I have been doing the odd day in a parlour. i have done it  before but wasn't keen, but have swapped days when the older women ( 28-55) are on as opposed to 19 year olds.

I have discovered that nearly all the girls have a client that became a regular ,then became exclusive to that girl, then became a kind of "boyfriend/sugardaddy ish" set up . These guys pay out loads of money for flats/cars/kids school uniform, you name it. They still come into the parlour and pay to see the girl, the girls never have sex with then outside of the parlour ,but they will go shooping with them and lunch and the like.
The reason i have posted on academic /media is i wondered if any research/literature  had been written into this kind of relationship? I know when all those girls were killed a couple of years ago there were similar men interviewed  by the police as initial suspects who "hoped one day she will be mine" but basically it was just give , give, give. on the part of the men.
Some of the girls I have met at work have full time relationships/kids,etc and their partners know about the other source of income Some of the guys have families,but he majority don't and have never really had a proper girlfriend ,just paid . I don't want to go into to much detail but some of the stories are quite sad . I had an idea that some girls could spin this successfully,but i had no idea how common it was.   I find it fascinating .The relationship status has  probably got some proper psychical title ,but I just cant get my head round it.

   

Honest, its true.They have them coming in all the time, some of them just read the newspaper for a bit ,then go , then come back!.It wasn't deliberately aimed at me ,it was going on in the background,phone calls, chat about this flat ,this car. I said to the owner at the  end of the day  ,"whats the scene with all this "boyfriend/sugar daddie" thing?. She told me most of the girls had someone taking care of something.She a 55 year old woman and chilled ,she wouldn't make it up. If i hadn't seen the men in questions and spoken to the owner I would be thinking "yea , rite" ,but no!!

Exactly! but these girls have got it going on.They really do have enough to pay rent,kids stuff, car,but its all crocodile tears and a bit of ego massaging and bobs your uncle ?300 appears.
And its not just the youngsters pulling it off ,there are Woman of all ages at the parlour and they all have some level of decent support,whether regulars , sugar something, sad men,etc,etc,. These women are tough but brilliant actresses and obviously a great shag!

I won't debate the ethics of these situations but they are potentially dangerous, although perhaps not as dramatic as the Ipswich murders.  I once had an agent who got into similar situations with some of the agency girls and these relationships predictably failed.  Later I found several websites dedicated to slandering these girls, complete with face pics and personal information.  These set-ups attract some very unstable, suggestible fantasists who do not recognise lies when they hear them.  Just because the escort knows she is playing the client doesn't mean the client is aware of this.  THe inevitable end to these relationships will likely lead to hurt and resentment, which will result in more drama than anyone needs. 

but personally it would go against my principles and integrity. Entertaining men and having sex with them for money is one thing, but acting up to them, ego massaging and pouting to get something out of them is to me very exploitative and a tad demeaning and would be completely against my nature.

I completely agree with you. I saw a client recently who was in his mid 50's -so quite a bit older than me - and I think he was looking for this kind of relationship from me.  He said something about him being my daddy and was sort of looking for me to act up to it but not in a sexual way... he was more hinting about my personal life and it made me really uncomfortable.  It felt like he thought i was a vulnerable little girl who needs looking after which is the total opposite of what I am.

I find men like this hard to take.. the fact that they want to push the boundary line to outwith the bedroom doesnt sit well with me....

xxx

I was interested to understand more from the male point of view how/why this area had developed.

Maybe you would be better posting this on a punter based forum to get the male perspective, because I feel on safe there are very few men that will post and the clients that read this forum are mainly lurkers.

As for GFE, personally I think there is a huge difference between a sugar daddy relationship and GFE.
I advertise an excellent GFE and to me that means offering the gentleman the perfect companion, being charming, interesting, flirtatious and entertaining as well as sexually willing and as adventurous as he wants to be (within reason). Basically ensuring for the time he is with me he is the centre of my universe. If he wants to take me out in the frame of the working agreement lovely, but not essential, gifts of any sort are accepted with genuine delight, but certainly not expected. Since I enjoy meeting and interacting with people, love sex and am a pleaser by character, I don't find this difficult and genuinely enjoy the encounters.

A sugar daddy is taking that relationship a step further, I'd expect to be at his beck and call all the time in exchange for making him feel good for buying things for me. i couldn't do that and respect myself the next day, sorry.

And a boyfriend is an entirely different matter, this is the guy who gets to see you warts and all, he knows what you look like when you are full of the cold with tissues stuffed up your nose to stop it dripping, endures being snapped at when you are in a bad mood, shares your triumphs, supports you and asks you for the same. A partner you can share all aspects of life with.

Ok,ok, sory LD,
I wasn't having a go I was just saying what I think, but I think now I am REALLY confused.

After your first post about regular clients who see the wg outside of their work frame and pay for the girls rent, etc - we seemed to established that we were talking about sugar daddies, but later you seem to be talking about GFE, so it is easy to assume you see them as the same.

Also I quoted you in my previous post saying
"I was interested to understand more from the male point of view how/why this area had developed."


Sorry, but how can you get the male point of view by asking women.

Never mind, lol, mea culpa - I'm just totally confused, so will step back and see what others have to say.
No probs.
 


 

Okey dokey LD,

I'm following now  - and I still have to step back as I haven't done any research on those topics and am to new to comment from experience, would be interested in the replies myself.

hugs xx