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losthope

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I'm not sure if this has been covered already, (sorry in advance if it has) but lately I have been thinking a lot about giving up, this was only meant to be a temporary solution to get me out of debt and to fit in with my anxiety and depression and whatever other issues prevent me from doing a normal 9-5 without being sacked or quitting.  I'm finding myself getting more and more anxious and depressed for longer periods of time and then having to thrash out work whilst Im feeling better to play catch up. I keep thinking I need to do a good 6 month stint of work with an action plan and business idea and just get out of this altogether, before I started I had anxiety and depression for years and its always affected my work sooner or later, this idea came when I was about to lose my house and was thousands in debt and I faced either bankruptcy or paying off my debt. So I decided to pay it off. The thing is my anxiety and depression has got worse, my life is almost stagnant, I don't see my friends anymore, I'm constantly worrying my family will find out what I do and I think this added to the pressure of answering the phone to Timewasters and never knowing if I'm going to get attacked or even murdered is making my nerves bad. I need some inspirational ideas, or even just to hear others plans or dreams what they would like to do when giving up this. I know I could never go back to working for someone else after this, its never worked longer than 4 years a time  in the past so I definately need to do something that will be profitable and enjoyable. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy my work, I see lovely clients and if my family knew what I did and I didn't feel in danger I would carry on for as long as I possible,  just at this point I know its time to make a deadline to stop and need inspirational ideas and thoughts ?

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I'm not sure if this has been covered already, (sorry in advance if it has) but lately I have been thinking a lot about giving up, this was only meant to be a temporary solution to get me out of debt and to fit in with my anxiety and depression and whatever other issues prevent me from doing a normal 9-5 without being sacked or quitting.  I'm finding myself getting more and more anxious and depressed for longer periods of time and then having to thrash out work whilst Im feeling better to play catch up. I keep thinking I need to do a good 6 month stint of work with an action plan and business idea and just get out of this altogether, before I started I had anxiety and depression for years and its always affected my work sooner or later, this idea came when I was about to lose my house and was thousands in debt and I faced either bankruptcy or paying off my debt. So I decided to pay it off. The thing is my anxiety and depression has got worse, my life is almost stagnant, I don't see my friends anymore, I'm constantly worrying my family will find out what I do and I think this added to the pressure of answering the phone to Timewasters and never knowing if I'm going to get attacked or even murdered is making my nerves bad. I need some inspirational ideas, or even just to hear others plans or dreams what they would like to do when giving up this. I know I could never go back to working for someone else after this, its never worked longer than 4 years a time  in the past so I definately need to do something that will be profitable and enjoyable. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy my work, I see lovely clients and if my family knew what I did and I didn't feel in danger I would carry on for as long as I possible,  just at this point I know its time to make a deadline to stop and need inspirational ideas and thoughts ?


This could be me as well apart from I have the civvy job. I suppose I am lucky though as I do enjoy it and I have the qualifications to do the job for life.

I'm not sure about a future plan but a friend started doing dog and cat sitting and walking a few years ago and has been really successful.

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Meant to add. Thoughts are with you. Its not easy constant outing / debt worry no matter how much you enjoy the job. Best wishes 

SheilaStar

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Taking some time off sounds like a good idea.

Dreams after this... enjoy the simple things in life to the max. Travel, maybe build my own business, get a small retreat somewhere quiet, scenic with good weather. Spend holidays there. Perhaps write something. Leave something behind. Not necessarily something material, do something good for someone's life. Make my own family even if it is just a partner. Enjoy life. Laugh, love, live.

The other week MD posted something . She spent time with her friend. He helped her write her cv, massaged her feet, made her tea, collected her glasses. They had a chat and a laugh. That's so romantic and perfect. That's my dream.

Kay

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How about doing an evening class one night a week, to meet some new people?

Or taking out one day a week to do some volunteering, perhaps in a charity shop, or with animals or something?

Or do an Open University degree or some other qualification?

Or a little part-time job?
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losthope

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This could be me as well apart from I have the civvy job. I suppose I am lucky though as I do enjoy it and I have the qualifications to do the job for life.

