I posted here last month about how I wanted to try escorting due to money issues my bf already has and I know will become a troublesome factor soon enough. We have a long distance relationship as of now and since he is not and won't be agreeable to any job I might want to take in the adult services industry I had the idea that I would dip my toe in it here at home where he'll never find out, and if I took to it try to make and save as much money here as possible. I went through Craigslist, I know that seems or probably is tacky and low rent but it was just a 'trial' thing for me and I didn't want to go through the hassle of an agency. I wanted to get a taste for what how it might be, DIY, you know? Which being a complete amateur I don't know if that was the right or wrong way to go about it. Anyhow I ended up going with 2 men - ended up 'choosing' them based on their responses, the tone and the tenor of it. The first guy was surprisingly attractive at least facially, looked fit under his clothes although when it came off not so in shape (which doesn't bother me as I've been with numerous older men before, sometimes pity fucks - and too nice to say no cause I didn't want to hurt their feelings, just went alone with it sort of thing) . Had a good time with him, he said he'd contact me again but haven't heard from him so far (I have to say I am a bit disappointed).

The 2nd guy when I saw him I was taken aback, he had a really bad lazy eye, it gave me a headache looking/talking to him because I couldn't tell what he was focusing on! He seemed and turned out to be a nice guy, but when he got to the hotel room after chatting in the bar and he took his jacket off I almost fainted. He smelled absolutely horrible - I NEVER noticed any odor before that, I can only assume somehow his jacket 'held' it in or something. I literally had to hold my breath at times and breath through my mouth it was that bad. The room and bed  and even myself stank of him, his odor - it was horrible. I didn't want to tell him to take a shower before I thought that would offend him, how are you supposed to handle a situation like that tactfully?

I'd still be okay about this whole thing - however one of the guys from CL who responded to me, I know it's someone from there because I recall the email addy, someone I sent a response to politely declining (looking back I guess if I am not interested in seeing someone best not to just respond) has been harassinng and sending me emails continuously, nothing threatening or sexual just telling me his daily goings on/about his day as if I were his girlfriend or wife - e.g. "I gotta see the judge today, looking forward to that, have a great day", "just got back from the vet, gonna fix some dinner," "just got back fromm the vet, gonna fix some dinner, anything good on TV tonight?" It/he is causing me a great deal of stress, I feel like I'm being stalked for a while I ignored him completely, then I sent him a couple stern emails telling him to stop but he kept at it, then I tried to through him off guard by being sweet and sexual, this guy responds right away as if he's a loser with nothing better to do, which he probably is. I want to get him off my back but looks like I might end up having to change my email! I never even met this guy and he's acting like this, good thing I never did meet him in person.

Help and advice - is this the way its supposed to be?

Hmm, for the most practical concerns first of all:

Stinky clients + tactfulness = a big waste of time, if what you mean by tactful is not saying anything. All, and I mean ALL, of my clients get in the shower before our appointment begins properly - I put a lovely, clean, folded towel in their hands and inform them that I'm just going to get their shower started and that they can get undressed in the bedroom and then I'll see them in a few minutes (i.e. after they have thoroughly scrubbed). So there isn't even a question about it! I recommend polishing up a routine like this as quickly as possible so you don't have to smell anymore BO (well, some clients manage to have a shower without doing their armpits or bumcracks but that's the subject of another thread. ). One thing that particularly annoys me is spending an hour washing and dressing meticulously for each client then right after the booking I have to wash and bloody blowdry my hair again because they gave me a mid-booking cuddle and my hair got in their armpit and now I've got their horrid BO lingering literally right next to my nose long after they've left. Ugh! Thanks for the gift, dood.

Responding to crazy/weirdo/stalker emails = another big no-no. Simply do not respond to anything he says. Definitely do not attempt to 'confuse' him by being 'sexual'! He is already very much confused and just dying to have you respond positively to him. Save his emails, just in case you want to report him to the police for harassment - in fact, you could seriously consider reporting him for harassment, but if he doesn't know anything about you except your email address, you might as well just ignore him. Please note this bit carefully: If you told him anything about yourself, such as where you live, work or visit regularly, you might need to seriously consider informing the police right now. If you do so, send him an email telling him he's been reported and might be visited by a member of the police force very shortly. He should quickly shut up.

The bigger question in your post seems to be whether or not sex work is something you enjoy doing. I have to say that smelly clients and creepy weirdos are, well, probably a weekly occurrence for the average full-time sex worker. I can't say you've had a particularly unusual experience. But nobody here can tell you whether or not sex work is right for you - more than anyone else in the world, we know that it's a personal choice. But one that should be made with plenty of research!

