Hey,
recently ive fallen out with my ex husband/ daughters dad which has recently resulted in me stopping contact and offering it through a contact centre but he is rejecting that offer and now going all out to get her taken away from me and into his care fulltime by taking me to court etc and playing very dirty.
But anyway, he has already said that he will use me being an escort against me... ive never actually went through with any bookings but it is something that ive advertised that I do and wouldn't mind doing but its been put on hold for awhile now.
He seems to think that ive been taking bookings when my daughter has been at home and has recently phoned the police saying I was sexually abused by a 'client' which didnt happened. the guy he is on about is a friend and the sex was a bit too rough one time which left me bruised up... all happened when she was at her dads, I wouldn't bring guys to the house for sex with daughter here. not that I have guys, friends or really anyone round often at all!!!

I mainly just do webcam work which he already knows about but I always keep home life and webcam separate. I obviously don't do cam around my daughter, normally just keeping it to every 2nd weekend when she's not here. i have currently stopped cam until this has been taken to court and sorted out.

i'm just wondering if any other mums on here have had problems with ex's or someone getting social workers involved?
What happened to you?
did you land up loosing your child/ren?

I'm just basically so scared that i'll loose my daughter and this arsehole of a guy gets main custody.

I let social work know what his main issues are and they had no concerns about webcam etc along with all the other officials ive been honest and open to about it all.

any advice or to hear your stories would be fantastic,
Thanks xx

Do a search for 'social child' - there are several threads on this as it's a typical threat used by ex's.

In this context, social workers' basic priority is 'best interest of the child'. Everyone else's basic rule is 'don't lie to social workers'. The two together should have a good ending for you, if it comes to it.

If you are a responsible parent & get your child to school on time etc you shouldn't have a problem.

Had dealings with social services on several occasions. One time after the local vice dept & their multiple agency team came out to my work venue & then then home. I had depression at the time too & all was fine. I had a nice support worker for a while from them. I told them everything, they hear it all & they'll always be a worse situation. Try not to get too worked up about it.

My ex knew what I was doing so I didn't have that crap to deal with but yeah these exes like to use it as a method of emotional manipulation out of sheer spite. Ignore him if possible & keep conversations about your child only. Which you probably do anyway.