good time with then it will take a toll on your mental health and you will start to resent the business (which by the sounds of it you already are)

If you do decide to go ahead, make sure you take a hefty deposit upfront: but from what you have described already he doesnt sound like someone I would want to see again. Im not in this business to feel like crap after a booking. If Im not having a good time for whatever reason then they end up on my block list!
« Last Edit: 11 September 2019, 07:19:47 am by Gracious »
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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #2 on: 11 September 2019, 07:15:58 am »
This guy sounds absolutely draining. The money is very tempting but no amount of money is worth you sacrificing your mental health. Other better opportunities will come along. Good luck xx
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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #3 on: 11 September 2019, 07:49:52 am »
If you do decide to go ahead, make sure you take a hefty deposit upfront: but from what you have described already he doesnt sound like someone I would want to see again.

He is on standby now with money for the air tickets plus 70% of the fee. You are quite right. I will just ignore him, think I am burning myself out seeing men who drain me. It's my own fault

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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #4 on: 11 September 2019, 08:22:41 am »
think I am burning myself out seeing men who drain me. It's my own fault

We have all been there at some point babe moreso when its quiet and our phone is getting dusty, LOL!

However little or many there are, there are always going to be men who we click with / have a good experience with. If you keep that in mind (and get into a routine of blocking men who dont make you feel good after a meet), your naturally going to change your mindset/feeling about the business/men and your mental health will improve for sure
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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #5 on: 11 September 2019, 08:48:42 am »
Is there a price you would be happy with? It doesn't sound like even the £5k would be enough.

How comfortable would you be taking the money, then ensuring that he never booked you again. Eating pot noodles in front of him, insisting on only listening to RnB cover versions by people who didn't win X-Factor, watching soap opera repeats, etc etc etc...
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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #6 on: 11 September 2019, 08:53:20 am »
We have all been there at some point babe moreso when its quiet and our phone is getting dusty, LOL!

However little or many there are, there are always going to be men who we click with / have a good experience with. If you keep that in mind (and get into a routine of blocking men who dont make you feel good after a meet), your naturally going to change your mindset/feeling about the business/men and your mental health will improve for sure

Thank you, such wise words. It makes sense.  It's not even THAT quiet. It's just that I am very greedy and the prospect of making almost half of my monthly target in a few hours really enticed me. But guess what, I would have taken a week off to recover from the mental anguish (forget the physical part, this guy finishes in 5mins and does 1 round) of being put down like I am some sub-human. NEVER AGAIN  8) ....I would rather see a few nice guys over a week to make that

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« Reply #7 on: 11 September 2019, 09:01:30 am »
Is there a price you would be happy with? It doesn't sound like even the £5k would be enough.

How comfortable would you be taking the money, then ensuring that he never booked you again. Eating pot noodles in front of him, insisting on only listening to RnB cover versions by people who didn't win X-Factor, watching soap opera repeats, etc etc etc...

Lol, I wish I had the guts. Just the sound of his voice makes my skin crawl. He is THAT obnoxious. This would surely wind him up though, last I spoke to him he was saying he would book a suite at the Ritz and I could order room service with "proper food"

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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #8 on: 11 September 2019, 09:49:29 am »
I would either get myself into a mindset where I could do it, or not do it at all - I have done the former I just have to put a very good professional 'I'm not letting you in' type state.

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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #9 on: 11 September 2019, 12:04:14 pm »
Yikes what a difficult situation. There's been so many times I have swallowed my pride and went into it but it definitely takes a mental drain. I guess it ultimately depends, if you say no you can always make it elsewhere, but I know that feeling, and I hate turning down money lol. Sounds snobby, maybe tell him not everyone came from a rich and privileged background lol. 
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« Reply #10 on: 11 September 2019, 12:14:15 pm »
Frozen fish is actually better than "fresh fish" it could have been caught over 20 days ago in the "fresh produce" isle at the shops. I'd have some smart ass retorts like this under my belt.  If you can be a smart arse actress then do it for the dosh & don't see him again. Drop some beats to Mozart & do him a little rap saying how great he is. If you are thinking of quitting you'll need to money if this your sole job.  You say it wont be a long time with him, 6 hours but it's over a weekend, sounds a bit contradictory but a bonus for the money. Be totally facetious in his company for revenge.  :P

If he's irritating you when your minds not in it though, you may not want to bother yourself. Especially if it has the potential to wind you up for weeks afterward.

I know how to handle narcissists but absolutely agree, they are extremely draining. Constantly need their ego buffering etc. If someone gives me the physical shuddering creeps/heebie jeebies & flags up in my mind for several days/weeks after, I wont see him again.

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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #11 on: 11 September 2019, 12:43:43 pm »
Huh, not earning 3.5k would be worse for my mental health than putting up with an insecure snob for 6 hours. Just saying...
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« Reply #12 on: 11 September 2019, 12:51:22 pm »
Frozen fish is actually better than "fresh fish" it could have been caught over 20 days ago in the "fresh produce" isle at the shops. I'd have some smart ass retorts like this under my belt.  If you can be a smart arse actress then do it for the dosh & don't see him again. Drop some beats to Mozart & do him a little rap saying how great he is. If you are thinking of quitting you'll need to money if this your sole job.  You say it wont be a long time with him, 6 hours but it's over a weekend, sounds a bit contradictory but a bonus for the money. Be totally facetious in his company for revenge.  :P

If he's irritating you when your minds not in it though, you may not want to bother yourself. Especially if it has the potential to wind you up for weeks afterward.

I know how to handle narcissists but absolutely agree, they are extremely draining. Constantly need their ego buffering etc. If someone gives me the physical shuddering creeps/heebie jeebies & flags up in my mind for several days/weeks after, I wont see him again.

This is exactly what I was thinking regarding the freshness of the fish lol, but I didn't even say it. I am not so witty, I'm intelligent by measure of IQ but I am very slow if that makes sense.  :FF   ....yes he asked me to quote him for the weekend but he has a demanding job (always on call) and then he can't stay overnight because of the wife, so I thought I could bear it for 6 hours but I guess not.

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Re: £3,500 for a few hours with a condescending prick
« Reply #13 on: 11 September 2019, 01:08:24 pm »
Take his money, play along  and laugh at him in your head. If he needs to pay to have someone sat and be his punchbag, it makes for a pathetic individual. Thankfully most punters aren’t that way...

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« Reply #14 on: 11 September 2019, 01:21:11 pm »
It's not even THAT quiet. It's just that I am very greedy and the prospect of making almost half of my monthly target in a few hours really enticed me.

Well at least you’re honest haha! I totally hear/resonate with you though!

We all have our own strengths and weaknesses and from looking at the most recent replies, I guess you need to weigh up your own. Personally speaking, I’m the type of person that internalises everything. I know myself well enough to know I wouldn’t be able to wing it for that long as I already have underlining mental health that affect me on a daily basis - and slow money for me is better then making loads of money from a bell end  ;D
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