I'm not sure about a future plan but a friend started doing dog and cat sitting and walking a few years ago and has been really successful.

I did used to enjoy my old job, it was high pressure which I guess triggerred my anxiety (doesnt take much) I am great for ages then suddenly anxiety kicks in and I crumble and become unable to do anything, financially I cant afford to go back into a normal job because its time off that messes me up, when I can't go to work for a few months it just deteriorates rapidly :-[ which is why this industry has suited the financial side of things.  You know its funny because an escort that I know she wants to do the dog and cat grooming thing.

losthope

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Taking some time off sounds like a good idea.

Dreams after this... enjoy the simple things in life to the max. Travel, maybe build my own business, get a small retreat somewhere quiet, scenic with good weather. Spend holidays there. Perhaps write something. Leave something behind. Not necessarily something material, do something good for someone's life. Make my own family even if it is just a partner. Enjoy life. Laugh, love, live.

The other week MD posted something . She spent time with her friend. He helped her write her cv, massaged her feet, made her tea, collected her glasses. They had a chat and a laugh. That's so romantic and perfect. That's my dream.

I take too much time off  :-[      But I defiantly needed to hear the inspirations, sounds fab, I'm picturing somewhere nice and warm reading it looool

losthope

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How about doing an evening class one night a week, to meet some new people?

Or taking out one day a week to do some volunteering, perhaps in a charity shop, or with animals or something?

Or do an Open University degree or some other qualification?

Or a little part-time job?

Open university sounds like a good idea, I suppose that is something that I could actually do now, whilst still working and just do it in between bookings, I would go back to volunteering with youth but I dont think its the ideal time for me to do that with my line of work, knowing my luck it would all go terribly wrong. I am defiantly going to look at open uni courses over the weekend, great idea Kay

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Open university sounds like a good idea, I suppose that is something that I could actually do now, whilst still working and just do it in between bookings, I would go back to volunteering with youth but I dont think its the ideal time for me to do that with my line of work, knowing my luck it would all go terribly wrong. I am defiantly going to look at open uni courses over the weekend, great idea Kay
I went back to study last year and it's the best thing I've ever done. I suffer badly with anxiety and go through spells of depression but going back to study has seen my anxiety lessen, boosted my confidence and sense of self worth. Not only that, I have an amazing support network with lecturers and new found friends. I'm probably the only student who is sad to be off for summer!

Leilaa

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This job alone can get lolney  esp when your spending alot of time In hotels or inside. Not good for your sanity. Luckily I have another job so it keeps me sane and in touch with normality. Try doing some evening classes or make a hobby into a little part time business.

My inspiration are:
An amazing expensive wardrobe (Yes I'm shallow 😁)
Valentinos in every colour
A few more pairs of Loubs
A Rolex
And the list  goes on....

Haha jokes aside I'm saving up to buy my own house and start a little business which I can run from home. I would like to retire in a few years time without the worry of a mortgage.
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meetingdiversity

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Get a job, join meetup.com then let the rest flow.

lillybliss

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I have a career as well but am leaving that soon, I am building an online business and I make things, so I only plan on escorting for another couple of years hopefully, I love it but can't deal with all the tw's and all the other shizzle that comes with it.

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Get a job, join meetup.com then let the rest flow.

Yes, Meetup can be a great way to meet new people and do things you enjoy. It's a worldwide organisation where people start a group for lets say social activities(ie: nights out, walks, meals, festivals etc) gig buddy group, French language group for a small monthly fee, they are the organiser and can charge their own fees if they like and others join along the way.  There may even be a depression/anxiety support group in your area hun.  It's nice to have something to go to after you quit.  Think about what you are good at.  I too have though about pet sitting.  good luck with all your endeavours  :) mental health issues.

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I am saving up to buy property. I already have my own place and a flat I let out, but my next dream is to become a full time landlady  :)
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I am saving up to buy property. I already have my own place and a flat I let out, but my next dream is to become a full time landlady  :)



That's really awesome Gypsy.. me too hopefully one day x