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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #300 on: 24 December 2017, 02:19:13 pm »
I really cant see how saying you wont date a client is a double standard, nor does it mean you consider men who pay for sex bad. For the escort it is a job mostly, for the client however it is a hobby, and an addictive one so I can understand why someone wouldnt want to date a client.

There are probably all types of jobs where people wouldnt date others in the same job line as them, its not a double standard, its more likely that you know what comes with the job & experiences you have had may have helped with your choice.

I dated a client once and it turned out he was scum, thankfully it was only 6 months. It completely put me off doing it again. Any client who attempts to talk about chemistry or dating will go in my blacklist now. I wouldnt 100% rule it out, since things happen. 
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #301 on: 24 December 2017, 02:31:32 pm »
I dated a client once and it turned out he was scum, thankfully it was only 6 months. It completely put me off doing it again. Any client who attempts to talk about chemistry or dating will go in my blacklist now. I wouldnt 100% rule it out, since things happen.

Sounds to me like the only time you opened your heart to a client you had a bad experience so I don't blame you at all for not wanting to do it again. I personally believe that behind all of these "I don't date clients" policies lies a broken heart and a bad experience (or two) so I don't blame you for wanting to protect yourself. But do keep in mind that women have found good partners with men that started as clients (it's not the norm, I know).

(By the way your friend sounds like she's in quite an unhealthy relashionship and the guy a controling freak)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #302 on: 24 December 2017, 05:33:08 pm »
Sounds to me like the only time you opened your heart to a client you had a bad experience so I don't blame you at all for not wanting to do it again. I personally believe that behind all of these "I don't date clients" policies lies a broken heart and a bad experience (or two) so I don't blame you for wanting to protect yourself. But do keep in mind that women have found good partners with men that started as clients (it's not the norm, I know).

(By the way your friend sounds like she's in quite an unhealthy relashionship and the guy a controling freak)

I don't date clients not because I have a broken heart. Speak for yourself. I don't date clients cuz I don't find them attractive. Plain and simple. Nothing more, nothing less. But seeing as you want to read a lot into things. Allow me to do the same.  Seems to me like you are emotionally needy Ana. Comes off as though you are reliant on any man. Paying you or not to satisfy your huge emotional needs. This is how you end up settling for less, cuz you will just lean on any man for emotional fondling or to fill some hole in your life. Some of us are strong enough to stand on our own and willing to wait for the right person, and for some of us, the right person isn't a man who paid us to lick his balls, it doesn't mean we are cold or heart broken. Perhaps it's called having a type? And Men who pay for sex aren't my type. Does that mean I have some underlying relationship trust issues then? You remind me of the clients who think that girls who do this job have either been sexually abused or have daddy issues ::)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #303 on: 24 December 2017, 05:39:57 pm »
I have twice met a client that would have been perfect for me. Both times it was very obvious that we have a special connection and I am not the kind of girl that is easily smitten or impressed. However I did not act on it and on top decided not to see them again.

I don't show my face and this whole part of my life is a secret to everybody. So when the day comes that I eventually walk away from this job I will close the door on it and it'll be like it never happened. Dating a man that I met through this is far more likely to bring me problems and get me exposed and I choose not to take that risk.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #304 on: 24 December 2017, 06:00:53 pm »
I don't date clients not because I have a broken heart. Speak for yourself. I don't date clients cuz I don't find them attractive. Plain and simple. Nothing more, nothing less. But seeing as you want to read a lot into things. Allow me to do the same.  Seems to me like you are emotionally needy Ana. Comes off as though you are reliant on any man. Paying you or not to satisfy your huge emotional needs. This is how you end up settling for less, cuz you will just lean on any man for emotional fondling or to fill some hole in your life. Some of us are strong enough to stand on our own and willing to wait for the right person, and for some of us, the right person isn't a man who paid us to lick his balls, it doesn't mean we are cold or heart broken. Perhaps it's called having a type? And Men who pay for sex aren't my type. Does that mean I have some underlying relationship trust issues then? You remind me of the clients who think that girls who do this job have either been sexually abused or have daddy issues ::)

Not really. I've been happily single for a long time, actually I've been single more than I've been with a partner during my whole life truth is, and that's totally fine because I don't need a man to make me happy (I'm pretty good at doing that for myself). Of course I do have emotional needs just like you and everyone here, problem is  I'm quite picky when it comes to being in a relationship. He either contributes to my happiness and wellbeing or it's not going to happen. I simply refuse to be in a bad relationship because life is too short. I'm financially independent so I don't need to put up with anyone's BS in my personal life. Of course I'm open for the right person to come along. However if that doesn't happen life is good. Of course I do have my flaws though, but being desperate and reliant on a man? Nah.. that's definately not one of them. I do have some very attractive and decent folks as clients though ;)
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #305 on: 24 December 2017, 06:12:02 pm »
I don't date clients not because I have a broken heart. Speak for yourself. I don't date clients cuz I don't find them attractive. Plain and simple. Nothing more, nothing less. But seeing as you want to read a lot into things.

