Dating a customer

[English Green]

Just spoke with him. He has met lots of hookers --- he has confirmed he has asked to date them

I also had a client years ago that i got on with he was nice and new to this he wanted to date me but he said his wages were not the same as mine but he could try to help me if i gave it up as he would find it hard to be with me knowing i am fucking men for money and could only put up with it for a bit as he was uncomfortable with a gf of his doing this. I did like him but at the time i was earning good money and did not want to give it up so eventually we went our own way but he was a genuine guy and we kept in touch on and off for few years.

[English Green]

Truth is there is a couple of good guys who do visit us and could make a good boyfriend but there is a fair few who get off on turning a sex worker into a freebie so they do not need to pay happens all the time. There is some that only date escorts and actively look for that.

[KittenCandy]

Truth is there is a couple of good guys who do visit us and could make a good boyfriend but there is a fair few who get off on turning a sex worker into a freebie so they do not need to pay happens all the time. There is some that only date escorts and actively look for that.

Yh have had few men say to me they ONLY ever date escorts. Why they feel the need to tell me this, I have no clue none of my clients are boyfriend material though lol. 

[Umrao]

I've always found this line of thinking quite sad because it reflects a deep rejection of what you do for a living that translates in  low self-steem: "I don't deserved to be loved because of what I do, no man in his right frame of mind would want me, Once I find a decent way of living I'll find the right man etc... There's a lot of "self'sabotage" with that line of thinking. It's like that Groucho Marx quote: "I refuse to join a club that would have me as a member"  (sans the irony).

I understand that being an escort you're a wee tired when you get home because you're tired of entertaining men but to close yourself that much emotionally? or shutting yourself to the possibility of affection? Life is short 

Dear Ana30 I think you have completely misunderstood my point. I have a lot of self worth and have no rejection issues what so ever. I enjoy loving and being loved and I adore entertaining gentlemen but under no circumstances would I ever date a client no matter how good looking they are or how much money they have. I have met some very eligible men but the minute they walk through that door they are out of the equation for me in terms of dating.

My life outside of this profession I cherish and whether a man I date sees escorts is neither here nor there for me as long as I don?t know and he hasn?t seen me that?s what counts. I do not want to live this life 24/7 and that is how I would feel if I dated a client.
 
Life is too short and for me dating a client would be selling myself short.

[ana30]

Dear Ana30 I think you have completely misunderstood my point. I have a lot of self worth and have no rejection issues what so ever. I enjoy loving and being loved and I adore entertaining gentlemen but under no circumstances would I ever date a client no matter how good looking they are or how much money they have. I have met some very eligible men but the minute they walk through that door they are out of the equation for me in terms of dating.

My life outside of this profession I cherish and whether a man I date sees escorts is neither here nor there for me as long as I don?t know and he hasn?t seen me that?s what counts. I do not want to live this life 24/7 and that is how I would feel if I dated a client.
 
Life is too short and for me dating a client would be selling myself short.

So you only date "civvie men" then? (sorry, just curious).

[Umrao]

So you only date "civvie men" then? (sorry, just curious).

If that?s what you call them then yes I only date ?civvie men?. I date anyone that has not not seen me as a WG

[Dolita]

I have/had a client who instantly felt that chemistry with. My age, similar background, shared kinks etc. Made for an amazing booking every time we met.

He then suggested he wanted to see more often but that "it would end up costing him a fortune" and could we come to some agreement? I thought he meant perhaps that he saw me twice every week and got a discount. What he did the next time he booked me, was instead offer me champagne as payment instead?

I just felt totally embarrassed and weird by it all and so stopped responding to his texts or attempts to book me. Eventually I told him that I couldn't believe he had basically booked me and then not paid.

He said it was because he no longer saw me as an WG and couldn't - saw me as more. Could we maybe try and just be not client and SP etc etc.

Basically, he just wants to fuck me for free. I am pretty sure he has and does do the same  with loads of other girls in my area. His MO seems to be to book once or twice... then express how much chemistry you have and could see it being more. I was almost tempted.. but in the end went with my gut and then heard he did similar with another girl. Because he is very good looking, charming, successful etc - he probably thinks we will all fall for his Richard Gere act.

I would never ever consider dating a client now. I just wont blur that personal and professional line ever again.

[English Green]

I have/had a client who instantly felt that chemistry with. My age, similar background, shared kinks etc. Made for an amazing booking every time we met.