There are lots of questions to consider. Are you only looking for attractive clients? Is it anything to do with missing your boyfriend or craving freedom? Do you have other options for earning money that you could be looking into instead of or as well as sex work? Do you honestly feel comfortable being sexual with occasional unattractive, pungent men? Did you expect sex work to be more glamorous? And finally, are you absolutely mad, to be meeting strange men off a message board site with no safety buddy or security in place? (Forgive me if you did actually have a security arrangement - there wasn't one mentioned so I'm assuming. And I don't mean to sound harsh with these questions. It's absolutely nothing personal as I don't know you or your full situation. But I think these questions are important for any sex worker to consider before they start and to regularly re-consider, too! )

Most of all, I hope you're feeling okay and not too upset by your experiences. We all do impulsive things sometimes. I hope you'll look into getting a safety buddy for any future bookings that you decide to take - there's a great section here at SAAFE to check out! And of course we're all here to answer any other questions.

Firstly to deal with the prospect of a smelly client I politely insist that every client takes a shower and I then go in and talk to him whilst he does (some men like to stand as far from the water as possible so they dont get wet).

As for the email guy. Does your email not allow you to block him? I know yahoo, aol and hotmail all support this facility as does gmail etc. Do not respond. Do not open his mails. Get them sent to your junk folder if you cannot block him. Eventually he will realise he is wasting his time. Whilst you reply he is winning the game he has decided to play.

Once you find your feet and grow in confidence in your ability to deal with the idiots we sometimes have to put up with, things will go alot smoother.

Goodluck sweetie.

p.s are you sure that you will be ok once you meet up with your partner as this is a huge secret to keep from someone

One thing that particularly annoys me is spending an hour washing and dressing meticulously for each client then right after the booking I have to wash and bloody blowdry my hair again because they gave me a mid-booking cuddle and my hair got in their armpit and now I've got their horrid BO lingering literally right next to my nose long after they've left. Ugh! Thanks for the gift, dood

Emily Jones...you are just too funny. I think I laugh at just about everyone of your posts

craigslist is pretty low rent, and also seen as too dangerous by some. away.

Exactly, Now you see why Im having financial issues? Craigslist is numero uno here, and when I mention my more expensive site to craigslist clients...they've never heard of it. I occasionally get 1 or 2 who say, "I also seen you on..."

I cant speak for anyone else's cleaniless, but I have to disagree with the shower when they walk in routine. In additon to creating more laundry (for me) and use of natural resources (and energy) it sounds like a waste. Most clients (atleast here, not sure about there LOL) are showered prior. They'd probably look at me crazy if I handed them a towel and told them to wash up. In additon, some clients like to shower AFTER....when they are all covered in cum, why go thru the trouble of making them go twice.

I do get the occasional ones who rather shower beforehand, which is perfectly fine with me.

Some clients may have showered before but by the time they get to me they have either been sat on public transport or sat in their cars for a while and I am sorry but groins sweat alot as they tend to have at least two layers of clothing over them...URGGHHH

Ah, I think you're being too particular. I rarely run into sweaty groins and I live in a place that gets 100+ degrees.

Can?t really add to what has been said regarding advice, apart from you could also mark your emailpest as junk, so any of him messages go into that folder. Oh and search the forum for other threads about smelly clients, weirdos, etc. there is a lot of advice in those.

One thing that particularly annoys me is spending an hour washing and dressing meticulously for each client then right after the booking I have to wash and bloody blowdry my hair again because they gave me a mid-booking cuddle and my hair got in their armpit and now I've got their horrid BO lingering literally right next to my nose long after they've left. Ugh! Thanks for the gift, dood.

That is so true!

For my own peace of mind I insist on the shower. After all I cannot tell from looking at someone if they are fresh and sweet smelling and I dont want to find out when my head is in their nether regions. Sorry the smell of a stale pissy cock is not to my taste.

I always offer a shower before and after, but don?t always insist, however if I get whiff of something unpleasant I will suggest an assisted shower or politely point out that the journey to me has undone all their good work.
If we have progressed too far and as Emily says having a shower in situ doesn?t mean they remember to pull back the foreskin and use soap for their crack, I resort to the using too much lube and having to wipe off with baby wipes trick (thank you Anika). Baby wipe residue is maybe not the pleasantest taste, but it beats cock-cheese and turd-crumbs.

Some clients may have showered before but by the time they get to me they have either been sat on public transport or sat in their cars for a while and I am sorry but groins sweat alot as they tend to have at least two layers of clothing over them...URGGHHH

Some may think me disgusting, but fresh groin sweat can actually be quiet a turn on, it?s the stale stuff I can?t stomach.

I resort to the using too much lube and having to wipe off with baby wipes trick (thank you Anika).

I don't think you got that from me, but I'll be remembering it!

I don't insist on clients showering when they turn up (if they don't believe they need it they probably won't do any good in there anyway), but I strongly encourage them. If it's humid outside I say "you must need a shower", otherwise I ask if they need to wash and they usually ask if I think they do, so then I can establish whether they washed at home 10 minutes ago and arrived without rushing, or whether they were under the impression that showering that morning was good enough. It works well for incalls, but for outcalls it's still good to have some tricks.

If you do like bum play, wash your bum;

LOL, good one. I keep a pack of 4 of these under my bathroom sink, and in fact...I actually gave instructions to a guy on how to use one (I think he was too embarrassed to come see me again after that LOL)...OK, this is off topic but in America bum means someone living on the streets. Ass and butt means...what you sit on. How did they get mixed up?

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