I'm quite neutral on the subject.  If there's a very wealthy man (likely with loads of assets and cash), who fell for an escort (money-conscious as we are) and he would be smitten etc, I would say, most women would consider the offer, seriously, be it civvie or escort ladies.   The reality is, he may not be as good looking as Hollywood actors (someone else aptly mentioned earlier), he's more likely wrinkly, creased up, droopy, saggy ass, much older (I'm getting older myself and I know we all sag at some point), but likely a good father figure, offering fatherly care, support and guidance, with a heart of gold. I should think women would seriously consider the long-term prospect with a guy like that.

Lots of posts/threads on "falling for punters" are all about hopping in bed together and had great sex/infatuation, not much about "real stuff".  We all grow old, get ill, need support etc.  A "sexy hunk" wouldn't look at you twice if you're no longer a sexy thing.  They might if you have something to offer, but someone who looks at you as a sex kitten to get his rock off wouldn't suddenly consider the same lady as a long-term prospect.   

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #306 on: 27 December 2017, 05:57:28 pm »
I'd definitely marry some old rich guy if he left me all his money don't care how ugly  😂 Can dream anyway.

I'm quite neutral on the subject.  If there's a very wealthy man (likely with loads of assets and cash), who fell for an escort (money-conscious as we are) and he would be smitten etc, I would say, most women would consider the offer, seriously, be it civvie or escort ladies.   The reality is, he may not be as good looking as Hollywood actors (someone else aptly mentioned earlier), he's more likely wrinkly, creased up, droopy, saggy ass, much older (I'm getting older myself and I know we all sag at some point), but likely a good father figure, offering fatherly care, support and guidance, with a heart of gold. I should think women would seriously consider the long-term prospect with a guy like that.

Lots of posts/threads on "falling for punters" are all about hopping in bed together and had great sex/infatuation, not much about "real stuff".  We all grow old, get ill, need support etc.  A "sexy hunk" wouldn't look at you twice if you're no longer a sexy thing.  They might if you have something to offer, but someone who looks at you as a sex kitten to get his rock off wouldn't suddenly consider the same lady as a long-term prospect.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #307 on: 13 January 2018, 10:55:41 am »
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« Reply #308 on: 13 January 2018, 11:01:00 am »

Sounds like a classic freebie hunter. Paid one time and think you would be naive enough to be taken advantage of. Asking him to keep a secret and be worthy of dating him puts you in a vulnerable position, giving it away without him even convincing you, it looks really bad. As vc said run for the hills.
Sorry hun, he doesn?t seem like a bf material at all. Xx
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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #309 on: 17 January 2018, 03:34:47 pm »
I have a client who has really fallen for me and wants a relationship. I have feelings for him too and been seeing me almost a year now.
He sees me weekly so is a good source of income for me and cannot afford to lose this regular income.
So not sure how this could work.
Was thinking to suggest we could give it a go if he pays me a monthly allowance so more like a sugar daddy agreement.
I guess we are both lonely but love each other's company.
Would appreciate any feedback if you have done this or come up with other suggestions.

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #310 on: 17 January 2018, 04:09:29 pm »
I have a client who has really fallen for me and wants a relationship. I have feelings for him too and been seeing me almost a year now.


He sees me weekly so is a good source of income for me and cannot afford to lose this regular income.
So not sure how this could work.
Was thinking to suggest we could give it a go if he pays me a monthly allowance so more like a sugar daddy agreement.
I guess we are both lonely but love each other's company.
Would appreciate any feedback if you have done this or come up with other suggestions.

If he still has to pay you per month like an arrangement then that is not really a relationship is it?
If he could afford to pay you and you quit work just for him that is a bit different.

Sounds like you do not want to lose the weekly money so not sure if you actually really want a relationship with him anyway?

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #311 on: 17 January 2018, 04:10:14 pm »
I have a client who has really fallen for me and wants a relationship. I have feelings for him too and
So not sure how this could work
Was thinking to suggest we could give it a go if he pays me a monthly allowance so more like a sugar daddy agreement.


Yes, it's definitely a form of denial going on.

It's a little like, figuring out how to turn a baseball ball into a cricket ball? ???

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #312 on: 17 January 2018, 04:14:04 pm »
Sounds like you do not want to lose the weekly money so not sure if you actually really want a relationship with him anyway?

Plus, the relationship is not the same as having a weekly shag and having a little chat afterwards....  No payment, no love by the sound of it.   ;D

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Re: Dating a customer
« Reply #313 on: 17 January 2018, 04:23:43 pm »
I'm caught in two minds. My aim is to leave this business this year and start my own business non escort related. The sooner I have the capital the sooner I can quit and intend to keep seeing him.
He wants things to progress quicker. We text and chat a lot which I don't do with other clients plus he gets other privileges too.