He then suggested he wanted to see more often but that "it would end up costing him a fortune" and could we come to some agreement? I thought he meant perhaps that he saw me twice every week and got a discount. What he did the next time he booked me, was instead offer me champagne as payment instead?

I just felt totally embarrassed and weird by it all and so stopped responding to his texts or attempts to book me. Eventually I told him that I couldn't believe he had basically booked me and then not paid.

He said it was because he no longer saw me as an WG and couldn't - saw me as more. Could we maybe try and just be not client and SP etc etc.

Basically, he just wants to fuck me for free. I am pretty sure he has and does do the same  with loads of other girls in my area. His MO seems to be to book once or twice... then express how much chemistry you have and could see it being more. I was almost tempted.. but in the end went with my gut and then heard he did similar with another girl. Because he is very good looking, charming, successful etc - he probably thinks we will all fall for his Richard Gere act.

I would never ever consider dating a client now. I just wont blur that personal and professional line ever again.

That situation is a absolute piss take turning up with a bottle of plonk expecting you to fuck him for free without any proper conversation about how you both like each other and to maybe let him take you on a dinner date and see how you get on but no he goes 1 better and turns up for an appointment with no cash!!!

[Dolita]

That situation is a absolute piss take turning up with a bottle of plonk expecting you to fuck him for free without any proper conversation about how you both like each other and to maybe let him take you on a dinner date and see how you get on but no he goes 1 better and turns up for an appointment with no cash!!!

After I stopped feeling mortified about it, I was furious!

He still kept trying for months and months to see for a "date". I said so where would you take me on this date? His response "Oh I prefer if we just meet in a hotel like always - feels seedier." - Total wanker.

[English Green]

After I stopped feeling mortified about it, I was furious!

He still kept trying for months and months to see for a "date". I said so where would you take me on this date? His response "Oh I prefer if we just meet in a hotel like always - feels seedier." - Total wanker.

Yep total wanker just looking for the chase of free sex with a sex worker. The worst ones are the ones that are plain ugly unhygenic and full of themselves expecting to get it for free lol

[ana30]

After I stopped feeling mortified about it, I was furious!

He still kept trying for months and months to see for a "date". I said so where would you take me on this date? His response "Oh I prefer if we just meet in a hotel like always - feels seedier." - Total wanker.

He was definately not looking for love

[newlook5]

 

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[ana30]

Ladies. ...
I forgot to mention that he has been texting  June after we first met
He expressed interested in bondage, bisexuals, he likes cross dressing,watching other guys ride me.
He said a normal woman would run a mile from him. I've no interest in his sexual behaviour either.

He feels now that I know his secret and he knows mine everything good. Won't stop me being a hooker.

By the sounds of it this guy sounds more interested in finding sex buddy interested in sharing his kinky sex life more than a partner or love interest (of course I might be wrong as I'm just hearing a small part of the story).  Unless he takes you out on non sexual dates, talks about other stuff, shows other interests in you (besides sexual), talks about a future together and introduces you to his family I would personally not date this guy (just keep him as a client). If he insists on dating  I would have him take me out on dates where no sex is involved, find out of we have any common interests and develop a true friendship. If he doesn't want to have none of that then you know where this is heading (fuck buddy terroritory) 

[ana30]

If that?s what you call them then yes I only date ?civvie men?. I date anyone that has not not seen me as a WG

It's your choice and that's ok. But I hope your realize the double morality/standards. I'm refering to the: "I charge for sex and it's ok but men who pay for sex are bad" school of thinking that is common amongst escorts. It reminds me of the punters who see themselves as "holly" but secretly slut shame the women they pay. That ol' punter forum mentality: "It's ok I pay prostitutes but I would never have anything to do with one" or "It makes me a macho man to pay women for sex but taking my money turns her into a slut/bad girl" thereby enforcing the stigma attached to sex work. Double standards operating on both sides (punters and prostitutes).

[JustAnotherHooker]

I have a friend who is now shacked up with her ex customer and they appeared very happy, at first, although I do feel that the cash he gives her on a weekly basis, housekeeping money, helps as she couldn't handle this job at all and was drinking all the time to help her cope with it.  Although he is pretty controlling with her and now doesn't like her being friends with girls that work, which, if you ask me is damn cheeky of him, he's also very needy and goes in huffs all the time and I genuinely believe that she stays with him because of his money and the fact that she'd have to go back to work if he wasn't there, she has 3 kids and can't live off of a normal job now.


Personally I couldn't date a client, I just wouldn't be able to take him seriously, and I'd expect that he'd see me in the same light, and I'd always wonder what his true intentions towards me were.