Well that killed that one.

Here's my pennys worth.  I had thought about escorting for a long long time before i even started researching it so when i sat down and REALLY thought about it i had to work out why id not done it before and how would i do it and what were my options.  I did look at the sugar daddy sort of thing, too be honest i dont really understand the set up totally but i think that is partly because its a different set up for each 'couple'.

IF (and thats a massive IF) i ever did go down the Sugar Daddy route it would have to be with someone tht i had a genuine connection with but knew i would never fall in love with (as thats not part of the deal) so to me its way too dodgey and much more complicated than i would want to get in to.  I had a client recently who wanted a bit more than a GFE but not quite a sugar daddy thing and even that pissed me off so i doubt i could do it.

At least escorting you can walk away and not feel that you owe them anything or they owe you.  Im sticking with escorting.  Much easier.

As for the guys point of view.  google sugarbabes and you will see loads of sites wehre people are offering or wanting this 'service' and they write profiles like on dating sites stating what they are looking for.  Its pretty weird if you ask me but some of them offer explainations as to why its what they want.  Might give a bit of an idea.

Wow. A topic I can actually comment on.  As someone who has been in a few SD/SB (daddy/baby) relationships. Let me tell you, its a lot of fucking work (no pun intended  ). As some of you have said, yes-- lines get very blurred. And if all you're looking is the money, then honestly, why aren't you escorting? (This the question that lead me here) Many times the SD, can be super needy and intrude upon your life and in his right, he can because he provides all sorts of support. In short, for me it just wasn't worth it. But-- I do still have a man I keep in my life.

I wouldn't call him a daddy, but when we started out, we had an "arrangement". But he's a CEO in Australia and travels ALOT, but when he's back in the States he sees me and we hang out. But the relationship we have is WIDE open. He knows I date and do my thing, we even talk about it-swap advice, he actually has mentioned me to his family and I've met his colleagues (in a professional capacity) Yes, he gives me money and/or gifts. We go out together and its good fun.  (Spent New year's together, was bought a fabulous McQueen dress, and drank entirely too much Veuve and Belvedere). My best friend refers to him as my Mr. Big, she doesn't know how our relationship really started though. 

 We have a bond, and I certainly care for him quite deeply (not enough to foster a relationship, but who knows what could happen years from now) we make each other laugh and the sex is ridiculously good, almost criminal  But the sex isn't expected and neither is the money at this point. But he has said to me in the past, well i dont want someone who only wants me for my money, at the time I had a few drinks but the words rang in my head. I thought, well you twat I dont want you want me for my beauty, youth and tight p*ssy EITHER!!! 

The fact of the matter is there is too many emotions involved and they can "leave" whenever they choose, I feel they have more control, in various forms. For me it just wasn't worth it. I want my own life, money on my own terms. Not texts at 9 at night telling me you miss me so much while I'm at the bar getting chatted up by guys have your age 

Where I am "mutually beneficial relationships" are quite popular in America. I think it comes down to girls thinking "they dont want to fuck a guy for money" so this an appealing option. But its what it turns out to be anyway.

In another scenario, i met a guy who basically wanted to fuck around on his wife, hadn't had sex in a year "but still loved her", and he offered his "assistance". First of all he was too much of my type, i.e. good looking, stylish and works in fashion, smart, great body, HUGE COCK, Hot accent (Irish), genuinely adored black women.  I was already half way in the bag. See? There are those pesky emotions. Sex was never had, thankfully. I ended up cutting the entire thing off and deleting him from my bbm. (ended up losing my phone the day after i did, and didnt get it back for a week so he probably thought I changed my #. God works in mysterious ways)  Because I should NOT be having feelings for a married man, who gives me money. DUH!!  Obviously I'm still scolding myself for this. And obviously I still want him..... (shrug) His cock was..HUGE!

Urbane, you're quite right escorting is much more sensible. If i'm going to be a whore, at least I should be a proper one.

This thread has become very interesting.

I dont know of any studies but from observation, normal boyfriend/girlfriend realtionships can work between ex WG and client as long as both are honest in their intentions i.e. he isn't just after free sex with the ho other men have to pay for and she isn't purely looking for a way out of the business. .

The client turned sugar daddy thing. That seems to be something that sounds great on paper but the reality nearly always ends up a bit of a nightmare and usually at the fault of the ex client.

He usually starts off being openly generous which is what the relationship is clearly based on, then, over time he starts to want more and more for his money in terms of emotion. The WG still sees it as a business relationship but he starts to believe that as the WG can be nice to him for long periods and chooses to sleep with him for free (he begins to see it as free as he doesn't hand over the cash just at bedtime, more likely as a retainer) then he comes to the, very wrong, conclusion that she must love him. Oftentimes they wont directly admit that is what they think and so it manifests in the sort of texts mentioned above " missing you tonight" which translated means "I want to know what you are doing, talk to me not whoever else you may be with".

Then, while the WG is just getting on with her life, he starts to feel resentful and subtle hints begin to appear reminding said WG just how much he is paying her and how she needs to earn it. In short, invariable the sugar daddy will misread anything and everything and the WG then ends up feeling suffocated as opposed to liberated and that is too high a price to pay. When the sugar daddy is dumped, he is then left with the lonely realisation that money cant buy you love and what happens then can be very unpleasant.

I know of a girl who only dates "sugardaddies" she really isn't bothered who knows either! so vain about it!!

i'm fascinated by it though and my view is if the men are going to be silly enough to pay it then so be it!!